this post is over a year old, you should try to make a new thread of your own

you may also want to try posting in the stoping smoking forum (i dont think thats what its actualy called but im sure you can find it) you may also get some great ideas there, as they have been through it or are going through it

im sorry i couldnt have been more help, i have never smoked cigarettes before and im trying to help my husband quit with no sucsess yet lol

~alicia~

Here's the truth of it...quitting in those conditions puts you at higher risk of miscarriage. Stress is one of the biggest reasons people miscarry...not smoking. You may want to talk to a doctor to see what he or she recommends. They may suggest that you try other methods of quitting...or delay your attempt until after the first trimester. You have to be sure the benefits of quitting right now actually outweigh the risks.

Oh yeah...just a note...as the last person said...this post is VERY old and I haven't even been around here for almost as long.

But...as an update...I miscarried...and resumed smoking 6 months after quitting. I have no doubt that I will quit again...I just need that motivation...and there's nothing like being preggo to get you motivated to get healthy. We have now been trying for about a year and a half...I just can't wait to have it happen for us!!

Good luck to you...and I hope this helps.

A once VERY active member, Wannababy25

I understand what you all mean, both sides. I'm 20 weeks on monday, I've smoked throughout all my pregnancy. I hate doing it, but I've tried and tried and cried, I hate myself for it but it is NOT an easy thing to do. For some people it is, for some it isn't. I have cut down and I only smoked between 2-6 people a day. I know the risks of low birth weight, premature birth and asthma for my baby but when I say I've tried everything, I mean EVERYTHING.

lol! edited to add, obviously didn't read the last few posts. sorry, didn't realise it was an old thread.

I know this will offend some and to be honest I don't care.

Your baby is more important than your in-laws so instead of "flipping til you have one" think of your child.

Before anyone tells me how hard it is - I quit drinking (from alcoholic levels) and smoking (from around 25-30 per day) on the same day, cold turkey.

If you put your mind to it you can do it.
go chew some gum if you need to, but simply do not buy any ciggarettes - if you don;t have any then you can't smoke them can you.

Congrats your pregnant, your life as you knew it ends and you enter a whole new chapter - leave the crap behind and move forwards.

Well said .Kia Chewing gum and sucking on hard candy works some, but finding things to do to occupy your mind when those mad cravings come is key.
I smoked for years and years and one day I just stopped. I had weak moments where I thought I would die (or someone else would) if I didn't have a cigarette and I made it through it. I still have times where I would like to have a smoke.
What kept me strong and what continues to keep me strong is that I had a beautiful baby boy that is healthy, and I want to keep him that way. Besides, I would rather spend that $50 a week I would have bought ciggies with on baby clothes!!!

Good luck quitting

ok, I realize that this is an old foum or whatever it's called. Anyways, I am only 17 but I am pregnant. I am 13 weeks- just shy of 14. I smoke. I know it's bad and eventually I will quit but I haven't before i got pregnant I smoked 3 packs a day and if adam a guy that annoyed me came over i could smoke 6. honestly. I now smoke like less than a pack a day but when I go all day without smoking random people that i know will buy me them because I am a major b----. i have smoked since I was twelve it is harder for some people to quit and as far as low birth weight my frined kim had two babies (smoked the enitire time) and had an 8 and a 9 lb baby. they weren't premature and they are healthy. So if you don't want to quit then don't it's better if you do but if not just avoid smoking around people who will complain. I do! good luck with whatever you decide
toodles
lissie

THats great. I'm glad that she was fortunate enough to have two healthy children. Unfortunately, she is in the minority. And because you know someone who had a healthy child doesn't mean you will. I know people who have gotten pregnant right away....does that mean it worked that way for me? Nope...I would never wish an unhealthy child on anyone. I think it is a shame that someone who will one day be called a mother can have such disrespect for the future well being of her child. It amazes me. I mean, trying to quit is one thing, Hiding it because you know its wrong and you simply don't care enough to stop is another.

