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kaerbear
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Episiotomy Poll
Posted: 04-27-07 10:26am
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Re: Episiotomy Poll
Posted: 04-27-07 10:34am
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| kaerbear
wrote: | | I am curious about how often
this procedure gets done. I know some
doctor's do it routinely and some avoid it
if they can. I've read that first time
moms get them more often. I guess I'm
kinda freaked out by the idea but I'm
trying to prepare myself for any
eventuality. I guess in the end it's just
a small part of the whole event. Just
thought I'd ask some of the moms on here
and see what you have to say about
it. |
I refused an episiotomy. I didn't know how
large, or small, my daughter was going to
be. But regardless, I refused to be cut.
I, in a fit of anger (because this other
Dr. was saying she was going to have to do
an episiotomy) *dared* her to cut me. that
"I didn't have an epidural, and I *would*
walk out if she came close to me with that
blade."
It's your choice. The only time, I
believe, an episiotomy should be performed
is if the baby's heart rate is dropping
quickly.
You heal faster with tearing, as opposed
to being cut.
I only had 1 stitch. And if she would have
performed the episiotomy, I would have
*def* needed more.
Sarah
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Bridget
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Posted: 04-27-07 10:48am
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i ended up with an emergency c-section but
before that i had made it known that i
would rather tear naturally and they
should only cut me if it was entirely
necessary. i'd researched it a bit and
everything i found said you heal better
from a tear rather than a cut.
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Posted: 04-27-07 14:45pm
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(this is all based on what ive been told
or heard, i havent been through
labor/delivery yet)
not only is it easier and better to heal
from a tear but having an epesiatomy makes
a tear worse it doesnt stop you from
tearing
the instructor at my "childbirth class"
explained it like this...its like a shirt
thats too small...if you try to put it on
it will either stretch over your head or
the fabric will rip a little bit, but if
you cut your shirt to fit your head you
get a much worse rip in the fabric and if
you dont cut it enough then you get a bad
rip because the cut keeps on ripping
does that make any sence? the lady
explained it much much better
~alicia~
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Posted: 04-27-07 18:14pm
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it does make sense.
Dr.s tend to cut *too much*! Then you end
up with unecessary stitches.
It really depends on how much your Dr.
respects you and your decisions.
Sarah
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 04-27-07 18:25pm
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yep i got cut from the cooter to the
pooter!
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Bridget
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Posted: 04-27-07 18:43pm
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| chase4
wrote: | | yep i got cut from the
cooter to the
pooter! |
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kaerbear
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Posted: 04-27-07 19:40pm
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omg ...i haven't been able to uncross my
legs since I read that 
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Posted: 04-27-07 19:54pm
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If you plan to tear, let me give you a
piece of advice I wish .i'd known before I
gave birth.
Unless your baby's heartrate is dropping
or there are other signs that your baby is
in distress, do not allow the nurses
and/or doctor to rush you in pushing your
baby out. "pushpushpushpush" and "harder!"
are prime examples. If your child isn't in
immediate danger, there's no reason for
you to rush in pushing. The pressure of
your child's head being "right there" will
be hard to deal with, but it will also
allow your vagina to stretch and might
reduce your chances of tearing.
I tell you this because I pushed my
daughter out in 9 minutes when she had no
distress at all, and I tore wide open. My
tear did not heal correctly and the scar
tissue makes doing simple things, like
making love with my husband, difficult and
painful.
Just keep that in mind. 
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kaerbear
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Posted: 04-28-07 05:13am
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I know I keep mentioning this book,
honestly I don't sell them myself or
anything, but in the book birthing from
within they mention a lot of stuff they
don't tell you anywhere else. Like
pushing on your own and ignoring the
doctor and nurses telling you to
"pushpushpush". It makes sense now that
I've read it that you should be the one
deciding when to push and taking minimal
guidance from people who can't feel what
you're feeling. They also often make you
hold your breath and push for 10 seconds
at a time and in that book they say that
you should really only push for 5 seconds
or so most of the time because holding
your breath can cause you to lose oxygen
which is bad for the baby. I guess
midwives would know a lot of these things
and would also massage and stretch the
perineum while you are resting and
pushing. Before I read that I would have
assumed that I should only listen to the
doctor and push when they tell me to. Now
I feel a little more confident that maybe
I can go at my own pace if I feel like
pushing slower. I guess it's also
dependent on whether you have an epidural
or not and how numb you are down there
while pushing. Maybe that's why the
doctors feel like they have to tell you
when to push because a lot of women can't
feel what's going on during the pushing
stage(??). Which is just another reason
to try to go natural. I really wish I
could've gotten a midwife but there aren't
enough to go around where I live and they
are all booked up. I'm hoping that hiring
a doula will help give me that little
extra bit of strength and confidence that
I can do it without drugs (if I'm lucky
enough to have a choice in the matter.)
