Please will someone please tell me,
because at this point I'm scared and all I
want to do is run for my life!! My husband
has high blood pressure, and right now,
he's stressing over finances, and it's
causing it to go sky high... I'm tiptoeing
and taking so much from him, as are our
children, and only because we all
undestand his stress,,, thing is, I'm
scared he is a walking/ticking time bomb
that is about to explode,,, his temper is
out of control. is this normal? Will we be
a story in tomorrows headlines, "father
kills family and then takes own life"? I
pray to God of course that this does not
happen,, I love him dearly,, but I am
really scared... any advice?
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bre_anne
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2006 Posts: 67 Location: ca
Posted: 05-08-07 17:40pm
why would you think he would kill you and
your kids is it really that bad? has he
threatened it? if i was you i would take a
break if its really that bad
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hisbetterhalf
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2007 Posts: 3
Posted: 05-09-07 17:48pm
Because about 10 years ago it was real
bad, and I always thought it was because
of his blood pressure, he pulled out a gun
and pointed it at me after a really
"silly" argument, but since then things
seemed ok,,, and now, it's something about
the look in his eyes. I called hoping to
talk to his doctor about it, but I have to
make an appointment just to see him even
if just to talk... so that's why I'm
wondering,, does the blood pressure cause
this type of anger in people... Like I
said, I'm being real careful taking his
stress into consideration, keeping my
mouth shut because every little thing
seems to annoy him. but I'm still worried
and stressing myself on a daily basis.
I've thought about leaving, but I'm scared
even for him.
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bre_anne
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2006 Posts: 67 Location: ca
Posted: 05-10-07 13:44pm
i understand ...but think of this is it
best for you and your kids to be in that
situation? also blood pressure can make
you more easily irritated it happened to
me but i dont think i got bad enough that
i was going to pull a gun out thats really
extreme
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hisbetterhalf
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2007 Posts: 3
Posted: 05-11-07 11:04am
I do love him, we've got a long history,
been together 15 years, in love for over
20.
I would have left along time ago, but I've
convinced myself it's not his fault, that
it's the high blood pressure causing him
to react this way, that's why I came on
this forum to ask if this was normal. I
still blame the B.P. but at this point I
don't know if I should put up with him
"it", and put myself and my children
through another hard time,,, because it's
not always this way, sometimes it's
wonderful!! Thank you so much for your
time with your replies!
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LynnRuder
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Feb 2007 Posts: 16
Posted: 06-08-07 09:35am
High blood pressure does not cause people
to pull out a gun on their loved ones.
You have a real problem on your hands. Get
help. Call a hotline or something. You are
his wife and if you see that look in his
eyes again I think that you are
endangering yourself and your children by
not taking action.
Everyone (or almost everyone ) has
problems with finances and many people
have high b/p. That does not cause anger
in any one. Anger is about what is going
on in someone's head.
Your husband sounds dangerous and if the
only reason you didn't leave him is his
b/p I think you are fooling yourself.
Get help.
(Sorry to sound so tough but yours is a
very worrying post).
I wish you all the best
Lynn
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Veronicca
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 May 2007 Posts: 36 Location: North NJ, USA
Posted: 06-27-07 13:54pm
whether you watch wrestling or not, there
was a young pro wrestler that just killed
his wife & 7 yr old son then ended up
hangin himself a day later. Chris Benoit.
It happens.
Veronicca V
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azgirlmi20
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2007 Posts: 9 Location: ,
High Blood Pressure Posted: 07-16-07 14:01pm
Hi,
I have have high blood pressure for over
2 years. To the point of where my dr put
me on medication. It has never made me
violent or irritated or in any way mean.
I don't mean to sound harsh or talk bad
about him. I've been in an abusive
relationship... and that "look in his
eyes" is when I knew he was probably going
to snap and hurt me or have a violent
rage. I would highly advise you to at
least "take a break" while the going is
easier. You don't want to take off when
he's in a violent rage, it's easier to get
out sooner. I know it sounds bad, believe
me, i've been there. My friends told me to
leave and I didn't.. my family told me to
leave and because it wasn't what i wanted
to hear i ignored them. It's a dangerous
situation. It's not you or the blood
pressure. He has anger issues and before
he hurts you or your kids he needs to
learn how to control his temper. When they
get in that rage mode they don't
necessarily think of the consequences. I
believe thats why a lot of people do the
homicide suicide. People have issues -
some more than others . I believe that a
person can get into that "rage" stage
because they don't know how to deal/handle
their own anger and can hurt someone bad..
and after the fact they realize what
they've done and thats when a lot of
people harm themselves because they can't
live with what they've done. Again i know
this isn't what you want to hear, but i've
been there done that and I'm only 23. I
would higly advise talking to a couselor
or at least getting yourself and the kids
out of that situation.
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Veronicca
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 May 2007 Posts: 36 Location: North NJ, USA
Posted: 09-06-07 21:09pm
I'm with you on that! Life is too
precious.
Veronicca
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Philip123
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2007 Posts: 7
Posted: 12-18-07 01:54am
You don't need to worry about it because
it is not too dangerous.And there are
many
good treatments at present to resolve it.
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samanda99
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2007 Posts: 17 Location: New delhi, India
Posted: 12-28-07 00:57am
Hi hisbetterhalf,
It does happen. Bad marriages are as true
a fact as life itself. I just hope the
best for you. And hope you find a solution
for it. If you need anything you can
always share it here on the forum.
Troubles are halved and happiness is
doubled by sharing.
Good luck.
