Today me and my fiance got into a fight.
He told me he is not going to sign a new
lease, and he wants me out of his life and
that he couldn't stand being around me and
that I am nothing but a health forum, I
don't know what to do.
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Scarf
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Feb 2004 Posts: 1062 Location: Ontario, Canada
Posted: 02-22-04 14:25pm
If he said this in the 'heat of the
moment' there is a good chance that he
didnt mean it. Give him some time to cool
off then go talk to him. Make sure that
this talk doesnt turn into a fight though.
Apologize to him, ask him if he really
meant what he said. If he did well there
might not be much that you can do.
Atleast try to work things out! Good
luck. Hth
shannon
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CAMAROGIRL42482
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2004 Posts: 98 Location: FENTON
Posted: 02-22-04 14:35pm
Thanks, every time when I try to talk to
him he just walks away, he never talks
about it and then later on we end up
fighting about it again. It not the
first time he said that to me though.
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Scarf
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Feb 2004 Posts: 1062 Location: Ontario, Canada
Posted: 02-22-04 15:58pm
If he walks away that means hes not ready
yet. Eventually he'll come to you. Just
give him his space. You could tell him
that you want to talk to him but only when
hes ready. Good luck!
Shannon
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CAMAROGIRL42482
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2004 Posts: 98 Location: FENTON
Posted: 02-22-04 19:17pm
Thanks for listening, I hope we can work
things out.
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 02-23-04 12:18pm
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sdwood2
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2004 Posts: 645 Location: KY
Posted: 02-23-04 12:40pm
I hope things work out for you, I know how
you feel I am having problems with my bf
right now too.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 02-23-04 12:48pm
Its probably just the jitters of being
together for a long time. I cant say this
will be the last time you will argue
because it does happen alot. To every
couple not just you. He most likely said
this out of anger and did not mean it. I
know when im angry I say mean things too,
to jose even though I wanted to take them
back. But thats how men are, they like to
leave things up in the air and never
resolve things. Unlike women, we like to
take care of the problem right away. But
because you havent talked it out and
worked things out, its another problem
waiting to happen. Stand up to him and
tell him you need to talk now, he cant
walk away and he cant ignore you and he
cant pout, you two are in everything
together and will soon be "one" so make
sure he knows this. I read about this in
cosmo about engaged couples arguments
happen alot. So its not uncommon. I hope
you work things out!
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CAMAROGIRL42482
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2004 Posts: 98 Location: FENTON
Posted: 02-23-04 13:59pm
Thanks you guys are the best. I hope we
can work through this are lease is up at
the end of march. He said he is tired of
the way I treat him and that he wants to
be who he wants to be, wether thats
nevering being home or not.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 02-23-04 14:08pm
I know how you feel. Jose says the same
thing. Because he does things that
irritate me. So give him a choice, to
somewhat scare him. Say you are leaving
and never coming back because you two cant
get along. I did that and thats what made
jose change for good. I still get mad
over the small things, like he licks his
fingers, wont clean teh toilet seat, hes
loud, hes stubborn, things like that! But
im working on it, and it will be ok for
you too. You arent alone, but things will
get better
