Joined: 23 Feb 2006 Posts: 106 Location: Tampa, Florida
Anyone Have a Take On This ? Posted: 05-22-07 07:44am
So everytime i read in the pregnancy
forums a young girl asking if she could be
pregnant i feel bad for them but i also
just wanna smack upside the head and tell
them to be smarter then that. i mean 8 out
of 10 of my friends have babies now and
weve only been out of school for two years
but 5 of those girls got pregnant during
high school one even in 9th grade. i love
them but i also remember how hard it was
for them while they were in high school
and a couple dropped out. anyways i feel
the need to rant about the state of
florida's abstinence curriculum.
i have to say that in some of these young
girls defense but not an excuse these
girls today arent at all informed about
pregnancy or their periods. they are also
reading these celeb mags and all this baby
craze is glamourizing having children when
in reality a celeb having a baby is
totally different then a normal person
(i.e. they have the option of a nanny and
still have a life and duh their super
rich!) i think honestly that all these
girls arent gettin enough information in
their sex ed class. i know they tell you
three things. Use protection, they semi
inform you on std's and then they tell you
but ultimatly abstinence is just the best
way. this isnt informing these girls about
their periods or pregnancy..i have 20 yrs
old and still remember my sex ed class
very vividly and my teacher was the
football couch who really couldnt give a
damn about what he was teaching. we took
maybe a whole day on womens periods and
all they are really allowed to say is well
if you think your pregnant then go to
planned parenthood lol..but not even
really that. idk what i can do but i wish
there was something i could do about the
curriculum because these girls really need
to be informed and maybe even scared out
of being stupid and not wrapping it up.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-22-07 08:06am
as much as I agre with what your saying
about them briefing sexual education in
school I think it is the parents
responsibility to talk to their children
about things like this.the parents need to
explain everything,talk about girl and boy
bits and condoms and std's a such.
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Blink for Soup
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Joined: 23 Feb 2006 Posts: 106 Location: Tampa, Florida
Posted: 05-22-07 08:15am
see i think if they just had a consent
form for the parents to sign then it would
be better for the teachers to teach
lol..you have to also realize..some
parents arent the best of resorces to
learn about sex,stds and pregnancy.
teachers have and know how to get ahold of
so many resorces. but i do see your point
too and if some parents think they can do
a better job then thats great, i just dont
think parents are envolved enough in their
kids sex lives that they are in denial of.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-22-07 08:42am
Blink for Soup
wrote:
see i think if they just had
a consent form for the parents to sign
then it would be better for the teachers
to teach lol..you have to also
realize..some parents arent the best of
resorces to learn about sex,stds and
pregnancy. teachers have and know how to
get ahold of so many resorces. but i do
see your point too and if some parents
think they can do a better job then thats
great, i just dont think parents are
envolved enough in their kids sex lives
that they are in denial
of.
true.Well when I was
younger my parents brought me and y
ssiters to the library and we sat with
some books and they taught us.I think if
yiur smart enough,anyone could find the
recources necessary to teach their kids,ya
know?here where I live,the parents do have
to sign a consent to teach kids about
sex.Even then though that class didn't
teach me much,my parents taught me
more.maybe parents are too uncomfortable
with talking to their kids about it but
its something very important and
kids/teens need to know all the facts so
they make the right decisions and protect
themselves
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Blink for Soup
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Joined: 23 Feb 2006 Posts: 106 Location: Tampa, Florida
Posted: 05-22-07 08:57am
ya we both can agree on that. when i read
all these post these young girls are
making and they all just seem so
uneducated. kudos to your parents for
utilizing the resources they have! my mom
took me into the bathroom when i was 11
and layed it all on me lol. but when i
started having sex instead of her knowing
that no matter what i was going to have
sex she just "forbid" it instead of
helping me get condoms and BC (it never
stopped me though lol)..im not saying to
condone sexual activity for 16 yr olds but
theyre going to have sex so instead of
forbiding it or telling them abstinence is
the only way..help them learn to prevent
std and pregnancy. and if they choose not
to then consequences for their actions.
alot of them just think oh ill just get
pregnant and have an abortion or give it
up for adoption or even yay ill have a
baby but they dont realize whats going to
happen. or with std's they just "dont
think it will happen to them".
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kaerbear
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Posted: 05-22-07 09:15am
I think parents should take on more
responsibility in that area but I also
think if you're concerned about it you can
always lobby the school board in your area
to do more when it comes to sex-ed.
People who oppose it can always opt out if
they want to. The thing is it's not just
a nuts and bolts issue, there are values
involved and those are up to the parents
and family to instill in a child and not
just girls but boys because they are half
of the equation. We need to start
teaching young men to be more involved and
more responsible in this area as well.
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Blink for Soup
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Joined: 23 Feb 2006 Posts: 106 Location: Tampa, Florida
Posted: 05-22-07 09:27am
I agree about the boys as well i just
think that when it gets down to it, its us
women who have to go through pregnancy.
but definatly with the std's. but i
understand that some people have religious
views and its too bad that some people
think that because of their religion and
beliefs they just tell their kids to not
have sex without addressing the problem.
but ya ill look into lobbying my school
board. although florida is a "republican"
state and most of republicans beleive
abstinence only curriculum is the way to
go. so it'll be tough.
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mamaTT
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Posted: 05-22-07 12:09pm
I agree that parents should take a more
active role in educating their kids about
sex. My parents did not talk to me about
it at all. Everything I learned, was what
was briefly taught in school and then just
'learning as you go.' When the time
comes, I will make sure my child(ren) hear
things from me or my husband. I want them
to be better educated about it than I was.
I want them to understand the risks that
come along with sex. It may be an
uncomfortable topic to talk about with
your kids, but it's best they hear from
you and not someone else; or no one at
all.
