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tiger21
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Posted: 05-22-07 20:04pm
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hey you guys i'm new here. I am a virgin
and one night me and my BF were just
laying down watching TV. He started
kissing me and going down from there. He
gets to my pants takes them off and starts
giving me head. I wasn't expecting it and
i didn't know what to do. All of a sudden
my legs started twitching like crazy and
just squirming all over the place but he
didn't stop (i didn't tell him to). And I
was shaking like crazy. I wanted to know
if someone can tell me why i was
twitching, squirming and shaking? I was
shaking soo much he stopped and just went
to sleep. Is this not normal?
And another this is when ever I see him I
get so wet down in my private area i dont
understand why. Its embarrassing cause i
had a wet spot on my pants like i have
peed my pants. When ever i see him it
happens does anyone know how i can get
this too stop or do you know what it is?
if so why does this happen?
Please help
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 05-22-07 20:20pm
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Sounds like you were twitching because it
felt good, and you get wet because you're
attracted to him. All sounds normal to
me.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 05-22-07 20:54pm
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You sound very healthy, though perhaps a
little young...
The shaking and twitching is very normal.
I assume you have masturbated before and
know what orgasm feels like? Did it feel
good at all?
He may have been placing too much
stimulation on our clitoris, or you may
just not have enough expereince with
masturbation on your own to be able to
relax during sexual encounters. Talk to
him about it. I shake too during oral, but
only when I orgasm! (I got some mind
blowing fingering from my fiancee last
night... I think I woke the neighboors
lol)
Next, the wetness you get when you see him
is also totally normal; and you're in fact
lucky that you get that wet! That wetness
is lubrication for when you someday decide
to have sex. Being well lubricated makes
sex much more easy and enoyable  You get wet because
you are aroused, turned on, etc. It sounds
like your body at least finds your
boyfriend to be very, very sexy! You
can't stop your body from doing this; it's
healthy and natural.
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amethyst eyes
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Posted: 05-22-07 20:55pm
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.both sound like a normal reaction to me.
.when you are attracted to someone your
body gets aroused and naturally produces
lubrication in case of sexual inter
course. .without that lube sex would be
painful and could cause tearing and
bleeding for some women.
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tiger21
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Posted: 05-22-07 21:17pm
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| Eiri
wrote: | You sound very healthy,
though perhaps a little young...
The shaking and twitching is very normal.
I assume you have masturbated before and
know what orgasm feels like? Did it feel
good at all? |
Hey thanks. Im 21. When it happened it
felt good just couldnt stop shaking and
stuff and i didnt know what was going on.
I dont masturbate so i dont know what a
orgasm feels like. Something may a have
happened cause my legs locked out and it
felt I cant explain it. This happened more
than once.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 05-22-07 21:48pm
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Girl, you need to masturbate 
It will help you so much. You need to know
what an orgasm feels like! That way you
can help control yourself when your
boyfriend is driving you nuts
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Georgia59
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Posted: 05-23-07 13:14pm
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Most women have discharge when they're
turned on, or just all the time. If you
get too wet, you can wear a light pad, or
just deal with it.
Sounds like you're fine.
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tiger21
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Posted: 05-23-07 21:17pm
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| Georgia59
wrote: | Most women have discharge
when they're turned on, or just all the
time. If you get too wet, you can wear a
light pad, or just deal with it.
Sounds like you're
fine. |
well the wettness only happens when im
around him. It's weird cause it never
happened with any of my other BF's in the
past. When ever i hear his voice on the
phone, then when we are together it
happens.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 05-24-07 11:00am
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| tiger21
wrote: | | Georgia59
wrote: | Most women have discharge
when they're turned on, or just all the
time. If you get too wet, you can wear a
light pad, or just deal with it.
Sounds like you're
fine. |
well the wettness only happens when im
around him. It's weird cause it never
happened with any of my other BF's in the
past. When ever i hear his voice on the
phone, then when we are together it
happens. |
it sounds like you're really turned on by
him!! You don't have to be conscious of
this, it just happens.
After the first time I had sex, I was
getting turned on all day long lol. It
made my face flush and everything, pretty
annoying!
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fiona05
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Posted: 05-24-07 11:22am
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whenever i twitch during oral sex it is
because he is being too rough with my
clitoris! bear in mind it could be this.
you have to experiment with yourself and
with him to find out what you like.
i also get the leg locking thing too!!
haha. just before i orgasm, it's quite
annoying and painful!
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tiger21
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Posted: 05-24-07 16:32pm
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| fiona05
wrote: | whenever i twitch during
oral sex it is because he is being too
rough with my clitoris! bear in mind it
could be this. you have to experiment
with yourself and with him to find out
what you like.
i also get the leg locking thing too!!
haha. just before i orgasm, it's quite
annoying and
painful! |
Lol thanks you guys. It makes me feel
better to know these things cause i didnt
know what was going. The next day when i
woke up my legs hurt really bad.
This is the first time i have ever allowed
a guy to get this close to me. Its just
something about him I guess i feel safe
with him. My other BF's couldnt even hug
or touch me in anyway. I would just freak
out. But its soo different with him. I'm
so scared about giving up my virginity,i
guess cause i dont like pain. And I know
people said it hurts really bad. And when
it comes to pain Im a crybaby lol.
