Magical Logic
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Did I Do the Right Thing......
Posted: 04-24-07 10:50am
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my older daughter destiny was born with a
cleft lip and just this year kids have
been teasing her. my ex husband has told
me she has been coming home crying several
different times. they said they told the
teacher but it still keeps going on. and
my exhusband wife wont tell the principal
cause she dont think its that serious.
well i do think its serious. its already
to the point where she cant ride the
school bus cause kids are teasing her.so i
called the school today and let me them
know just how bad the teasing is. i know
someone people think oh well kids tease
each other but it just angers me 
to make things worse she fell off the
monkey bars on friday and busted her lip
and loosened some of her teeth. and had to
go see an oral surgeon yesterday and was
begging not to go to school today.i feel
so bad for her.
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Posted: 04-24-07 10:52am
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Aww...I think you did the right thing. How
could she not think it was serious?  If
it is to the point were she is coming home
in tears....its serious.
Have you looked into corrective surgery?
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Mommy35
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Posted: 04-24-07 10:54am
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I think calling the school was the right
thing to do. Kids can be so cruel.
It's nice if the school will address the
teasing without letting the kids or their
parents know that you complained.
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 04-24-07 10:56am
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she has had a couple of surgurys already
but she is suppose to have another one
which is just for cosmetic reason so the
dr in atlanta has been putting it off.
which my ex husband said he was gonna make
it a big deal that she needs it done
i think she dont think its serious cause
of the attitude kids will be kids and
teasing is apart of life.
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 04-24-07 10:58am
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the school said they was gonna talk to
.destiny. i did not let them know it was
my daughter i just said student.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 04-24-07 10:59am
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I think schools take it much more serious
than they used to. It's harassment now,
and kids are sent home for it, even in
younger grades.
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:01am
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Kids will be kids, and teasing is a part
of life. I agree. You will never be able
to stop teasing all together. But not when
it is effecting your child so severely.
You should at least *try* to stop some of
it. The teachers will not always hear what
is going on, so I'm sure it wont just
immediately stop. But if it isn't an all
day everyday occurance, that is an
improvement. I definitely think bring
attention to the problem was the way to
handle things.
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:06am
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When I am not on maternity disability, I
work in schools and a large part of my job
is counseling kids. Teasing has such an
impact on kids as you probably know. Not
only can teasing lead to social isolation
and/or cause the child to have some
emotional problems, it can greatly affect
academics. Teasing is a worse problem than
people think and other kids often tease so
adults won't see. The worst places for
teasing are often the bus and recess. I
would definitely talk with the school
about your concerns. Telling the
principal is the best thing you can do.
Just let them know you are VERY serious.
Also, tell the school counselor.
Counselors are pretty good at making sure
things like this are taken care.
In addition, I would ask the school
counselor if there are any friendship or
self esteem groups. Even if she has
friends right now and seems to have a good
self esteem, these groups will help her
maintain the good self esteem and feel
like she is connected with other kids and
not so alone.
Curious, how old is Destiny?
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:09am
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| chase4
wrote: | | the school said they was
gonna talk to .destiny. i did not let them
know it was my daughter i just said
student. |
I am sorry, I don't understand. You did or
didn't let them know your child was the
one being teased?
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:13am
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| ladylee70
wrote: | | chase4
wrote: | | the school said they was
gonna talk to .destiny. i did not let them
know it was my daughter i just said
student. |
I am sorry, I don't understand. You did or
didn't let them know your child was the
one being
teased? |
.Destiny is 7
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:19am
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I hate how mean kids are to each other
some times. It seems like if you say
something, then the child is teased even
more for being a "crybaby" or a "mamas
girl" or something. It most certainly is
not fair. Unfortuneately, grown-ups are
this way to each other a lot as well. Is
there a counselor she can speak with who
can give her the tools she needs to deal
with this teasing? I guess that would be
my main advice. Certainly asking the
school to bring up the subject of teasing
and bullying can help, but I think it is
more important to help your child solve
this on her own. This is easier said than
done, I know. Good luck with this.
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ladylee70
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:33am
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You can certainly tell the school your
concerns because it's your daughter. I get
plenty of phone calls from parents who are
not the primary custodial parent but have
visitation rights. When I have meetings
with parents, I usually invite the
noncustodial parent as well as long as
they can have contact with their child.
I would tell them who your child is
because they can't really do anything
without knowing who the child is first.
The staff will pay closer attention to
your child on the bus and in other
settings when they know it's happening to
your child. Staff are usually pretty good
at not making it obvious that the child or
parent complained about the teasing. I
wouldn't worry about that as much,
especially since your daughter is seven
years old. I wouldn't be surprised if
older kids and not her classmates are
picking on her on the bus and possibly
recess.
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:38am
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i told them her name and he said he would
talk to her to see whats going on.it's
kids not in her class that are picking on
her. my daughter is afraid to get these
kids in trouble is why she dont say
anything.
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:40am
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her step mom doesn't think it's that big
of a deal because it's not her
child, I bet you 100 bucks if it was her
child it'd be different.
teasing sucks, i've always been teased and
still am because i'm so quiet and... yeah.
I think going to the principal is a good
idea, maybe you can get her classes
changed.. if they have a few different
teachers for the same grade? I'm not sure
if they do that at your school. or maybe
she could switch schools? i did that quite
a few times lol
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:48am
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If it isn't the kids in her class then I'm
not sure exactly what they can do. But I'm
sure they can do something. Is it older
kids in her school?
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:49am
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most of the teasing is on the school bus.
but 2 kids in her class was teasing her.
one even kicked her hard enough to bruise
her.
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Posted: 04-24-07 11:52am
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hell no. i'd go to the principal
myself and make sure that never
happened again, maybe you could have a
meeting with that persons parents. teasing
is one thing but when it becomes physical
that's where itll stop.
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Posted: 04-24-07 12:00pm
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| HcoBrunette06
wrote: | | hell no. i'd go to
the principal myself and make sure
that never happened again, maybe you could
have a meeting with that persons parents.
teasing is one thing but when it becomes
physical that's where itll
stop. |
Ditto!
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Posted: 04-24-07 13:56pm
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I completely agree. If the school doesn't
do enough to stop this, they could be held
legally liable. It has already gone way to
far. Since it is your child, you have
every right to talk to the principal. I
think you are doing a great job at taking
this seriously. Again, talk with the
counselor as well.
Hang in there.
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 04-24-07 16:43pm
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well the principal did not talk to her
today told the bus driver to and in front
of all the kids she asked her who was
teasing her and whats been going on. this
just angers me more . i have
no legal rights to her so i really cant
just show up at the school and say
something but i am going to call again
tomorrow and talk to them again about
this.
something just has to be done about this.
i feel so bad cause i brought her in the
world and now she has to deal with these
problems at a young age.
her aunt and uncle and grandma will be
going up to the school to say something
about all the teasing.
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