I have had a problem cumming for the last
8 years. It has effected all my
relationships and now is starting to take
a toll on my wife. She now thinks that it
is a proplem with her but that is not
true. I had women who loved it but most
felt that they were the problem. I am not
gay and I love the warmth of my women, I
tried to relax, masterbaiting taking
breaks but 75% of the time I just end up
wearing my poor wife out. I can count the
number of times i came qucik this tear.
maybe im just putting to much thought in
to it or just enjoying myself or letting
my wife enjoy it to much. sometimes I wish
I was a 2 min brotha...
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HealthySex
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 04-28-07 08:47am
Are you able to orgasm through
masturbation? How do you generally
masturbate? Tight grip, dry hand, face
down rubbing against bed, etc.?
Have you ever seen a doctor about it?
I don't know much about the subject, but I
have heard of a couple things. One, is
Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome where men
have difficulty achieving erections or
orgasm after having masturbated face down
most of their life. Such as by rubbing
their penis against their bed or another
object, or perhaps even their hand. You
can google it as I haven't done much
research into it. I mentioned once on this
board before and another member looked
into it more ( I believe it was Llewellyn,
and that she commented that it doesn't
seem to be confirmed. With some saying it
exists and others not.)
The other is that high levels of
Histamines cause women and men to easily
achieve orgasm, while lower levels make it
difficult to. A doctor can check your
Histamine levels (If you're at the doctor
you might as well bring it up and ask him
for other possible causes, tests to take,
and solutions). Histamine is made by the
amino acid Histidine, so it can be
increased. There may be other supplements
that raise Histamines as well. However, I
don't see a reason to do that until you've
researched it more, talked to a doctor
about the problem first to find other
possible reasons, and checked your
histamine levels to see if it's a possible
culprit.
Edit: Another thing I forgot is kegels.
Exercising pelvic floor muscles often help
men achieve better erections as well as
achieve orgasm better. Be sure not to take
it too far and know how to relax them as
well, because it can also cause premature
ejaculation. However, if you're too far
from reaching orgasm you probably won't
have a problem and you could stop once you
achieve a suitable ability.
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paul995
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 140 Location: ,
Posted: 05-03-07 19:36pm
your just to preoccupied with the goal of
"making it" rather than enjoying sex
itself. That's probably the reason why you
can't reach orgasm. Try to relax and enjoy
every moment with your wife and not
thinking about whether you'd come or not.
hopefully it'll help. sometimes it's jsut
psychological.
or just like what our colleague said, try
to know your body first. what makes you
ejaculate? through masturbation? how? do
porns help you? think about thesethings.
it might help a lot.
