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Mommy35
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Posted: 05-11-07 11:40am
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I couldn't imagine wanting to bring my 2
month old to a wedding around all kinds of
people. .Jaylon is almost 2 months and
there is not way I would want him around
all kinds of people (especially
strangers).
I would be upset if a baby was screaming
all through my ceremony. .Finn is going
to be at your wedding right? If he is
it's going to be hard to say no kids under
____ because he's there.
Maybe there is some kind of compromise
that you and your brother can come up with
beforehand.
I don't think your being selfish, not at
all. It's your day and you deserve to be
the center of attention.
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 05-11-07 11:47am
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You should be the center of
attention on your wedding day. I don't
care what anyone says, it's not selfish.
You're the bride and it's your
moment to shine. Anything else is just
plain wrong. We scrapped our wedding and
just did a j-o-p type thing. But if we
had gone through with the ceremony and
someone else (whether they were 6 days or
60 years) had stolen my spotlight I would
have had a grade a royal hissyfit. If
you're going to pay attention to someone
else, why am i even having a ceremony?
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Emma2
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Posted: 05-11-07 12:06pm
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i guess im the only one who thinks that
family is family and the child is part of
that....we don;t do things like this in my
family..wedding are not about spotlight
its about god.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 05-11-07 12:53pm
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| Emma2
wrote: | | i guess im the only one who
thinks that family is family and the child
is part of that....we don;t do things like
this in my family..wedding are not about
spotlight its about
god. |
ya probably. Look long times ago getting
married was a big deal. nowadays its just
a fancy party to celebrate the marriage.
And all marriage is is a peice of paper,
if your in love and intend to devote the
rest of your life to someone then you dont
need someone behind a desk to let you sign
a paper before you can do it.
B its your wedding and if you dont want
her there than politely ask, he whats your
plans with the baby at the wedding? and
depending on their response say, well i
was thinking it might be better if you
didnt bring her to the ceremony just
incase she gets upset or poops I really
want you to be there to see me get married
and its important to me.
its not childish i would totally be pissed
if someone interupted my big day, actually
i guess i kinda did that to my aunt when i
was 11 cuz i was upset that i didnt have
anyone to walk me down the aisle (my dad
wasnt in my life at the time) and i went
outside and ppl were wondering where i
was. I feel awful now so i would hope they
would realize it wouldnt be good to bring
a baby with them.
i still think you could put " please no
children" on the invite just so they get a
hint without directing it at them
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
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Posted: 05-11-07 13:18pm
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another way around it is hire someone to
watch over any little ones in another room
during the wedding.
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arcadia
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Posted: 05-11-07 13:35pm
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b, you aren't being selfish. that's
totally understandable. my good friend
& my best childhood friend got married
in .march, & had .gabe already been
born, i was going to leave him with my
mom, because i didn't want him to steal
the spotlight.
if you really don't want the baby there,
you should definitely talk to your
brother. its your wedding, & you call
the shots. think of if they did bring the
baby, & she screamed the entire time,
or everyone was crowding around her while
you're just standing there.. you'd be
kicking yourself for not talking to him.
there will be other times to drool over
the baby.
you only have one chance to have a wedding
ceremony.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-11-07 13:53pm
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| macysmama
wrote: | | Look long times ago getting
married was a big deal. nowadays its just
a fancy party to celebrate the
marriage. |
I don't think marriage is one big party
and to me it is a big deal.You go before
god and get united as one.there are still
lots of people who take it seriously.I
wouldn't mind having children at my
wedding but if they cried I would expect
them to bring the baby outside just like
you would in church.
if you if your in love,why do it?everyone
is different.
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Emma2
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Posted: 05-11-07 14:00pm
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yeah what was that about? marriage is
still a big deal. and people get married
still in this day and age for god...
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 05-11-07 14:15pm
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well i wouldn't do it for god but it would
still be a big deal to me, i cant wait.
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Emma2
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Posted: 05-11-07 14:37pm
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| HcoBrunette06
wrote: | | well i wouldn't do it for
god but it would still be a big deal to
me, i cant
wait. |
terra, thats exactly what me and mel are
saying...you basically agreed with
dani.....it is a big deal but its a big
deal about the wrong things....marriage is
purely about god and nothing else.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-11-07 14:45pm
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well I hope everything goes well for you
.bridget!
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Emma2
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Posted: 05-11-07 14:46pm
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yeah me too bridg! sorry for highjacking
the thread.
