Parenting Community Forum - Did I Do the Right Thing...... page 2

chase4 wrote:

well the principal did not talk to her today told the bus driver to and in front of all the kids she asked her who was teasing her and whats been going on. this just angers me more Evil or
Very Mad

. i have no legal rights to her so i really cant just show up at the school and say something but i am going to call again tomorrow and talk to them again about this.

something just has to be done about this. i feel so bad cause i brought her in the world and now she has to deal with these problems at a young age.

her aunt and uncle and grandma will be going up to the school to say something about all the teasing.

I am so sorry! I doubt the principal even knows what happened. I am sure if the principal did find out, he or she would not be very happy with the way it was handled. Most staff members would know better. This really has opened my eyes. When I come across a situation like this, I am going to make sure that it is handled correctly.

Please please call the counselor. You do have every right to call the counselor and request that she be seen. The counselor may need written permission from your ex husband if she or he is going to see your child for more then two or three times. I am worried about how this will affect her social and academically. If anything, the counselor is an additional preventative measure. He or she can teach your daughter how to handle the teasing and diffuse it in the future.

Again, I am so sorry this happened!! You sound like such a carrying mom! You actually can show up at the school and talk with the principal regardless. If you can't see your daughter and there is a court order stating that, then that's a different story. It really makes a difference when parents show up at the school.

I would personally request a conference with your ex husband, you, the principal, the counselor and the teacher (if it is possible). When things like this were brought up to me at my former schools, I would usually hold conference meetings with as many people involved in the students life as possible. It holds everyone accountable. At the end of the meeting, there is a usually an outline of who is to do what. For example, the principal would follow up with the bus driver and the counselor will provide one on one or small group counseling to focus on specific issues. The teacher would.....just giving you brief examples.

Unfortuntely, kids sometimes fall through the cracks when meetings aren't held. I actually held more meetings compared to most in my field because they are very helpful and they tend to get everyone on the same page.

Hang in there