Hi, I'm a 14 year old male...i had sex
with my girlfriend on wednesday night and
it hurt her (she had had sex once before
this)..but she still bled and felt a lot
of pain? she bled until yesterday...but
now some discharge stuff is coming
out...we used a condom and it was my first
time...she says the stuff coming out is
what comes out after a period...but she
isnt on or anything and wasnt when we had
sex
any help?
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Tylanas
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Re: Urgent Posted: 04-21-07 14:55pm
shecka
wrote:
Hi, I'm a 14 year old
male...i had sex with my girlfriend on
wednesday night and it hurt her (she had
had sex once before this)..but she still
bled and felt a lot of pain? she bled
until yesterday...but now some discharge
stuff is coming out...we used a condom and
it was my first time...she says the stuff
coming out is what comes out after a
period...but she isnt on or anything and
wasnt when we had sex
any help?
First, children shouldn't be having sex.
There is a boy on here only one year
younger than you who hasn't even reached
puberty yet!!
Secondly, there could be a lot of things
causing her discharge, but it sounds
mostly like it is due to the sexual
intercourse. If she is filling more than 2
pads an hour then she needs to go to a
doctor. If the bleeding dosn't subside
within a week or two, then she also needs
to go to the doctor.
My recomendation in the future is this:
Don't have sex. You're too young. I'd
suggest waiting until the legal age of
consent in your area. There's a lot that
you and she can do together that doesn't
involve your penis inside her vagina -
especially since it causes her pain!!
Until you both reach the age of legal
consent, you are raping each other
according to the law and if caught, you
will both be in a lot of trouble - but
probably mostly you, unfortunately. The
male is almost always blamed in these
cases.
You can still explore oral sex if you
really have a desire to have sexual
contact. But your girlfriend is not on
birth control as she should be in order to
prevent pregnancy, and condoms are not
effective unless used perfectly. I'm 22,
and even my fiancee and I don't always use
them right. But I'm also on the pill.
Your girlfriend is too young to risk
getting pregnant. A pregnancy would do
horrible things to her body and if she
didn't get an abortion, then birth would
be extremely dangerous. Am I trying to
scare you? Yes, I am.
Use mutual masturbation, discover 69-ing
(giving oral sex to each other at the same
time), maybe even use sex-toys (not that
you're even old enough to buy them!!).
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 04-21-07 15:06pm
I agree with eiri that you probably are
not ready for sex. You should know a lot
more about it before actually doing it.
All girls need to see an ob-gyn once they
become sexually active. You said she had
sex before you, so she should be seeing
one already. The bleeding is probably
just from a tear inside the vagina.
That's common since the vagina is so
delicate. It can tear easily without
people even realizing it. However, it
certainly would not hurt to have her ask
her ob-gyn about it. You might just need
to use lubrication in the future. That is
probably why she felt pain. That's why
you should know things before actually
doing it. Pain and bleeding can be
avoided in most cases if the two people
just know a little bit about reproductive
anatomy before jumping right into sex.
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