Erectile Dysfunction ; Any Help Appreciated ! Posted: 05-22-07 08:54am
Well; after spending an hour reading up on
the trials and tribulations of other men;
I have decided to post up mine. ... sorry
its so long!
I'm a healthy (or am i?) 23 year old male,
don't smoke, drink or do drugs (EVER in 23
years); completely straight edge. Have had
one relationship so far for a year and a
half. We were very sexual and i've never
had an issue keeping it up. Maybe the odd
time but that was associated more with
being tired/losing the mood. I have not
yet forgiven her for what she did.
That relationship ended last year sometime
shortly after my best friend passed away.
Shortly after ending, she slept with one
of my friends and this is where I spiraled
into a bit of hysteria.
I came out of it though....started taking
care of myself, working out, eating
right...got a new look, met new people and
of course that eventually led to meeting
my now current girlfriend. It's hot, were
into each other, we fool around and we've
even had some damn good sex! Right down to
the point where she could barely find the
breath to ask me to stop!
Sigh; how i wish those days would come
back. Lately, I've been having trouble
maintaining an erection while heading
towards intercourse. During initial
foreplay im fine but when come time for
penetration I lose it. This has happened
overall about 5-6 times now...but not in a
row. The wild sex I mentioned we had was
in between those times.
I suspect something psychological.....I've
noticed little things annoy me; her stupid
roommates and their judgements of us in
the next room, the fact we dont really
have our own bed and are always either in
the backseat of my car.....or on a couch.
Also temperature....if I'm in the back of
the car with only my member exposed i'm
like a rock! ....I nearly sent her head
through the roof! ....
Despite all this, last night, after a
whole week of waiting for her to get off
her period, we had the whole place to
ourselves, no one around.....I was not
able to deliver. I made it in, but come
time to switch positions...I lost it. My
temperature seems to drop rapidly when
this happens. Later on after warming back
up, I was able to penetrate again, only to
lose it after losing wind. She finished me
off (being the sexy, good souled person
that she is) with oral sex.....and I was
at attention for that.... weird!
I Love her. She Loves me and she will be
with me through this...I know that much. I
am by nature I know when to accept a
loss. I have confided in her all i can. I
dont want to lose her.
But what now? Viagra? Sigh.
I'll be making an appointment/sit-in with
my doc later today.
Thanks for reading!
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Re: Erectile Dysfunction; Any Help Appreciated! Posted: 05-22-07 09:05am
mavspire
wrote:
Well; after spending an hour
reading up on the trials and tribulations
of other men; I have decided to post up
mine. ... sorry its so long!
I'm a healthy (or am i?) 23 year old male,
don't smoke, drink or do drugs (EVER in 23
years); completely straight edge. Have had
one relationship so far for a year and a
half. We were very sexual and i've never
had an issue keeping it up. Maybe the odd
time but that was associated more with
being tired/losing the mood. I have not
yet forgiven her for what she did.
That relationship ended last year sometime
shortly after my best friend passed away.
Shortly after ending, she slept with one
of my friends and this is where I
spiralled into a bit of hysteria.
I came out of it though....started taking
care of myself, working out, eating
right...got a new look, met new people and
of course that eventually led to meeting
my now current girlfriend. It's hot, were
into each other, we fool around and we've
even had some damn good sex! Right down to
the point where she could barely find the
breath to ask me to stop!
Sigh; how i wish those days would come
back. Lately, I've been having trouble
maintaining an erection while heading
towards intercourse. During initial
foreplay im fine but when come time for
penetration I lose it. This has happened
overall about 5-6 times now...but not in a
row. The wild sex I mentioned we had was
in between those times.
I suspect something psychological.....I've
noticed little things annoy me; her stupid
roommates and their judgements of us in
the next room, the fact we dont really
have our own bed and are always either in
the backseat of my car.....or on a couch.
Also temperature....if I'm in the back of
the car with only my member exposed i'm
like a rock! ....I nearly sent her head
through the roof! ....
