I Can't Take This Any Longer

keep trying stop whining

Hey don't get too down, don't get frustrated, use that energy to go out and find where people gather, you can meet/flirt with ladies anywhere! Grocery stores, coffee places, some nice bars, anywhere! Get involved in higher education (take some classes in something that interests you), tell your friends and family you're looking for a date.

Keep at it and you'll find someone .... unless you're sabatoging yourself, you gotta think about that too....would YOU date YOU (if you were a woman of course)?

Thanks for the replies. I posted in another forum because I thought that would be appropriate, but this forum is just as appropriate to voice my disappointment and concerns. Sometimes the bitterness and utter frustration of past failed attempts and seeing people succeed in an area that's elusive to me can become unbearable, yet it's comforting to know that there've been others who've experienced the same pain. I also mentioned the Boston Red Sox of baseball because I certainly feel like them. If you didn't know, they famously suffered an 86-year drought between World Series championships that had fans wondering if they would die before witnessing their team winning a World Series. I hope I ain't facing the prospect of eternal loneliness, meaning single all my life. That is just unacceptable, period. I've got great traits that might be appealling and I am not unattractive. But something has been holding me back. I suffer from asperger's syndrome and OCD, but I only consider asperger's 10% of the problem. Asperger's limits my social skills and makes simple tasks like reading people's body language seem easy to those without it, but it ain't the only reason my attempts have failed. I do not want a life of loneliness; that is the 2nd-worst thing to a terminal illness and is in itself a terminal illness if you knew you were incapable of having a relationship with somebody. These disappointments have made me question my capabilities, so if you can tell me how to handle that sort of thing, offer your advice.

First of all I am not an expert of aspergers but I work with children with autism so I think I can relate. I understand that you may not have the "quoted social skills" that everyone else has. but guess what? You are young and there is definately hope for you. I know exactly how you feel, everyone is getting married, having kids.. blah blah at your age. How long were your relationships? If you don't mind me asking.

Part of your problem may be that you are not at the right place at the right time. Thats really what it takes to meet someone.. You may not feel comfortable in a huge bar. I don't. And plus it is really hard to meet someone there.

I meet my boyfriend online. I would recommend it but its up to you. I really liked it because you can get to know someone and talk to see if your compatiable. I used yahoo. But there are a ton out there.

If you need anymore help or advice feel free to pm me.

Good luck

None of you have got the power of telling me if this stupid-ass loneliness will last a lifetime, but if it's terminal and beyond my control, I'd like to know so I can kill myself or wait for it to end. If it is to never end, then let me die.

I went to a social event last night and endured the worst first half of it. It got better when a couple of my friends arrived and made me feel better, but the thought of guys having it easier with women reminded me of the many capabilities that I lack and fear I'll never master. I'd love to one day possess these capabilities but if there isn't a way I can do that, I'd rather die. I hate it when other guys find it easier but for me, I'm an outsider. My lack of capabilities need to die so I can caca on them, puke on them, piss on them, and curse them so they can never return. I hate to be the one to call out unfairness, but when some guys get it easier and I'm among the ones who don't, what good is my life?

What good is my life if it will never include a sense of belonging and a significant other? What good is my life if it consists of lifelong struggles with girls? What good is my life if it'll remain this way despite my efforts to change it? What good is my life if my efforts of ridding myself of my lack of capabilities fail? What good is my life if it is to consist of this lack of capabilities?

Your life is worth a lot and to speak this way is only brining out negative within you and you could also be putting off a negative ora. No I am not going voodoo on you what I mean is people can sense when ones not positive and lets say a downer. Maybe girls having a feeling that your not out on the prowel. Are you speaking to women with confiedence? Are you giving the prowel eyes to women of interest? Or are you hiding in the corner behind your friends, staying away from the action of your surroundings? Are you waiting for the girls to approach you? You have to put yourself out there more. The social gather was a start get into more social gathers in your community such as game nights, dances, library functions, theater just some suggestions. If you ever just want to PM me for someone to talk to personaly I will talk to you and maybe I can give you some more helpful advice. Good luck.