Signifigant Other Says They Need to Cheat! Posted: 05-06-07 11:50am
They say that they need to cheat on me
because of an urge they can't control.
Sex with someone else they say would mean
nothing - it would just take care of the
desire so they can feel normal again.
This has happend before & they acted
on it. This will be a life long problem -
not sure what to do? Can I put myself
thru this heartache - we also have a new
baby together. BTW - this also happend
with the ex! Please help.
They also say that just about everyone
cheats but hides it - they did not want to
hide it from me.
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someoneneedsadvice
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No One Has Responded Posted: 05-06-07 12:28pm
I see a few people have read but no
responses-
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meblonde01
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Re: Signifigant Other Says They Need to Cheat! Posted: 05-06-07 17:53pm
someoneneedsadvice
wrote:
They say that they need to
cheat on me because of an urge they can't
control. Sex with someone else they say
would mean nothing - it would just take
care of the desire so they can feel normal
again. This has happend before & they
acted on it. This will be a life long
problem - not sure what to do? Can I put
myself thru this heartache - we also have
a new baby together. BTW - this also
happend with the ex! Please help.
They also say that just about everyone
cheats but hides it - they did not want to
hide it from
me.
bull.. not everyone cheats.. And the fact
that they need to tell you then they no
not want a loving caring relatsionship..
If someone told me they need to cheat I
woud tell them if they do we are history!.
No is not right. An do not let them play
this game with you. You already know it is
not right. He is the one with the
problem.. tell him.. NO
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Fairy Godmother
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Oh Hell No Posted: 05-06-07 18:20pm
Take your baby and get your ass out
now............you are far to better than
to have to live in this situation. By you
"allowing this to conitinue" it will go on
for eternity. You said this happend in a
past relationship. NO not all
relationships deal with
cheating.......only those whose partners
are not dedicated nor honestly love and
care about the other. Cheating is not a
weakness...... its more of a selfish
gesture. You and your child deserve so
much more out of life. I could never trust
anyone who ever cheats on me......been
there done it twice in my younger days. I
guess you could say 3 times a charm, I
have this wonderful man almost 15 years
and I know in my heart he would NEVER
cheat on me. I guess it takes a really
forgiving person to think someone who has
cheated on them could go on and live life
as if it never happened, but in the back
of your mind......its ALWAYS there and
things will NEVER be the same.....only get
worse.....but thats just my opinion. Just
want you to know you have others out here
for you to root you on! Don't take no
$$$$.............
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princessnae
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Honey You Deserve Better Posted: 05-07-07 00:03am
You may think that that is all that you
can get with those two friend but no, you
deserve so much better. To be treated
with respect. When a man tells you its a
biological urge and that they can't
control it thats BS. I love my bf more
than anything but if he came to me with a
story about how he needed to cheat I'd
drop him. And I know that you have a
child together but it deserves much better
too. Sit him down and talk to him about
growing up. Try and write down your
thoughts ahead of time, this will help get
all your thoughts and concerns across.
Good Luck.
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someoneneedsadvice
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Thank You Posted: 05-07-07 10:06am
Thank you for your insight! I am thinking
seriously about seperating from him. I
know that he is a good person & he
takes really good care of me. I am just
scared is all.
Thanks again!!!!
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someoneneedsadvice
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Man's Opinion! Posted: 05-07-07 12:56pm
Can I get a male to comment about this -
any men have these urges??
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frustrated75
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Posted: 07-01-07 19:04pm
I hope this reply find you in good
spirits. This is my opinion; I think it
could be a lot of reasons for him wanting
to cheat. Do you satisfy him sexually and
do you help him carry out his sexual
fantasies with you being the center of
them. Most men need a great deal of sexual
attention. It help us keep our attention
where it should be and thats on our women.
On the other hand if you are being all you
can be to him, he may just be no good or a
sex attic
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WannaBigBabyBelly
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Posted: 07-08-07 18:09pm
WOW,
what a brave man he is!! I would say tell
him, I am sorry that you feel that I am
not satisfying you enough to go lay down
with another women, you are the mother of
his child, and he needs to respect you!!!
I think its crazy of him to tell you that
everyone cheats, and hides it!!...thats so
wrong! and dont believe for one minute
that because he told you this, he respects
you more!! NO! girl you are too good for
someone like this!! I say if he goes
through with it! LEAVE IT!!! A bus comes
to the stop every hour!!!!...pick another
one!! Good luck girl.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 07-09-07 14:12pm
wow. . .i'd leave him.Obviously he has
never been in love with someone and hasd
them stomp his poor little heart out.You
can do better than that!
