Hi sorry to hear that, i was with my ex bf for 4years we broke up last july, I found out i was pregnant and he said he would resent it and finsihed with me and said i had to have an abortion, im not saying ur fiance would tell you to do that. just i was so upset but stupid me did what he wanted, it was the worst decission of my life, as i was 17wks and had give birth to it. after i had done that he finished me anyways so i lost 2 things that i loved. dont let him force you into anything u dont wanna do thats all im saying. he might even get used to the idea he might just be in shock.
good luck anyways

i am sorry to hear you are going through this. as a single mum of 2 young babies i can sympathise. it may just be that your fiance is in shock and needs some time to get his head round things.

one thing i can say to you is if you did 'get rid of' your baby for your fiance you would end up resenting him and would probably never forgive him as it's not what you want.

do you live together? i think he needs some space to think things through and decide what he wants.

I agree with the above posters.if this child is a miracle,s/he happened for a good damn reason and don't let anyone take that from you!good luck!

I know it must be really scary and upsetting but try not to think of it as a loss. If he really decided to leave you and your baby it's not your loss it's his. You will be gaining a child of your own to love. Motherhood is a gift and a blessing even when it is difficult. My mom raised 5 of us on her own when my dad decided he couldn't be bothered anymore and we struggled a lot but my mom was so strong and I'm so proud of her. I know other women who have gone through the same thing, being left alone to raise a baby on their own and I've been so impressed by their strength and the love they have for their children. My cousin had this happen to her twice and she just embraced her role as a mother and decided she would be the best mother she could be.

I do sympathise. My own pregnancy was unplanned and we went through a tough time at the beginning trying to come to terms with being parents when we didn't feel ready even though we were planning to have children one day. Maybe he will come around eventually. It takes time to adjust to the idea of having this huge responsibility when you weren't planning on it. Especially when you can't see the rewards that come with it yet. Men don't experience pregnancy the same way we do. Some of them don't bond with their baby until they are able to hold them in their arms while we carry them inside us for all those months feeling all their little movements.

If he doesn't come around and decide to own up to his responsibility as a father, just remember there are laws and he does have to help you out financially at least.

I hope and pray everthing works out for you. Good luck.

Thank you for reading my post. I have tears in my eyes!!

he does want me to have an abortion and i know that i will resent him if later on when "he's" ready i find out that i cant.

We have been together for 5 years and living together for most of that also got engaged last month. I would give him time cause i need it just as much as he does but i have nowhere to go.

I have given up so much to be with him but i cant give up this. He's asking too much of me this time.

Thanks again for your thoughts.
pixma

p.s i'm due xmas day!!!!!!!!

oh yay! well good luck hunni and I hope things start getting a little better for you! please keep us updated!

you do whats best for you, at the end of the day its your body, If you want this baby and do it alone, once you have had the baby, i bet he will want to be part of its life, my ex bf made me have an abortion the relationship was never the same again. i blamed him all the time, i had to have councelling and everthing was worst time of my life.

Good luck anyways !!! and congrats on the xmas day birth mines due on my 21st birthday

I'm happy to hear that!

Thanx very much xxxx with diffrent lad now, all going great, am just looking at the 4d ultrasounds u can get

I pm'd you a few days back girl!

he's changed his mind!!!!!

I think seeing his parents reaction may have had something to do with it!! Apparently his mum squealed and neally wet herself!!!

He says he is really freaking out about the whole situation but he has had one on one conversations with a few mates that have been in the same situation.

What a turnaround from the other day hey!!!

Thanks

P.s I was born xmas eve!! but i was meant to be born xmas day!!
Doc induced my mum cause he didnt want to be there xmas day!!No word of a lie!

i am so happy to hear that!!!

guys tend to freak out about these kind of things, its understandable, and he was obviously just having poor judgement at the time. im so happy things have turned around!

good luck and please keep us updated!