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kaerbear
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Posted: 04-28-07 05:18am
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My tear did not heal correctly and the
scar tissue makes doing simple things,
like making love with my husband,
difficult and painful
geez I'm sorry to hear that happened to
you. Is there some way you can have that
fixed?
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Posted: 04-28-07 10:01am
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you can do it drug free. Believe that.
it's something you do for yourself, and
for noone else.
It's the most rewarding feeling to know
that you did what your body was meant to
do for millions of years, without the aid
of medicne.
Once you make it past the transition
stage, you're rounding 3rd base. Once
you're pushing, think of it as sliding
into home plate!
I promise you, the baby coming out doesn't
hurt like you would think. Your vagina is
so numb from the baby crowning, that you
don't feel it. it burns regardless, but
it's not an overwhelming sensation of
stinging and burning. These words make me
cringe by the way! lol!
If you want any more info about a totally
drug free birth, feel free to pm me.
I plan on having my next child at home. Or
in a birthing tub. But I'd prefer to be
home.
Sarah
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Posted: 04-28-07 12:22pm
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| kaerbear
wrote: | | geez I'm sorry to hear that
happened to you. Is there some way you
can have that
fixed? |
If I really wanted to, I could go and have
a corrective surgery done. I'm not
comfortable with the idea, so .i'm trying
to deal with the situation without medical
intervention as much as possible:
Continuing to have sex (with a lot of
lube!), perineal massage, etc.
It does make me nervous about my next
birth, though. If .i'm having trouble
fitting my husband's penis in there, I
don't want to think about a child's
head/shoulders.
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Posted: 04-28-07 20:50pm
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I had one with my first son he weighed
8lbs 9oz and I tore with my second son he
weighed 7lbs 12oz and with my third I
didnt tear or have an episiotomy and he
was 8lbs 10oz. I healed the best with my
second son. I could actualy sit on my butt
after he was born 
unlike after the episiotomy.I guess I will
find out what will happen this time in a
few weeks but I do not want to have
another episiotomy.
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mia7
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Posted: 05-31-07 04:57am
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i have been afraid of having to have an
episiotomy...
i had a tear with my son, i went natural,
and it like the other lady said, it burns
when when the head is coming out but after
all the contraction pains and the whole
pushing stage and everything it's not as
bad as you may think. it hurts!! but it's
nice to be able to feel what's going on.
i am 34weeks now and i am so afraid of
having to have an episiotomy for whatever
reason, i hope i don't have one. i was
able to sit down after having my son,
without being in major pain. i know some
women who have had episiotomies and can't
say the same.
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Posted: 06-10-07 19:19pm
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With my first child, the Dr was about to
perform the episiotomy (I didn't have the
epidural, so my Dr numbed me and told me
to push while he cut, but my daughter
popped right out before he cut. Needless
to say I was given the local in my Hoo Ha
for no reason, which hurt like a mother.
I ended up tearing and got a couple of
stitches (I guess the local wasn't for no
reason )
With my other kids, I insisted that the Dr
stretch and massage and I didn't tear and
need an episiotomy with them. I
definitely think that the stretching and
massaging plays a big part in whether or
not you will need an episiotomy.
Good luck
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Posted: 06-10-07 19:44pm
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I had an episiotomy and it was fine. The
doctor ended up stitching me back up to
the point I was like a virgin. I have
heard many horror stories regarding
episiotomies but I wasn't one of them. I
would opt for one again if I knew the
experience would be like last time. I only
pushed four times and he was out. I don't
know if my episiotomy had something to do
with that.
Do the doctors still stitch if you tear
and don't have an episiotomy?? Curious.
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Posted: 06-11-07 12:50pm
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I also had an episiotomy without any
problems afterward. I had been pushing for
an hour before the dr cut me and it was a
medium sized cut. After that, my 10 lb
baby boy slid right on out. Healing was
painful, but bearable.
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Posted: 06-12-07 12:17pm
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| ladylee70
wrote: | I had an episiotomy and it
was fine. The doctor ended up stitching me
back up to the point I was like a virgin.
I have heard many horror stories regarding
episiotomies but I wasn't one of them. I
would opt for one again if I knew the
experience would be like last time. I only
pushed four times and he was out. I don't
know if my episiotomy had something to do
with that.
Do the
doctors still stitch if you tear and don't
have an episiotomy??
Curious. |
yepp. I had "one running stitch". It went
slightly down one side, across, and
slightly up the other side.
I was giving a numbing spray and was
sitting indian style in about 3 days.
The Dr. massaged and stretched my vagina
before her head came out. (which, without
any drugs, wasn't the most *fun*
experience...I just pushed through the
pain)!
My new Dr. said he doesn't believe in
episiotomies, so I should be in the good
for this baba too!!
Sarah
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Posted: 07-08-07 14:38pm
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I regret agreeing to the episiotomy. I
just went along with the midwives. It was
so painful and sore to sit down for weeks
afterwards. The stitches took forever and
the needle hurt that kept going in to
(supposedly) numb it. Never again!
(hopefully!)
Morgan
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