I have been dating a guy for a little over
a year. I have known him and was friends
with him for 2 years before I started
dating him.
He moved in with me about 5-6 months ago.
When everything is good, its great. But,
when everything is bad, you'd think its
the end of the world.
I have noticed that he has severe mood
swings. If he is mad or upset about
something, he wants me to be mad and upset
with him and will say things and do things
to get me that way.
He has threatened violence against his
dogs. I have never seen him follow
through with it, but, as I said, I think
some of it is to cause me turmoil.
I am not over-weight and by any means
ugly. But, he tells me that I shouldn't
be eating sweets because my butt is going
to get big. He has made comments about my
clothes - when everyone else told me the
bluejeans I had on looked good - he told
me that they looked awful.
He has never called me a name but has
talked to me badly. He used to have a
really bad habit of screaming, using
profanity, and talking "down" to me just a
few months after we started dating. He
blames it on his dad and says he grew up
living in it so he doesn't even know he's
doing it.
He is 36, has never been married, and has
no children. There's probably a reason
for that!!!
He also withholds sex. He has told me on
several occassions that he was "going to
make me wait" and when it happens, its
over just as quickly as it started. He
never pleases me (heck, he's never given
me an orgasm!!!). He tells me he doesn't
like giving oral sex. He NEVER kisses me
- other than just a peck.
My question is: what form of abuse is
this?
I have read about verbal and emotional
abuse. Am I crazy or does he have some
abusive tendencies?
