Girl Doesnt Want Relationship Inless I Am "the One"

You just answered your own question. Apparently she has kinda put you on the spot....if you are the one........you arel eaving for college in a few days, what will she do in the mean time???????? You should think more of your own future and education than trying to allow someone who seems to want to manipulate you. If she really care about you, she'd tell you and not play games. If she LOVED you, she'd be willing to do everything in her power to make it happen (the two of you would be a couple and a realtionship would be in order). Does this make sense? You are young, and sometimes the heart plays games with our head.... Just don't want you to be strung along or get your heart broken....been there and done that too many times!

Sometimes I really want to just get over her, but its hard. I don't know how to go about it. When I don't talk to her it breaks my heart to know that she is sad. What do most people do to get over someone? It will be easier once I am in college but the summer before it will be difficult.

You ahve such a tender heart, and that an honorable thing.........you need to find something that will distract you, such as a hobby or something you can get interested in that will occupy your mind and your time. Yes, once you are away in college, it would be much easier, but, if you prolong it, you are only making it worse on the both of you. Can you not end thsi as FRIENDS? Talk to this girl and tell her you are about to be leaving and you still want to be friends with her. If things heat up on down the road fine, if not fine. But either way, you have been honest. Why is she all sad?his the one who can't make up her mind if she's in love with you and wnats a relationsship. How old are you guys???????????You got it, I sound liek a MOM cause I am one, just not your typical MOM! I put myselif in the shoes of when I was your age and then I can realte you better. I may be a while getting back on this....supper to cook....just use you head.

yeah, it sounds like she's playing games with you. that's wrong. how could she know you aren't "the one" without giving you a chance?
And if she thinks she could tell that you are the one, obviosly she must be saying that you aren't. you deserve better

if i were in your situation, i would say, i'd move on. i won't let myself be in a position where the future is uncertain. the girl might be confused. respect that. she might have a traumatic experience before that's why she's hesitant to commit again. i don't know her history. and probably you don't know either. but if that's the case, then distance yourself from her. you don't want to pass on opportunities that might come along your way. sure she's a beautiful girl, but she's not just the girl in the world. she doesn't want to commit, then look for someone who can. you seem to be a serious guy when it comes to relationship, otherwise this won't bother you.

Damn Paul, you seem to know the situation without me even saying it. About her past and all. Thanks for your input and to everyone else who replied. I think ill just try to move on. I have college to look forward too!

sure thing. moving on might be hard, but you'd be able to get through it. Trust yourself.