EllaRe96
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Joined: 22 Apr 2007
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Location: Johnstown, PA
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I Need to Talk.
Posted: 04-22-07 08:03am
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Is this a good place to come and get
things off of my chest when things are too
overwhelming? I have been having problems
lately and need someone to talk to. I
have a fiance, but I do not want him to
see me this way. 
Georgi
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catswold
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Location: Flint, Michigan
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Posted: 04-22-07 12:05pm
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Hi Georgi,
Yes, this can be a great place to download
from the stressors of life. You will get
a variety of replies and you remain
anonymous throughout. If you connect with
someone, private messaging is a choice. I
have personally found Internet support
sites to be an excellent resource to just
let it all out. Just be discerning as to
whom you take any particular advice from.
Remember, we are all just human. 
God bless...
Carol
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EllaRe96
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Joined: 22 Apr 2007
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Location: Johnstown, PA
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Posted: 04-22-07 22:32pm
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Thank you. I have gotten alot support
already and I have only joined this
morning. I hope I meet new friends here.
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cinderellaaa
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Location: LA
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Posted: 04-23-07 02:48am
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Bingo , u have a finacee too? same here,
lool
and i,m scared 2 death if he noticed the
syptoms of depression on me, i keep sayin
thats its just a bad mood. but i feel so
weak inside recently
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EllaRe96
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Joined: 22 Apr 2007
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Location: Johnstown, PA
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Posted: 04-23-07 21:17pm
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I either sleep all day or go days without
sleeping. I think I said this before, but
the stress of moving into my own home and
bills and dealing with weight issues, it
is starting to wear on me. I started
cutting myself again and I even thought
"All the bills would be gone for Steven
(my fiance) if I just offed myself right
now". That is sick. But please don't
think of me as a freak. They are just
thoughts. I wouldn't want to do that to
my fiance and family. 
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EllaRe96
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Location: Johnstown, PA
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Posted: 04-23-07 21:21pm
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as for the cutting, my fiance saw the ones
i did about a month ago. he threatened to
leave if i did it again, but he wouldn't
do that. he cares too much for me and i
am really lucky to have that. he trys to
help out as much as he can. i don't want
to worry him though. he has enough of
that with his job. i shouldn't add to
that.
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EllaRe96
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Joined: 22 Apr 2007
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Location: Johnstown, PA
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Posted: 04-23-07 21:24pm
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cinderellaaa, how do you cope with having
depression and a fiance? i really could
use some advice.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 04-23-07 21:28pm
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Relationships are built on communication.
The only thing you can do is be open and
honest about what is going on. You need
support and the person you love and who
loves you should be the person to help
you. If he truely loves you, as I'm sure
he does, he will be very supportive and
understanding. You may want to print out
some information on it so that he is
educated on the condition.
Remember that we are here for you too. If
you ever need to talk or vent just feel
post on here or pm me.
Are you on any antidepressants?
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cinderellaaa
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Location: LA
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Posted: 04-23-07 21:46pm
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but its so hard 2 tell my fiancee that i,m
depressed, the hours that i spent it with
him i try 2 hide all the syptoms of
depression, i try 2 draw a smile on my
face even without a specific reason, of
course i share him all my thoughts but i
leave that dark part of me 4 myself.. cant
tell him that i,m takin medicine, i
usually take tranqulilzers when i meet
him 2. 2 be nonstressed
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NWKC
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Joined: 21 Apr 2007
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Location: The States
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Re: I Need to Talk.
Posted: 04-24-07 02:16am
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| EllaRe96
wrote: | Is this a good place to come
and get things off of my chest when things
are too overwhelming? I have been having
problems lately and need someone to talk
to. I have a fiance, but I do not want
him to see me this way.
Georgi |
yes. and welcome to eHealth.
feel free to ask or open up to us with
whatever issue or problem that is on your
mind. we all will do our
best to help...there is no other reason
for us to be on here than to help people
out.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 04-24-07 08:34am
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| cinderellaaa
wrote: | | but its so hard 2 tell my
fiancee that i,m depressed, the hours that
i spent it with him i try 2 hide all the
syptoms of depression, i try 2 draw a
smile on my face even without a specific
reason, of course i share him all my
thoughts but i leave that dark part of me
4 myself.. cant tell him that i,m takin
medicine, i usually take tranqulilzers
when i meet him 2. 2 be
nonstressed |
I know that it is hard. But he may be hurt
by you not giving him the opportunity to
help. I know my husband would be crushed
if he thought that I couldn't go to him
with *any* concern. I'm definitely not
pushing you to do it. I just want you to
concider reaching out and letting him in
to this part of your life. It is much
easier to deal with when you have someone
there you know you can turn to for
support.
If you don't feel that your
antidepressants are working you should
speak to your doctor. What works for some
people will not always work for others.
There may be another medication that would
be better suited and help you better. That
can make everything easier to deal with.
You can always come here with any
problem/concern or just to vent.
