I Can't Take It Any More. Posted: 02-22-04 12:46pm
Today especially i've been crying so much,
I can't stop. This morning my fiance and
I got into a fight. It's my fault. So
anyway. I thought that everything was
okay, and sort of it is, but we had a talk
and when we were talking he said that he
had thoughts about breaking up with me. I
still think that the idea is in his head,
but he wont admit it. Today I just felt
like hurting my self, or worse. I can't
stop feeling like this, and it's driving
my fiance away. I don't know what is
wrong with me. I wish I could just make
it all go away. I'm afraid that if it
doesn't my fiance will leave me, or that I
will go over the edge and hurt my self. I
can't really talk to anyone here about it.
Does anyone have advise as to how I can
stop crying and feel better so my fiance
wont leave me. Please help, i'll listen
to anyones advise.
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qt3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 264
Posted: 02-22-04 15:36pm
First off you need to focus on you and let
what happens happen with your fiance. I
suspect if you take care of yourself first
then things will fall into place with your
fiance too. But even if they don't you
will be better off and eventually meet
someone who may be a better match for you
anyway
cbt is what changed my life and made my
relationships fall into place. Once I
fixed me everytrhing in my life began to
fall into place and i'm guessing the same
would happen to you :p
my favorite starter book on cbt is "been
there, done that? Do this! By sam obitz
if you're interested and many universities
offer cbt programs for little or no
charge. It's the best stress reducer
around and once you learn the tools they
are with you wherever you go :d
q
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san54
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2003 Posts: 227 Location: Virginia
Depression Posted: 02-22-04 16:49pm
Crazydazey, please go to a therapist,
if you cannot affor one, go to your local
hospital. You need to concentrate on
yourself and feeling better about
yourself. Let me tell you, about nine
years ago, I had an auto accident. I
developed ptsd from it. I could not stop
crying and I would wake up crying because
I dreamed of the accident. I went to a
shrink once a month and a therapist once a
week or every other week. It took one
year, but I came out of it a new person.
I couldn't even ride in a car or let alone
drive.
I also must tell you I was in the
psycho ward for five days, till they could
regulate my medications. I still take
paxil, but only because I have trouble
sleeping.
I did not think about suicide, but I
think it was in the back of my head,
because I sat in the parking lot of my
therapist crying my eyes out and trying to
start the car. The car would not start.
I called my husbands boss and he came and
towed the care home. They couldn't find
anything wrong with the car. I believe it
was devine intervention, that stopped me
from driving home.
I will put you and your boyfriend in
my prayers. It would not hurt for you to
turn to god.
Please do not hesitate to talk to
someone. It helps to talk to a stranger
about your problems. And if god is a
stranger to you, he welcomes you with open
arms.
Sandy