Despite all this, last night, after a
whole week of waiting for her to get off
her period, we had the whole place to
ourselves, no one around.....I was not
able to deliver. I made it in, but come
time to switch positions...I lost it. My
temperature seems to drop rapidly when
this happens. Later on after warming back
up, I was able to penetrate again, only to
lose it after losing wind.
I Love her. She Loves me and she will be
with me through this...I know that much. I
am by nature I know when to accept a
loss. I have confided in her all i can. I
dont want to lose her.
But what now? Viagra? Sigh.
I'll be making an appointment/sit-in with
my doc later today.
Thanks for
reading!
From a womens point of view.. This
happened to my Husband too. The more he
worried about it the less it got up and he
got him so worried he even gave up
trying.. I sat him down and told him try
anyways and if it comes up and stays hard
cool.. if not. Don't worry about it..
Guess what. He quite worrying about it and
now he has no problems. It even did it
with celias.. You worry so much about
losing your erection you make it go soft..
I would ask the Doc if there might be
anything wrong with you. Have him check
your blood pressure. there are a lot of
medical things that can cause this too.
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Re: Erectile Dysfunction; Any Help Appreciated! Posted: 05-22-07 09:19am
meblonde01
wrote:
From a womens point of view.. This
happened to my Husband too. The more he
worried about it the less it got up and he
got him so worried he even gave up
trying.. I sat him down and told him try
anyways and if it comes up and stays hard
cool.. if not. Don't worry about it..
Guess what. He quite worrying about it and
now he has no problems. It even did it
with celias.. You worry so much about
losing your erection you make it go soft..
I would ask the Doc if there might be
anything wrong with you. Have him check
your blood pressure. there are a lot of
medical things that can cause this
too.
Thanks for your reply melblonde01... i
really appreciate it!
So despite taking something like Celias
(which is a blood thinner?) your husband
was still not able to overcome it until he
simply believed in himself/you? wow.
I wonder if sitting down and simply
letting go of some of my hang ups work.
Maybe forgive the ex?
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Re: Erectile Dysfunction; Any Help Appreciated! Posted: 05-22-07 09:36am
mavspire
wrote:
meblonde01
wrote:
From a womens point of view.. This
happened to my Husband too. The more he
worried about it the less it got up and he
got him so worried he even gave up
trying.. I sat him down and told him try
anyways and if it comes up and stays hard
cool.. if not. Don't worry about it..
Guess what. He quite worrying about it and
now he has no problems. It even did it
with celias.. You worry so much about
losing your erection you make it go soft..
I would ask the Doc if there might be
anything wrong with you. Have him check
your blood pressure. there are a lot of
medical things that can cause this
too.
Thanks for your reply melblonde01... i
really appreciate it!
So despite taking something like Celias
(which is a blood thinner?) your husband
was still not able to overcome it until he
simply believed in himself/you? wow.
I wonder if sitting down and simply
letting go of some of my hang ups work.
Maybe forgive the
ex?
yep.. I think you have to not only Love
but you have to have a very open
relationship.. Tell her why you might be
having troubles.. Get close besides making
Love.. I think you will see it will all be
ok..I just kept telling my Husband it
didn''t matter and we would just keep
trying if it happened it happened.. That
took pressure off him.. You need to open
up so you and your girl can have a
conversation like that. Good luck.
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mavspire
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Joined: 22 May 2007 Posts: 3
Re: Erectile Dysfunction; Any Help Appreciated! Posted: 05-22-07 09:56am
meblonde01
wrote:
yep.. I think you have to not only Love
but you have to have a very open
relationship.. Tell her why you might be
having troubles.. Get close besides making
Love.. I think you will see it will all be
ok..I just kept telling my Husband it
didn''t matter and we would just keep
trying if it happened it happened.. That
took pressure off him.. You need to open
up so you and your girl can have a
conversation like that. Good
luck.
Hi Mel,
Just got off the phone with her just now
actually she told me herself she wasn't
worried at all about last night...and it
definitely took some weight off my
shoulders. She was still her fun giggly
self and....well heck it made my day.
I'll have a talk with her and see how
things go....
Good luck.