Bfn :( Big Fat Negative on pregnancy test Posted: 05-16-07 08:46am
Yep, my dh "forced me to take" a hpt and
it was a bfn. And
he said something that broke my
heart....He said, "Well I dont know why ur
not prego but i know is not me, if you
really loved me and want to have a baby
with me then you should do something about
it." I just stayed quiet because maybe its
me the 1 with the problem...I cant do
anything about it though
I guess its just not time for us. I know
that if i break down that its going to be
worse so like i said b4 i am just blocking
everything out. My dh asked me if i was ok
and i told him that why would i be sad for
something that i already knew...But inside
i want to just break down and cry. If I
am not pregnant then were is af????
Life can be so cruel sometimes... i am not
going to say God is cruel even though i
prayed so hard yesterday. Well girls
seems like this 10 months have been the
worst 10 months of my life. ill be ok, i
am a strong women and i am going to just
wait it out.
Now i have more to be stressed about. I
did gain weight so i have to get on a diet
cause i dont feel good now. Something
that is so funny though is that i actually
thought something happened this month, but
i guess is just not our time and there is
nothing i can do about it. I am going to
focus on things i can change and forget
the things i cant change.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 05-16-07 08:52am
I'm sorry about your bfn. But dont give up
yet. Not until af shows.
How late are you now?
I'm sorry about your dh. Sometimes, they
really don't think before they speak.~Big
hug~. My dh said just this last weekend
"are you ever going to get pregnant" Like I
wasn't trying or something. I asked him
what the f he though we had be doing. And
it hasn't even been that long. But I cried
like a baby. All day. He will start
thinking before he speaks now.
~Big hug~
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wantingajr
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2007 Posts: 169 Location: ,
Posted: 05-16-07 10:32am
mc4ever02
wrote:
I'm sorry about your bfn.
But dont give up yet. Not until af shows.
How late are you now?
I'm sorry about your dh. Sometimes, they
really don't think before they speak.~Big
hug~. My dh said just this last weekend
"are you ever going to get pregnant" Like I
wasn't trying or something. I asked him
what the f he though we had be doing. And
it hasn't even been that long. But I cried
like a baby. All day. He will start
thinking before he speaks now.
~Big hug~
Thanx mc. I am still feeling a little
blue but i'll be ok... I was supposed to
get it when i spotted on the 2nd. I
spotted on the 2nd and 3rd and thats it. I
cant wait till the end of the month that
way i can go the dr. and get the ck up and
also request more tests done. Also i was
going to make an appointment at a
acupuncture clinic to see what they could
do for me so i guess i am excited about
that. I am hoping there is nothing big
and bad happening with me because i am so
ready to be a mom and make my dh a father
again.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 05-16-07 10:48am
It's good your going to the doctor soon.
Hopefully, they will do a blood test while
you are there. Do you already have the
appt set?
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Lele316
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Joined: 20 Apr 2006 Posts: 18 Location: Libert, New York
Posted: 05-16-07 12:40pm
Don't let you dh get you down, men have no
clue about how we feel or what we go thru
when it is something like this. They just
see it as no big deal most of the time,
when it happens it will happen and that's
it.
Me and my dh have been trying for almost 3
yrs, we have done the testing, the iui's,
the clomid, the scheduled um sessions, all
to no avail. The more I read of you other
women going thru the same things me and my
dh are the less alone i feel.
I'm sorry your husbands can be so
insensitive, but hey they're men right.
Me and my dh, well more me cause i just
cant take it no more, have decided to stop
trying and just concentrate on other
things I will be going back to school for
my degree, and in the meantime we will
just be more prepared when we do get
pregnant.
Point is don't let him get you down and
don't worry that a problem could be with
you, its unfortunately likely that there
isn't anything wrong except unexplained
infertility like soooooo many women have.
Hey my mom had it her and my dad tried for
7 yrs to get pregnant, went to drs and
everything no reason for it just not
happening, then when they were about to
adopt she got preg with my bro, then
stayed pregnant for the next 4 yrs til drs
advised her she shouldnt have anymore they
caused to much strain on her. So me and my
dh are just hoping it wont take as long as
her but once we start it will be easier.
So you just have to hang in there.
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wantingajr
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2007 Posts: 169 Location: ,
Posted: 05-16-07 13:39pm
Lele316
wrote:
Don't let you dh get you
down, men have no clue about how we feel
or what we go thru when it is something
like this. They just see it as no big
deal most of the time, when it happens it
will happen and that's it.
Me and my dh have been trying for almost 3
yrs, we have done the testing, the iui's,
the clomid, the scheduled um sessions, all
to no avail. The more I read of you other
women going thru the same things me and my
dh are the less alone i feel.
