Thinking

I dont think your able to find yourself, i think that life has to find you.. I think that going through experiances makes you who you are. I've gone through some heartbreaking things in life but its made me the person that I am today. I believe that we are raised with values that help us with our path but that actually exploring that path is what installs them..

Just what I think.. and trust me im only 21 so i know i have a .l.o.n.g way to go

that actually makes sense lol and i know what you mean.

i know im only 16 so i definitely have a lot left to learn.

i just want to be a better person and be happy with myself lol i just dont know how to get there.

.finding your self is very hard. .i don't think we will ever truly know who we are in our entirety because we are constantly changing and adapting. .my boyfriend has helped me tremendously in seeing who .i am as a person and how past events have shaped me. .you have years to figure it out so don't worry about it too much.

.one important thing to know is that you will find a lot of things out about yourself once you finally accept who you have become.

-.danielle

true plus i think you are always changing as a person.. I know im a completely different person now then i was at even 18.. I think thats why so many marriages fail too..

Finding yourself is when you take time out (physically and/or mentally) to find out who you really are.

what parts of you are really you and what is there because society says you must?

when the influences of society are stripped away - who are you then?

what do you supress because society says it's wrong?

what stuff do you do/don't do because "you were bought up that way"?

I agree that life finds you and if you don't like what it brings you change and it changes. See a lot of things, try a lot of things, and be open minded. What you may think is silly or you don't think you would be interested in at all may be what you are suited for.

Before you can change the things that you don't like about yourself you have to find things that you really do like about yourself. That is what gives you self confidence.

I think you're on the right path just by asking that question. Give yourself a little credit for having a little more on your mind than a lot of people much older and supposedly wiser than you. Experience takes time, but being a thoughtful person is what turns your experiences into insight and wisdom. Give yourself time to grow up and don't be in a rush. Enjoy your life as it is now because being 16 doesn't last forever. You have to be intentional about not talking negatively to yourself or others. Like saying, "I don't feel good about myself", while it may be a true expression of your feelings, saying it too often can make it more true. Try to say some good things about yourself and others that are just as true like " I am a thoughtful and intelligent young woman with a whole life of opportunities and experiences ahead of me ". It's just as true but it's a positive affirmation of who you are that has nothing to do with looks or status or other superficial things. Be kind to yourself like you are to others and keep thinking those deep thoughts. There's nothing wrong with who you are as a person right now.

terra, people live long lives and never find themselves.....it is true life finds you...but also time changes you constantly....you're 16 and a smart 16 yrs old. enjoy your youth it only comes around once!

lol .terra, you're too cute!

You have soo much time to "find yourself" or let "life find you". You are so mature for your age... that's a good thing... but try not to worry too much

wait i think i found you....yep there you are you are on the otherside of my screen...silly terra i found ya.

Some people probably wont agree, but I'm going for it anyways....

I think you need to sit down and take a good look at yourself and at the future you want.

You should set goals to help you acheive these things. (mind you it may take a while to really figure out what you want from life, it's not something that happens over night)

I'm a very goal oriented person. I know what I want to acheive in my life and I know how. I think that is how you find yourself. By know what you (and only you) want in life and gong for it. If you flounder and go after an easy job or relationship (just an example) or a feild that your parents 'expect' you will never find youinstead you'll find the 'you' everyone else wants you to be.