I Hate Having An Inability to Make a Relationship Happen Posted: 04-24-07 03:07am
Being 23 and never having been in a
relationship is killing me!!! If you were
in my position, you'd pine for somebody
else's. I would rather die now than live a
full life of loneliness. I would rather
die now than live a full life of being
somebody that can't get into relationships
as easily as other people. Not only am I
sick and tired of this sort of thing, I
haven't got any answers for it. I am
hardly bad looking. I am rather tall at
6-1 but sort of skinny. I don't look too
bad and haven't got any skin problems.
Some would find it baffling that i've
struggled with girls so many years and
haven't been in a relationship. But the
truth is, even somebody who shares the
same name as me (matt motter), has had it
easier with a lot of things (he won two
volleyball championships in hs). As a
sports avid sports fan, I feel like
frickin boston red sox pre-2003 and
kansas's basketball team, which has had
many good seasons but hasn't won an ncaa
championship in 19 years.
Note: I am not suicidal, so please do not
take any of the statements that i've made
as suicidal statements. I am more than
sick and tired of being the victim of
failed relationship attempts (over 10 and
counting).
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NWKC
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Apr 2007 Posts: 134 Location: The States
Posted: 04-24-07 08:50am
please, don't post the same exact thread
multiple times.
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MisterOz
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Joined: 24 Apr 2007 Posts: 5
Posted: 04-24-07 11:29am
Sorry about that.
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The Godly One
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Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 76
Posted: 04-28-07 17:21pm
You sound sexually frustrated more than
anything else.
Simply have a good amount of sex, and then
get into relationships.
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Ivo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Holland
Posted: 05-03-07 14:20pm
Hey MisterOz,
I understand your bad feelings. It's easy
to say stop whining etcetera but it's hard
actually stop worrying about it. And 'stop
worrying' is so easy to say if you
actually have someone who cares about you.
I understand your bad feelings because I
have them too. I can't help you by saying
what to do or give you the answers to the
question of why. Simply because there are
no answers. I believe it's bad luck. But
please don't let this keep you from
trying. And with trying I mean taking the
opportunity to meet other people, women.
Then you might find the person who has
mutual feelings for you. But this is
something you can not force. That just has
to happen.
Then again, it's so frustrated to see it's
not happening. And for me more frustrating
to see many many others who succeed. I'm
sorry I can't help you but I wish you all
the best and I wanted to let you know
you're not alone.
All the best!
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pogoman1986
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2007 Posts: 6
Posted: 12-05-07 20:14pm
I got a comment for the one who says have
sex before relationship, A lot of times
especially at the age of 23, as I am 21
its harder to just find random sex
especially if you're a virgin like I, or
thats what I'd do for sure so basically
what I'm saying is do you have any tips
something I possibly haven't heard before?
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Whaturmuva
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Sep 2007 Posts: 105 Location: ,
Posted: 12-06-07 09:47am
Well you have yet to say how you approach
the opposite sex. You need to stop
worrying about how the rest of the world
is and just work for yourself now. If you
want a relationship then build up some
confidence and start talking to girls. I
didn't start my first relationship until a
month before I turned 20. Yes it bothered
me for a awhile, so I started trying. And
at the start it didn't work and I got down
some, but I realized the only one who can
do anything about it was me. So I kept
trying, and the more I tried the more I
realized how being in a relationship
wasn't really all that important to me, so
I started to not worry about it. And once
I stopped worrying about what I was
"missing" and how I was perceived.. I met
her. Because I stopped worrying about it I
was more confident, I let my good
qualities shine to the world.
Fast forward: Now I've been in a wonderful
relationship for over a year and
everything is good. I realized the only
thing holding me back was me, but honestly
I was glad I didn't find anyone, because
well... I'm in an amazing relationship now
and well anything different in my past
could have changed what I have now and
there is nothing I would do to let that
happen.
Stop worrying about being with someone,
get to know yourself first and be happy
with who you are... the confidence will
show (everyone wants a partner who is
confident with themselves... it's
attractive) and your good qualities will
show. Just be happy with who you are and
you will find yours where you least expect
it.