I'm sorry your husbands can be so
insensitive, but hey they're men right.
Me and my dh, well more me cause i just
cant take it no more, have decided to stop
trying and just concentrate on other
things I will be going back to school for
my degree, and in the meantime we will
just be more prepared when we do get
pregnant.
Point is don't let him get you down and
don't worry that a problem could be with
you, its unfortunately likely that there
isn't anything wrong except unexplained
infertility like soooooo many women have.
Hey my mom had it her and my dad tried for
7 yrs to get pregnant, went to drs and
everything no reason for it just not
happening, then when they were about to
adopt she got preg with my bro, then
stayed pregnant for the next 4 yrs til drs
advised her she shouldnt have anymore they
caused to much strain on her. So me and my
dh are just hoping it wont take as long as
her but once we start it will be easier.
So you just have to hang in
there.
Thanx i really appreciate the support. I
am trying to hang in there. You try and
hang in there as well. Baby dust to us.
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 05-16-07 14:30pm
I am sorry that your hubby is being so
insensitive, has he been tested? It is
good to know that you are doing everything
in your power. I got pregnant after I quit
trying too as sometimes stress does not
help. I wish you the best and know that we
are here for you! Please, try not to let
him get to you even though I know that it
is easier said than done as someone said
before, men are men.
Baby dust to you!
Hugz!
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Posted: 05-16-07 15:13pm
Like everyone else has said, don't let
your hubby get you down. Men just do not
know the best things to say at the best
moments. The truth is that it could very
well be him that has the problem. He
might not have very good swimmers. All
kinds of things can affect his spermies,
like
smoking (anything), drinking, prescription
pills, his package being to hot. There is
a whole lot of things that could be
causing this and you won't know until you
go to the doctor.
It isn't the end of the world sweetie, we
are always here to talk to if you need us.
Just try to stay positive and busy until
you get to go to your doctor at the end of
the month. Chances are they might refer
you to a specialist without you being at
that 12 month mark.
Keep your faith. It will happen one day
for all of us.
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negar
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Feb 2007 Posts: 278 Location: san francisco
Hi Posted: 05-16-07 16:14pm
wantingajr,
honey I am sorry for the bfn and men in
general. You are not alone and men just
don't get it. Hang in there and do
something special for yourself. You will
be ok...We all will be ok one way or
another. I am still waitng for my results
too, cause I may be misscarrying.
Think positive thoughts and be good to
you. you are so pretty and should not
worry about a few pounds. I know it's
easier said than doen, but we are all here
for you. big hug
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wantingajr
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2007 Posts: 169 Location: ,
Hi Posted: 05-17-07 08:28am
negar
wrote:
wantingajr,
honey I am sorry for the bfn and men in
general. You are not alone and men just
don't get it. Hang in there and do
something special for yourself. You will
be ok...We all will be ok one way or
another. I am still waitng for my results
too, cause I may be misscarrying.
Think positive thoughts and be good to
you. you are so pretty and should not
worry about a few pounds. I know it's
easier said than doen, but we are all here
for you. big hug
thank you negar. I am hanging in there (i
try). I am trying so hard not to break
down and like you said i am going to do
something for myself. Maybe I go to the
beach in corpus christy this weekend. I
really, really hope u dont miscarry. I am
keeping you in my prayers. **sticky baby
dust to you**
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wantingajr
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2007 Posts: 169 Location: ,
Posted: 05-18-07 13:46pm
*star*
wrote:
Like everyone else has said,
don't let your hubby get you down. Men
just do not know the best things to say at
the best moments. The truth is that it
could very well be him that has the
problem. He might not have very good
swimmers. All kinds of things can affect
his spermies, like
smoking (anything), drinking, prescription
pills, his package being to hot. There is
a whole lot of things that could be
causing this and you won't know until you
go to the doctor.
It isn't the end of the world sweetie, we
are always here to talk to if you need us.
Just try to stay positive and busy until
you get to go to your doctor at the end of
the month. Chances are they might refer
you to a specialist without you being at
that 12 month mark.
Keep your faith. It will happen one day
for all of us.
its so hard to keep the faith when every
month i get a bfn ya know. Well i am
trying to no loose it. Thanx!
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Life can be so cruel sometimes... i am not
going to say God is cruel even though i
prayed so hard yesterday. Well girls
seems like this 10 months have been the
worst 10 months of my life. ill be ok, i
am a strong women and i am going to just
wait it out.
Like I
wasn't trying or something. I asked him
what the f he though we had be doing. And
it hasn't even been that long. But I cried
like a baby. All day. He will start
thinking before he speaks now.
