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Just Need to Get It Out! Posted: 05-08-07 03:57am
I'm so stressed at the moment!
1. It feels like i'm the only adult in my
relationship at the moment, ok that makes
.Dom sound so bad he's not honestly. It
just seems asthough i'm th eonly one
looking at everything logically, .Dom
wants to carry on playing rugby which i
have no problem with but it costs £80 up
front at the beggining of each season
which for some reason he thinks we're
going to be able to spare. I've seen how
hard it is with children because my sister
has two and is still young so i know
exactly how hard it is, but .Dom doesn't
have any family with kids so has no idea.
2. A friend of mine has just found out
she's pregnant and seems to think that i
can solve all of her worldly problems!
There are five, yes five potential fathers
and she has no idea which one it is. It's
nice that she feels asthough she can rely
on me for advice but she's expecting me to
tell her whether to keep the baby or not,
as if i can make that decision for her.
3. My auntie's husband left her after 27
years a month or so ago and i found out
yesterday that it was for a close friend
of mine's mother.
4. I have my first exam in two weeks and i
am no where near ready for it
5. I am sick of reading articles in
magazines of other teenage mothers whose
parents buy everything for their baby for
them. I worked every weekend and some
nights after school up untill i was just
over 20 weeks (i only gave up because of
my bad back i would still be doing it now
if my back was ok) just so that i could
have my independence and buy things for my
baby by myself.
Pheww it's all out now sorry that it's
gone on for so long
adited because i forgot something and then
again because i can't spell!
that must suck, i think its stupid that
your friend wants u to decide whats best
for her baby, she got pregnant without you
so therefore she needs to make those
decisions on her own, i would say with the
father but seeing as she doesnt know whose
it is shes basically on her own on that
one, it always seems when one thing goes
wrong everything else seems to follow
right behind. I hope your friend makes the
right decision though
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 05-08-07 05:19am
tinkinpink84
wrote:
that must suck, i think its
stupid that your friend wants u to decide
whats best for her baby, she got pregnant
without you so therefore she needs to make
those decisions on her own, i would say
with the father but seeing as she doesnt
know whose it is shes basically on her own
on that one, it always seems when one
thing goes wrong everything else seems to
follow right behind. I hope your friend
makes the right decision
though
I hope she does too. She was like 'you've
kept your baby does that mean i should
too?'. Her boyfriend, her ex boyfriend and
three random guys from one night stands
are in the running for father of the year
she seems a lil on the not so bright side,
age has nothing to do with pregnancy, she
was old enough to get herself pregnant
shes old enough to figure out what to do
now that she knows she is pregnant. You
can offer her advice on well more like ask
her if she kept her baby how she planned
on raising it etc, or if she was gonna put
it up for adoption, you sorta got to think
to the future first and go from there,
hopefully she figures out what she really
wants. Just because you kept your baby
doesnt mean she has to keep hers, its her
choice as to what she wants to do.
I hate people that dont even know who
there kids father is, i can see between 2
diff guys but 5! thats a whole nother
story right there.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 05-08-07 05:26am
I don't get it either, she's gunna be 17
in september you would think she would
know how babies are made by now! I did
some research for her and gave her print
outs about what happens during abortion
side effects etc and adoption companies in
the local area and the laws surrounding it
and told her absulutly everything about my
pregnancy so far and as far as i can see
that's all i can do to help her really
yeah, thats good u did that for her.
hopefully she actually reads the stuff u
gave her and makes a good decision.
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Emma2
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Posted: 05-08-07 07:42am
wow 5 fathers? thats really responsible of
her...not to mention disgusting...hasnt
she heard of std's ? I think youre doing a
good job...its not easy being pregnant let
alone at your age...take it day by day
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 05-08-07 07:55am
Your such a good person. Here you are with
a list of issues that you are facing right now
or your own and your still feeling
responsible for other peoples problems.
You are a good person and a good friend.
That is why it is so hard for you. You
just don't get why they cant listen to you
(especially your friend) and she really is
asking way to much.
And kudo's to you for supporting yourself
through this and handling this so well and
with such maturity. I'm not sure if anyone
has told you this but we are all very
proud of you. And any child will be lucky
to have you as a mother.
~big hug~
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Patty-cake
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Joined: 14 Dec 2006 Posts: 61 Location: Virginia
Posted: 05-08-07 08:10am
You know the old saying "When it rains, it
pours." Just hang in there... that is an
awful lot to deal with. You seem so
sweet, but try not to worry about every
one else. Just start concentrating on
that exam coming up and little Mika's very
soon to be arrival! It will get
better.
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Idony
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Posted: 05-08-07 18:21pm
im so sorry your feeling so crappy right
now...i think its something in the air
i know how you feel though, feeling like
your the only resposible adult around, and
your friend is very immature if you ask
me, she needs to be slapped, im sorry
about your aunt, i hate it when people
break up, esecially if its someone you
care about, i hear ya on the people buying
everything for these kids, i mean my
family and my in-laws have done a lot for
me but ive also been in school this whole
time and i work from 5 inthe morning to
usualy about 6 at night (with school for
about 2-3 hours in there) then mondays and
wendsdays i have to go back to school for
2 hours at 6:30, im 38 weeks and going to
school and working and everything and then
i hear about these kids who drop out the
day they find out and never work a day in
their lives, they rather live off the
government...grr it just angers me off so
much
good luck with your exams, your a very
bright girl, just focus on the positive
and pass them for your little girl...i
know you can, i have complete faith in
you
It will get
better.
