Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
Is Sex Important? Posted: 05-17-07 23:34pm
Thought I would try posting this in other
areas to get other input. Any input might
help save me from argueing so much about
this topic with the bf.
Just curious ladies or men on some of
your thoughts.
Is sex important to maintain a healthy
relationship? Why or why not?
My bf seems to think it isn't and of
course I do. I see it as not so much the
intercourse but being more of the feeling
needed, wanted, the intamacy you know
ect..
So maybe if I get some input from others I
can show him that it is not just me
wanting just the "sex" there are reasons
behind it. It has been 2 months since the
last time we had sex. He is on meds that
take the want for sex away.
Your inputs would be greatly appreciated
because I am about to go crazy and we
argue about it all the time.
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Rockin813
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 May 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Kansas city. MO
Posted: 05-18-07 14:17pm
is he able to have sex. a lot of men put
off the importance of a healthy sexual
relationship because they are having
difficulty performing or have anxiety
about performance.
does he have night time erections? does he
get spontaneous erections?
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Stan
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Posted: 05-18-07 16:27pm
Yeah, it's important.
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Cheri2
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2007 Posts: 7
Posted: 05-18-07 23:46pm
I think you're absolutely right, Heather.
It's not the intercourse itself, it's
about feeling wanted and sexy. My husband
and I typically go at least a month
without sex and that would be no problem
if he just made me FEEL like he wanted to
have sex with me. If he doesn't have much
a sex drive he should at least tell you
how good you look every so often and maybe
you guys could just fool around. He should
still take care of your needs. Preach on
sister!!
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paul995
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 140 Location: ,
Posted: 05-19-07 02:05am
i think it is. However, i must say that's
it's not an indication that if you have a
lot of sex, it would translate into a
healthy relationship. there are other
things that would make a relationship
stronger. But sex is one of them. Intimacy
and feeling wanted, like you said is what
sex is all about and should not be pure
phsical. If you feel the latter, then
there is a problem . . .
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ladyT83
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Apr 2007 Posts: 44
Posted: 05-23-07 17:53pm
Yup sex is important in order to have a
healthy relationship were you feel
fullfilled. Me and my guy have been
together for 7mnths but we still go at it
like rabbits lol. He was telling me he's
never had a relationship were hes felt
like he's making love. Or had rough sex
and kinky sex and romance all rolled into
one. And he's had way more experiance than
I have. (he was sexually active since he
was 14) so I'm proud I give him that.
And its true that just cause you have a
lot of sex doesn't mean your relationships
healthy. It could just be that his
medication is causing his libido to wane.
My depo shot for birthcontrol used to do
that to me
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Shady41
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jun 2007 Posts: 28 Location: midwest
Posted: 06-14-07 11:38am
Whether or not it is important depends on
where people are in their relationship and
the myrdiad variables that come into play
in an individual. To ask if sex is
important to a healthy relationship is
simply too simplistic.