It really just makes me want to cry sometimes.

do you not realize that the people who complain about your smoking are doing it because they care

i don't want to turn this into a debate, i'm just trying to make you understand. they aren't bickering at you to quit smoking because they just want something to b*tch about, they are doing it because they care! just because your friend had 2 healthy children doesn't mean that you will! every time you inhale it, it goes right to your baby, do you want to fill your childs lungs with smoke?

think about your child before you keep smoking, put your child first, that's what a real mother would do.

Hey there, angrymess. Just to let you know that just because your friends two kids were born at a great weight doesn't mean anything. My cousin had a baby 9 months ago and her baby was 7lbs. 11oz, she smoked all the way through her pregnancy. Now this kid has had 4 colds already and she constantly has a runny nose. Also think about how hard it is to quit smoking for you (I'm sure that it is) but think about the with drawls that your baby is going to go through when it is born. How fair is that. It sure seems pretty selfish if you ask me.

What cracks me up is when you see people who smoke all during their pregnancy and then once the baby is born they smoke outside. I just don't get it.

Please don't think that I am judging you because I don't know you. This is just my opinion.

thanks fo rall the input. Although some were judging it doesnt phase me. I will be a good mother and hope that all turns out well. I don't hide from people because I know it's wrong. I hide because I dont care to hear their opinion. I have had lots of friends and enimies that were pregnant and smoked they turned out fine. And I know that all pregnancies are different but I have played it safe and I miscarried I am at least going to enjoy myself this time. I am not a promiscuous person by all means (given my age some would think) And I am not ignorant. I just simply believe in what I do. I don't think people should tell her how horrible it is that she can't stop smoking because it's not always as easy as just not buying them and saying no. Some people handle addiction worse than others. Just like pregnancy so you might have been able to quit drinking and smoking all in the same day but for others it's different. it is her body and her life she asked for advice and opinions and I gave mine, just as you did. I still firmly believe in what I say. toodles
Lissie

umm im pretty sure that nobody called you a "highly available" (or anything of the sort) don't put words in peoples mouths.

we're judging, yes. you don't care about our opinions? then don't post it on a public forum, because you are going to hear opinions that you don't like if you do so.

i guess when your baby is born and is sick all the time you can run along somewhere else and complain about it, because we tried to tell you.

I'm not judging you at all. I smoked when I was pregnant with my daughter. She was born 2 1/2 months early. She weighed 2 lbs 7 oz. She was a sickly little kid and I feel so fortunate that now that she's almost an adult she is healthy.

Did my smoking cause her to be born prematurely? I don't know?

Ok well i am a smoker too.

I've cut down from almost a pack a day to the equivilent to about 3-5 a day. Reason why i say that is because my fiance allows me to have a few drags of his cigarette every once in a while. So i couldnt tell you excatly how many.

I have a very addictive nature and dont take well to stress. I honestly believe that if i didnt allow myself to have those few puffs a day i most certainly would have miscarried this child.

And did anyone ever think that harping on a pregnant woman to quit smoking just might annoy them enough to want another one?

Two main reasons why i started smoking!!
1. stress
2. People who annoy me and *** me off!!

I would love to give it up and i hope that i do but i just wish that people would back off, stop harping at me and just let me do what i need to do to get through this.

This is just how i feel!!

Sweetie, your doing fine. You have significantly decreased your intake because you know it can do more harm then good. That's all were asking, allitle effort. This was geared toward those who decided that they do not need to change their habits because a 'friend' didn't and was fine. And based off that is giving people the advice that quitting smoking isn't necessary. Don't take it personal

What you have done is great!! I agree with everything MC stated. What people are saying is not directed towards you, Pixma. It is when people try to convince themselves that what they are doing is not harmful to their babies because other people have delivered healthy babies.

i'm sorry, i'm locking this.

1. because it outrages me that people aren't willing to do anything for their child.

2. because these threads turn into nothing but drama.

if anyone has a problem with this, pm me.