Hey all ! Well i'm 17 years old virgin. So
like 2 days ago, me and my girlfriend were
at a friend's party. I used some alcohol,
and so did she. So we went to another
room, and started to make love, I gave her
foreplay, I went down on her, and
according to her nailprints on my back,
she liked it. But when I was about to
penetrate her, I just lost my errection. I
put on the condom, and when I was about to
enter, it just went limp, nothing, just
went soft, and I was not able to get it
hard anymore. But when we just meet
eachother daily, and do some kissing, and
just play with each other, my penus is
rock hard,and when I masturbate, it is
rock hard, really HARD ! But after that
night, I'm really worried about it. OMG I
feel like I'm like only a half-man, or
something. She is also a virgin, and it
was the 1st time for both of us, and I
just destroyed it, I feel so misserable,
depressed and so ashamed. She said to me
it's ok, and she understands it, but im
not sure, if she really thinks like that.
Please guys give me some tips, I soon got
exams comming, and due to this problem,
I'm really depressed. Was it becouse of
the alcohol, or what ? Please Help And like one of the
topics below, I feel so low, and lonely, I
also want to run far away, so noone knowes
me I exist. I dont want to speak to my
friends about this or anything. I feel so
lost.
Please help.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 05-19-07 13:44pm
It was probably either the alcohol or your
being nervous. It happens. It's not a
big deal. When you're ready
to try again, make sure you are somewhere
you can relax, take your time, and feel
comfortable. You'll get it eventually.
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paul995
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 140 Location: ,
Posted: 05-20-07 02:06am
agree! when I drink too much alcohol,
sometimes i have a hard time getting an
erection or I don't really feel doing it.
Unlike of course, if i'm just sober or at
least tipsy, i could still handle it. But
when I'm really drunk, it just can't be
done. Another thing that might have cause
your winky to be shy was because it was
your first time and first times can be
really nerve-wracking. When your nervous,
"it" won't paticipate.
Go to a very comfortable place where only
you two can be intimate. I think it will
do you good.
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Mangucho
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2007 Posts: 26
Posted: 05-21-07 15:00pm
paul995
wrote:
agree! when I drink too much
alcohol, sometimes i have a hard time
getting an erection or I don't really feel
doing it. Unlike of course, if i'm just
sober or at least tipsy, i could still
handle it. But when I'm really drunk, it
just can't be done. Another thing that
might have cause your winky to be shy was
because it was your first time and first
times can be really nerve-wracking. When
your nervous, "it" won't paticipate.
Go to a very comfortable place where only
you two can be intimate. I think it will
do you good.
Ok uhm, you said that its nerve-wrekcing
on first time, but wont I be nervous
during the 2nd time ? I think I have now
fear, that it happens again, also my
girlfriend is afraid that it happens
again, or she thinks i will really go in
depression. please give me some tips, how
I can relax, and forget about that
"getting it hard" thing during foreplay ?
Please help.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 05-21-07 16:47pm
Relaxing is all up to you. You have to be
comfortable with your partner and
confident that you will not be disturbed.
You have to be comfortable with your body.
You have to be able to accept the fact
that sex does not always go 100% according
to plan and that it might not be like it
is in the pornos. What you described is
very normal.
If you and your parter are that upset
about something that is a very normal part
of sex, it is possible that one or both of
you are not ready. When you are truly for
sex, there should not be too many things
that will cause you to be embarrassed in
front of your partner.
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And like one of the
topics below, I feel so low, and lonely, I
also want to run far away, so noone knowes
me I exist. I dont want to speak to my
friends about this or anything. I feel so
lost.
When you're ready
to try again, make sure you are somewhere
you can relax, take your time, and feel
comfortable. You'll get it eventually.