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 05-24-07 16:53pm
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| tiger21
wrote: | | I'm so scared about giving
up my virginity,i guess cause i dont like
pain. And I know people said it hurts
really bad. And when it comes to pain Im a
crybaby lol. |
This topic comes up all of the time. Sex
should not hurt. If it does, it is a sign
that something is not quite right. It
often hurts first timers because they
don't know much about their body.
The most common reason for pain during
sex, first time or otherwise, is lack of
lubrication. A lot of first timers don't
know that. They also are often nervous,
and when you're nervous, you don't produce
as much lubrication. Also, first timers
often try to skip the foreplay for one
reason or another, maybe they want to
hurry before parents walk in or they just
don't know much about foreplay. First
timers might want to buy a lubricant at
the store. Then, even if they are a bit
nervous, they should have enough.
The second most common cause of pain
during sex is being nervous. Being
nervous makes your muscles tense. When
your vagina is clenched tight, it can make
sex impossible, difficult, or painful.
The third reason is various gynecological
problems that you would have to see your
ob-gyn about, but that's not as common.
So if you just take your time, know about
your body, understand lubrication, and
relax, you can easily have a pain free
first time. It does often hurt the first
time, but that pain could have been
prevented in almost every case if the
people had just known a little more about
their own bodies first.
I am a huge baby too, so I would be the
first to complain if something hurt. I
have never felt pain during sex, however.
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tiger21
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Posted: 05-24-07 17:17pm
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Ok thanks when the time comes i will try
and remember that. So if im well
lubricated and relax and not be nervous
there shouldnt be any bleeding after? I
have heard people also say that they bleed
after their first time having sex.
In my case since i guess i dont have a
problem getting wet do you think i should
buy a lubricant? I guess it wouldnt hurt
to buy any.
Another reason why im scared about losing
my virgnity is because so many people
scare the hell out of me which causes me
not want to do it. I hear all these scary
things and i wont do it. I guess i cant
listen to what people say when they have
no idea of what they are talking about. Im
going to be a old lady when i lose my
virginity lol.
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amethyst eyes
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Posted: 05-24-07 17:40pm
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.you should do it when you feel
comfortable, not when other people say you
should. .this is about you and your
partner not them.
.as for the lube, .i would keep some and
hand just in case, but .i didn't need my
first time. .their can be bleeding if
your hymen is intact and broken during
sex, but it wasn't painful for me and
actually didn't happen until our second
time. It wasn't very painful for me but
it probably didn't help that he is big,
but it is definitely something .i enjoy
now.
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Posted: 05-24-07 17:44pm
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ahhh.....I was a bit confused because you
said that "he started giving you head!"
Isn't that term used if you have a penis
and not a vagina?
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 05-24-07 17:46pm
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| ladylee70
wrote: | | ahhh.....I was a bit
confused because you said that "he started
giving you head!" Isn't that term used if
you have a penis and not a
vagina? |
I have heard it used for both.
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 05-24-07 17:55pm
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Yeah, I would probably grab a lubricant
from the store just in case. Better safe
than sorry. I did not need any my first
time. Some people do, some don't. If
you're kind of nervous about the whole
thing, then it's probably good to have
it.
You might have some bleeding, but probably
not. A lot of vaginal bleeding is caused
by rips and tears to the vagina because
people try to have sex without enough
lubrication.
The hymen also might bleed a bit during
sex if it is still intact, as opal said.
However, most girls tear their hymen
before they have sex through masturbation,
tampon use, or even running and jumping.
When the hymen tears there is usually
little or no pain or blood. Some women do
have a thick hymen that stays intact even
after sex though. Theirs might hurt or
bleed a bit more than usual when it does
break.
I have never had bleeding during or after
sex.
You're right that you can't listen to
other people too much. For one thing,
everyone is different. They have
different ideas about when people should
have sex, or when they are ready. They
have different ideas about who should have
sex with whom. Also, most people aren't
doctors. A lot of people are actually
pretty clueless about sex and anatomy.
That's why there are so many crazy myths
about it. So you can't let them tell you
when it is the right time for you, and you
can't let them scare with stories about
pain, or blood, or anything else.
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Posted: 05-24-07 18:11pm
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| Llewellyn
wrote: | | ladylee70
wrote: | | ahhh.....I was a bit
confused because you said that "he started
giving you head!" Isn't that term used if
you have a penis and not a
vagina? |
I have heard it used for both. |
Really? Interesting. I don't understand
why, but interesting.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 05-24-07 20:01pm
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My first time didn't hurt at all - and
trust me, my fiancee is not little
It was totally comfortable, not nervous at
all, and blessed with being a very juicy
gal down there.
I did not bleed my first time or for many
times after (months!). I bled once, in the
shower, because the string of skin that
counted as my hymen finally snapped.
Normally I just moved it out of the way.
Go slow, and be comfortable From what you've
said, I don't think you'll have a problem
in the natural lubrication department
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Posted: 05-26-07 10:28am
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Aside of lubricants when you plan to have
sex what you also need to think is regards
pregnancy. Are you on birth control? And
do you know all about birth control? Are
you ready to face unexceptected pregnancy?
How you would deal with it? Will abortion
be the option and would you feel good
about it? Did you took the hpv(human
papilloma virus) shot? This vaccine is now
available for hpv that wasn't available
just a year ago and it's very good idea to
get it before you ever have sex.
good luck
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