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EllaRe96
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Joined: 22 Apr 2007
Posts: 11
Location: Johnstown, PA
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Posted: 04-24-07 12:46pm
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NWKC, thank you for the welcome.
I am not on any antidepressants, but I
have a drs appt tomorrow and I will talk
to him about this. I am just hoping he
doesn't want to ship me the hospital ASAP.
I know my fiance would be supportive, its
just that he sees me as this strong person
who could handle anything and I don't want
to let him down.
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san54
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Joined: 28 Dec 2003
Posts: 227
Location: Virginia
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Depression
Posted: 04-24-07 12:56pm
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Everyone get depressed now and then. You
should not be ashamed of being depressed.
And if he finds out and then leaves you
because of it, then he wasn't worth it.
If you let your feelings come out you will
feel better mentally and physcially. And
there is no harm in talking to a therapist
either. Talking to a stranger will help
you get things into perspective. Good luck
and if your bf loves you he will not care
what is wrong with you.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 04-24-07 13:30pm
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| EllaRe96
wrote: | NWKC, thank you for the
welcome.
I am not on any antidepressants, but I
have a drs appt tomorrow and I will talk
to him about this. I am just hoping he
doesn't want to ship me the hospital ASAP.
I know my fiance would be supportive, its
just that he sees me as this strong person
who could handle anything and I don't want
to let him
down. |
They will not ship you off the the
hospital. The only time they would do that
is if you were suicidal or posed as a
threat to someone else. It is important to
be honest with your doctor. They will be
able to help you best if they know
everything that is going on. He will not
judge you for your feelings so don't be
embarrassed. Let us know how the
appointment goes!
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ggjjkk
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Joined: 01 Apr 2007
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Posted: 04-25-07 01:14am
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This definetly a good place to talk about
how you feel and to be supported by others
who have felt that same, however I think
it is also important for you to seek out a
therapist to talk to. Though alot of us
here can give good advice that might be
helpful, we don't always know the whole
situation and sometimes we still haven't
come to grips with handeling our problems
ourselves. That is why it's important to
talk to a licenced professional. To find
out more information on therapy and where
and how to find a therapist, you can go to
http://goodtherapy.org . The website
is run by a group of councelors and
therapists who are devoted to helping and
healing. I hope you that you find someone
to talk to and begin the healing process
soon. Never be afraid to discuss your
feelings here either. If you ever want to
talk, this is the place.
Peace to you -
Greta
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Georgia59
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Posted: 04-25-07 12:13pm
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Your fiance should know that having
depression has nothing to do with you
being weak. If anything, you are a
stronger person because you have to deal
with this every day. It is not something
that you caused or chose.
In my opinion, he's going to find out
eventually, you can't hide it forever.
Perhaps seeking therapy as a couple so
that you two could talk about it with
someone who knows a lot and could help
explain it to him so he understands?
Just a thought.
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EllaRe96
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Joined: 22 Apr 2007
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Location: Johnstown, PA
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Posted: 04-28-07 21:39pm
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I have a little update. I am taking Xanax
for my depression. My dr says he doesn't
want me on anything stronger until I talk
to a therapist. He is going to make an
appt for me immediately, not only for the
depression, but also for the ED and
cutting. I told him everything and I
think that was the hardest thing I have
ever done. My fiance is behind me all the
way. I also told a close friend about my
problems and she had no idea what I was
going through. She is also behind me.
But my mom is in denial. I wish she could
see that her daughter is not as strong as
she taught me to be. I think she is
thinking she is being blamed or going to
get blamed for this, but I assured her
that it had nothing to do with her. I
will keep you guys posted on my progress,
that's if you want to know.
Thank you for the support from all of you.
Georgi
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catswold
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Location: Flint, Michigan
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Posted: 04-29-07 11:23am
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Georgi,
That is good news! Just great!! You are
much stronger than you give yourself
credit. Depression is a chemical
imbalance in our bodies and it takes a lot
of courage to battle it everyday. I'm
proud of you.
Xanax is a strong medication so be careful
to only take it as prescribed. Does he
have you taking it before going to bed?
It's great that you have an appointment
with a therapist. You will feel so much
better, believe me.
Your Mother is probably having a hard time
dealing just as you said. She brought up
a strong daughter. I'm sure that she's
hurting because her baby is hurting. She
loves you. Mother and daughter
relationships are very complicated. It
took me 52 years before I finally "felt"
love for my Mother. It feels so good.
Take one day at a time and please keep us
posted. I will keep you in my prayers.
God bless...
Carol
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sakeka23
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Posted: 04-30-07 15:36pm
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so many things are thrown at us as human
beings, but you can't let any of them get
you down, or you're just going to be
defeated
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Georgia59
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Posted: 05-01-07 12:27pm
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Good for you and I'm so glad that your
fiance is understanding. I know that can
be so important to have the people we love
understand us and be there for us when
we're going through rough times.
And remember, you are strong!! Depression
has nothing to do with not being strong.
It's a disease, just like any other
disease, you have to be even stronger to
live your day to day life than other
people. Don't let anyone tell you
different.
I hope therapy goes well for you.
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