Re: Could My Baby Still Be Normal? Posted: 06-08-07 23:13pm
Gelah
wrote:
after all my 'abortion'
attempts..i've decided to continue my
pregnancy... my parents found out few days
ago and they insist that i should keep the
baby. and i have to stop my schooling.
i've took 12 Cytotec during my first
3months and 30 Ibuprofen tablets... i'm
going to raise this kid. it's already
4months. i'm afraid that the baby would be
defective and all, i regretted everything
i did just to get rid of it. could the
doctor tell if my baby have defects and
all? are there things to do to fix
'it'?
Why do you need to quit school? Many women
who decide to give birth and keep the baby
are able to continue schooling. If your
parents are trying to force you to quit,
then I feel you need to look to the
government for help. Depending on where
you are, there can be programs to help
young single mothers get through school so
their futures aren't ruined by the
unexpected child.
You do need to go to a doctor for multiple
reasons. First of all, these attempts may
have harmed the child so much that it
would actually be meaner to give birth and
far more dangerous than it would be to
abort. Many people don't realize that
abortion can be merciful. But the only way
to know is to go get an ultrasound
performed, and inform the doctor of
everything you've done. You need to do
this for your health too. The doctor can
identify the exact age of the fetus,
determine many obvious defects, and advise
you on what to do next.
I think the risk of deformity and defects
is very high at this point. Unfortunately,
most of those things probably can't be
fixed...
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Gelah
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Oh God... Posted: 06-08-07 23:20pm
highly abnormal..?? oh my god,,.. no, i
dont need to stop schooling all my life. i
just have to conceive it first. i'l be
stopping just for 1 year of schooling.
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Llewellyn
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Re: Oh God... Posted: 06-09-07 00:15am
Gelah
wrote:
highly abnormal..?? oh my
god,,..
Yes, you put this poor baby through an
awful lot. You will be unbelievably lucky
if the poor little guy comes out without
any problems. Actually you're lucky if
you come out of all this without any
problems too. It sounds like you gave
your internal organs a real run for their
money.
Make sure you see a doctor very soon. The
doctor would be able to give you some idea
as to the health of the child, although
your doctor will not be able to answer all
of your questions. There are many things
such as various learning disabilities that
wouldn't show up on an ultrasound. So
there could be problems that the doctor is
not able to see.
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Birch
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Re: Oh God... Posted: 06-09-07 08:08am
Gelah
wrote:
after all my 'abortion'
attempts..i've decided to continue my
pregnancy... my parents found out few days
ago and they insist that i should keep the
baby. and i have to stop my schooling.
i've took 12 Cytotec during my first
3months and 30 Ibuprofen tablets... i'm
going to raise this kid. it's already
4months. i'm afraid that the baby would be
defective and all, i regretted everything
i did just to get rid of it. could the
doctor tell if my baby have defects and
all? are there things to do to fix
'it'?
I am so sorry, Gelah. I understand why
you tried to abort, and I'm very sorry
that your parents are forcing you to
become a parent at 17. I hope that things
turn out the best they can for you.
Llewellyn
wrote:
Gelah
wrote:
highly abnormal..?? oh my
god,,..
Yes, you put this poor baby through an
awful lot. You will be unbelievably lucky
if the poor little guy comes out without
any problems. Actually you're lucky if
you come out of all this without any
problems too. It sounds like you gave
your internal organs a real run for their
money.
Hey, llewellyn, go find a dictionary and
look up tact. This kind of 'after the
fact what a terrible person you are what a
poor baby' craap is not helpful. This is
a seventeen year old scared kid. You may
think what you write isn't very impactful,
but you don't know that. People say
things on online forums that they would
never say face to face. If you wouldn't
say this to her face, you should keep your
fingers off the keyboard. Do you think
she's beating herself up enough already?
Do you think you 'help' by adding this
kind of fuel to the fire?
Ten bucks says you're a man.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-09-07 08:15am
I said the same exact thing to her, Birch.
She and the child are in a lot of danger
right now, and it is her fault after all.
She knows this now though, and hopefully
she'll get to a doctor and receive some
proper prenatal care. That's all we can
hope for, now that she's decided to keep
the pregnancy.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 06-09-07 11:36am
Can you give the baby up for adoption? I
do not know how your country works, but
you may not need parents permission in
order to do this.
Medical care in the phillipines is a lot
different than we have here...
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 06-09-07 13:33pm
Eiri
wrote:
I said the same exact thing
to her, Birch. She and the child are in a
lot of danger right now, and it is her
fault after all. She knows this now
though, and hopefully she'll get to a
doctor and receive some proper prenatal
care. That's all we can hope for, now that
she's decided to keep the
pregnancy.
Exactly. The girl is concerned about the
baby having problems, which is definitely
a possibility at this point. I am not
going to sugar coat it and lie to her.
She is going to have to go to the doctor,
and I think she should be prepared. I
think she should know what the
possibilities are. If you want us to lie
to her, Birch, and tell her everything is
sure to be fine, I can't imagine how that
will help in the long run. If she is
going to raise this baby, she needs to
learn about babies and how fragile they
are. I bet she is learning a lot right
now, and I am sure her doctor will have a
lot more information for her. And, yes, I
would say the same to her in person. I
would not lie to her here or to her face.
I never called her a terrible person. I
have seen you make some posts that were
far less than tactful, so don't act high
and mighty just because I told the girl
the truth. And, no, I am not a man,
although I can't imagine what that has to
do with anything unless you are sexist.
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prelude
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Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 77
Posted: 06-10-07 08:57am
i gaurantee the baby will be 100000%
perfect !
its always the people that dont want their
baby giving birth to a perfectly healthy
baby !!
sad but true.
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Jules
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Posted: 06-10-07 10:17am
prelude
wrote:
i gaurantee the baby will be
100000% perfect !
its always the people that dont want their
baby giving birth to a perfectly healthy
baby !!
sad but true.
Perfect? No-one is.
Healthy? I very much doubt it.
Oh and I hope you are being ironic in your
post...
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Jules
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Posted: 06-13-07 03:45am
NB/ Could Llewellyn and Birch please go to
the abortion debate forum to continue
their discussion; I have moved the
comments over there. Just trying to keep
this thread on topic for the benefit of
the OP.
