Becky
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Posted: 04-23-07 04:37am
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ok so i haven't mentioned anything before
but i'm really angry now. after christmas
robbie (my new boyfriend) asked if he
could keep a few bags of his clothing at
my house whilst he got a bigger place.
well like an fool i said yes and he moved
all of his stuff in!
i could of said of no but i felt bad as he
had no where else to go and he promised me
he would have a new place by the next
month. well it is now the end of april and
he still hasn't got any where!  i'd only been
going out with him a month when he moved
it in!
he keeps saying he can't afford a deposit
but it's not really my problem as he would
have to get some where if he hadn't met
me. he is working and earning money and
has no other responsilities so there is no
reason why he can't save.
his stuff has completely filled up my
spare room and he has lots of bags piled
up in my hallway. my house looks a mess
and it's not even my stuff! i let him
store his things here under the agreement
it would be a month max.
i told him he has one week to get his
stuff out or i am binning it. it has got
to the point where i want him and his
stuff out.
any advice?
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Kia
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Posted: 04-23-07 04:49am
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did he move himself in as well?
if so then he has no reason (in his view)
to bother finding anywhere.
he has a roof, is fed, has some one to
pick up after him.
if you give him an ultimatum you have to
stick to it otherwise you will find
yourself in the same situation over and
over again with him.
onto UK law.
you can not prevent a person having access
to their belongings
you can not damage someones belongings (or
put them in a position that they might
become damaged)
you have to give a tennant (that's what he
would claim if it went to courts) at least
7 days notice in writing to vacate your
premises.
he is not required by law to vacate as he
can claim verbal agreement to live there
for an undefined period of time and/or
"squatters rights"
you then have to persue a court order for
him to vacate
if he does not vacate in the time allowed
on the court order then it has to go
higher and a warrant has to be issued to
remove him from your property.
sucks I know but remember UK law is about
protecting the wrong-doings and making
life hard for the innocent.
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Becky
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Posted: 04-23-07 05:01am
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thanks for the help kia! i didn't even
think about the law. lol.
yes he moved himself in too and you are
completely right that is why he is in no
rush to find somewhere. when i give him
writing how do i make sure it is viable
proof? (he may say he never recieved it
even if i keep a copy) i am giving him 7
days to move out.
would a text mesage with a report saying
it's delivered be proof?
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Posted: 04-23-07 05:30am
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Is he paying you rent, or room and board?
If he isn't, would he be considered a
tenant under the law?
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Posted: 04-23-07 05:32am
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he doesn't pay me any money. if i were to
leave his stuff in the street wouldn't it
just be his word against mine that he ever
did move in in the first place? couldn't i
just say he never lived here he just put
his stuff outside my door?
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Mommy35
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Posted: 04-23-07 05:48am
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That is what I would think. Maybe you
could make an anonymous call today and
ask, "if I let a friend store some stuff
at my home with the stipulation that it
would be gone in one month, and it's still
there what are my legal obligations to get
their belongings out of there"?
If it were me, I would send him a text and
maybe a certified letter saying you have
until this date to get your stuff out of
my place or it's going to be donated to a
local landfill, but I'm known for being a
bit blunt, so you may choose to be a bit
nicer.
Good luck with that. It goes to show that
being nice isn't always the best policy
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Becky
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Posted: 04-23-07 05:52am
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i sent him a text telling him i don't like
being used for a place to store his stuff.
he hasn't text back. i told him i am very
angry and want his stuff out in a week. he
told me he would have it all out before he
went to scotland (he comes back tomorrow
and has been gone a month!)
he hasn't been paying rent since after
christmas so he must of saved
enough money now for a deposit.
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Posted: 04-23-07 05:56am
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If he doesn't come get it tomorrow like he
said I would get rid of it.
You may want to check on your laws though,
it would be a shame to get in trouble.
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Posted: 04-23-07 06:03am
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he has to come back here tomorrow as he
has no place of his own and i really don't
want to see him. he has put me in an
awkward position as i have to have him
round my feet all the time and after
breaking up with neil i didn't want to
move in with another man, especially not
this soon.
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Kia
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Posted: 04-23-07 06:28am
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yes, it would be his word against yours
and you would be likely to lose - sad but
true.
no a text with delivery is not proof.
write the notice out in duplicate and have
him sign both copies - you do the
same.
I've actually been in this position - from
the other side (no, I didn't move in with
a woman lol but yeah I legally lived in my
landlords house without paying rent for
about 4 months and without a contract).
a tennant does not have to be paying
"rent" if it went to small claims court he
would just say he was contributing to
groceries and the like and that you had a
verbal agreement to do so - and they would
go with that.
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Posted: 04-23-07 06:45am
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sh*t. i'm so screwed. i just hope he plays
ball wih me. he supposedly loves me so
surely he would want me to be happy?
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Kia
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Posted: 04-23-07 07:16am
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that's what you will have to play on.
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Posted: 04-23-07 08:54am
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well he just rang and i told him how used
i feel. he started crying and said he
loves me and the kids more than anything
and he will do anything for me. i don;t
know if he was trying emotional blackmail
but i didn't let down.
i said that he has til next friday to find
a place or it's over. 
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Posted: 04-23-07 10:57am
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dont fall for it hunny. they always pull
out the tears and i so love you and kids
etc ect.
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