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Posted: 05-11-07 14:50pm
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it's ok! i got enough replies. i still
feel very childish about this and i'm
*not* going to say anything to my brother.
i don't know, i'm sure i'd feel
differently if we were having a ton of
guests and there was going to be a big
"party" reception. it's just that there
won't be many guests and most of them are
going to be my relatives (and obviously my
brother's relatives), we're just having a
nice sit down dinner so if the baby is
being passed around the table i'm going to
feel bad.
stupid, i know.
i feel like a big baby saying this, but...
it's supposed to be my day!
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 05-11-07 14:53pm
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to me marriage is all legal, i believe in
god and all but marriage to me isnt for
religion its for the benefit of the
couple... and the government thats the
only reason we got married, insurance and
pay. if not we would have waited til we
had plenty of money to have a huge wedding
just for the fun of it. to me its like
school and getting a diploma, im smarter
than a lot of ppl that hold that o so
important peice of paper, cuz they have it
doesnt make me any less smart as just
because i have a marriage certificate
doesnt make me ne less in love or devoted
to my husband
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Emma2
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Posted: 05-11-07 15:28pm
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| macysmama
wrote: | | to me marriage is all legal,
i believe in god and all but marriage to
me isnt for religion its for the benefit
of the couple... and the government thats
the only reason we got married, insurance
and pay. if not we would have waited til
we had plenty of money to have a huge
wedding just for the fun of it. to me its
like school and getting a diploma, im
smarter than a lot of ppl that hold that o
so important peice of paper, cuz they have
it doesnt make me any less smart as just
because i have a marriage certificate
doesnt make me ne less in love or devoted
to my husband |
you are entitled to your opinion and i
respect that but you to me are one of
those people whom have gotten married for
the wrong reasons. you cannot compare an
education to the true meaning of marriage
and no it is not just a piece of paper and
neither holding a bachelors degree or a
doctorate. just my opinion.
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Posted: 05-11-07 15:34pm
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i feel like a big baby saying this, but...
it's supposed to be my
day! |
Don't feel like a baby...it is your day!!!
End of story!
I can see how it would be different with a
small gathering compared to a large
wedding. There are more distractions at a
larger wedding than a smaller one.
Maybe your mom could talk to him about it.
That way you don't look like your jealous
or whatever of not being in the spotlight.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 05-11-07 16:17pm
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| Emma2
wrote: | | macysmama
wrote: | | to me marriage is all legal,
i believe in god and all but marriage to
me isnt for religion its for the benefit
of the couple... and the government thats
the only reason we got married, insurance
and pay. if not we would have waited til
we had plenty of money to have a huge
wedding just for the fun of it. to me its
like school and getting a diploma, im
smarter than a lot of ppl that hold that o
so important peice of paper, cuz they have
it doesnt make me any less smart as just
because i have a marriage certificate
doesnt make me ne less in love or devoted
to my husband |
you are entitled to your opinion and i
respect that but you to me are one of
those people whom have gotten married for
the wrong reasons. you cannot compare an
education to the true meaning of marriage
and no it is not just a piece of paper and
neither holding a bachelors degree or a
doctorate. just my
opinion. |
you have no right to say anything about my
marriage. go eat a bag of dlcks
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Emma2
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Posted: 05-11-07 16:20pm
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| macysmama
wrote: | | Emma2
wrote: | | macysmama
wrote: | | to me marriage is all legal,
i believe in god and all but marriage to
me isnt for religion its for the benefit
of the couple... and the government thats
the only reason we got married, insurance
and pay. if not we would have waited til
we had plenty of money to have a huge
wedding just for the fun of it. to me its
like school and getting a diploma, im
smarter than a lot of ppl that hold that o
so important peice of paper, cuz they have
it doesnt make me any less smart as just
because i have a marriage certificate
doesnt make me ne less in love or devoted
to my husband |
you are entitled to your opinion and i
respect that but you to me are one of
those people whom have gotten married for
the wrong reasons. you cannot compare an
education to the true meaning of marriage
and no it is not just a piece of paper and
neither holding a bachelors degree or a
doctorate. just my
opinion. |
you have no right to say anything about my
marriage. go eat a bag of
dlcks |
i just stated my opinion. you can't handle
what others think then thats too bad for
you..i was mature enough to say that i
respected your opinion as shallow as you
come off . Watch your mouth that was not
necessary!
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 05-11-07 16:24pm
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i dont think it wrong for you to want all
the attention on you nick and finn.
where would you buy a bag of D*cks?
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Emma2
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Posted: 05-11-07 16:28pm
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| gemma_is_here
wrote: | | i don't think it's shallow
to get married because you love each
other. it is the perfect reason. if god
was a good enough reason then why are
there so many
divorces? |
have you read anything she wrote? did she
even mention love? all she talks about is
money....and sweetheart u answered your
own question...because people get married
for the wrong reasons...hence the divorce
rate!
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