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Omg !!! 60-year Old Mom !!

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mamaTT

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Omg !!! 60-year Old Mom !! Posted: 05-23-07 14:34pm


http ://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18817248/wid/11915 773?GT1=10008 I think having babies at this age is crazy!! This is the time of your life you should be enjoying retirement and grandkids; not raising babies!!! I just could not imagine being a new mom at 60!!! There's no way I would be able to keep up!!!

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Posted: 05-23-07 14:42pm


i persoally think it's selfish. at 60 you aren't exactly old, but by the time they're 16 you're going to be 76, that's getting pretty old, you aren't going to be able to do a bunch of stuff with them or even watch them get married or watch their kids grow, that's a lot of heart ache for someone, i know i'd be devistated if i had to bury my mom before i got married or had kids. and, what's that child supposed to do when you get to be old enough to where you can't care for yourself? i doubt they'd want to put you in a nursing home, so they're going to be taking care of you, while trying to have a family and a career and.. i just think it's selfish lol

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Posted: 05-23-07 14:45pm


the stigma? what is she talking about. going through pregnancy & giving birth at that age isn't very safe, i would imagine. why on earth. oh i will never understand people. i'm sorry, but those poor children. when they are 10 years old, their mother will be 70.. talk about a incredibly generation gap..

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Posted: 05-23-07 14:48pm

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the stigma? what is she talking about. going through pregnancy & giving birth at that age isn't very safe, i would imagine. why on earth. oh i will never understand people. i'm sorry, but those poor children. when they are 10 years old, their mother will be 70.. talk about a incredibly generation gap.. Confused

or more like 2

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Posted: 05-23-07 14:49pm

HcoBrunette06 wrote:

i persoally think it's selfish.

at 60 you aren't exactly old, but by the time they're 16 you're going to be 76, that's getting pretty old, you aren't going to be able to do a bunch of stuff with them or even watch them get married or watch their kids grow, that's a lot of heart ache for someone, i know i'd be devistated if i had to bury my mom before i got married or had kids.

and, what's that child supposed to do when you get to be old enough to where you can't care for yourself? i doubt they'd want to put you in a nursing home, so they're going to be taking care of you, while trying to have a family and a career and.. i just think it's selfish lol

yeah I agree.. that is a old age to be having kids. I would not want to. But you know what? I'm 56 and I power walk everyday and I never had kids.. My mother just celabrated her 87th birthday and she still lives on her own and walks everyday too. Maybe this lady always desired to have kids and couldn't .. I doubt it.. But who know.. I still think it is to old! I decided not to have kids at 33, I surly would not consider having them at 60.

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Posted: 05-23-07 14:50pm


i even think my parents are too old. i am 20, & they are in their mid 50s. my mom didn't have me until she was 34. & i have a 16 & 17 year old sister. i'm so glad i had my son at this age.

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Posted: 05-23-07 14:57pm

meblonde01 wrote:

.actually, this lady already has 3 other kids. a 33-year-old son, a 29-year-old daughter and a 6-year-old son. she said she wanted her youngest to have siblings close in age to him... but come on. i just don't understand the desire to have kids at 60.

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Posted: 05-23-07 15:02pm


That lady already had three kids! I'm sorry but I think it's selfish considering the risks to the fetus with a mother that old. There is a reason why we don't remain fertile into our 60s. Even after age 35 there are increased risks of defects from nondisjunction and chromosomal abnormalities like Down's syndrome. Of course Down's syndrome kids are beautiful and can live happy lives but they also suffer a lot with heart defects and leukemia and infections. I can't imagine how much the risks are increased at the age of 60. If you have three kids that you birthed then why put the child at risk of having defects just so you can prove that you can do it. If it were me and I wanted to have another child I would adopt. Maybe adopt a child with down's syndrome.

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Posted: 05-23-07 15:05pm


how in the world did she get pregnant anyway? what about menopause..?!

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Posted: 05-23-07 15:06pm

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how in the world did she get pregnant anyway? what about menopause..?!

.she used in-vitro fertilization. Rolling Eyes

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Posted: 05-23-07 15:11pm


hmmmm I have a few different thoughts on this. I see no reason why age should be an issue to being a parent. I was raised by my paternal grandmother for the most part. - she is 84 now and I am 28. I also believe a woman should be entitled to have a child of she is willing to care for it. having a child is something women take for granted - until they can't. she might be a most fantastic mother. on the other hand parts of me scream "no, it's wrong" - but I can't come up with an valid and justifiable reasons why.

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Posted: 05-23-07 15:58pm


I can think of a couple of reasons; one she already had given birth three times, two, she had to travel halfway around the world to go through in vitro fertilization because she couldn't do it naturally, not because she had anything wrong with her but because she is far beyond the normal age of fertility. Why not go to africa and adopt one of the millions of orphaned children there if you can afford it? I don't see any reason why a 60 year old can't be a good parent but to me it doesn't make sense to go to all that trouble and risk to prove a point or remove stigma when there are so many children who are orphaned or unwanted. Just because we can do something doesn't mean we should. Anyway, the babies are here and I'm sure she will take good care of them. I just don't think it's something that should be encouraged at that age.

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Posted: 05-24-07 08:51am


I personally think that she did it for the wrong reasons. On the .Today show this morning, they were asking her basicly why would she want to get pregnant at her age... Her answer was because she wanted to show all women that they "Do" have a choice and no one should tell them that they can't do something..... So you tell people this by getting pregnant at 60??? I am all for women being able to do anything they want to their own bodies and no one should ever have the right to tell them what to do with them. But really, is that the only reason that you decided to have another baby at the age of 60, just to prove a point??? That doesn't make sence to me. They said that her 29 year old daughter is upset and doesn't understand why she would do that and she just said, .....I hope this experience will help show my daughter that she can do anything she wants to.... J.M.O

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Posted: 05-24-07 09:38am


I think if she is healthy and fit then why not?Yeah,she is older but hey,if she's got the love and she's a good mother,go for it! I do see the point about when her kids are older she might not ever see them get married or see grandchildren from them but life is life.some people's parents die early,before they can see their child grow or get married or have children of their own.those kids wil go through the same thing.

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Posted: 05-24-07 10:08am


I agree with you Arcadia. i am 20 , my sis 21, my brother 19. My parents are 54 and 55, and I am very glad to be having my first child earlier.

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Posted: 05-24-07 13:54pm

[quote="kaerbear"]I can think of a couple of reasons; one she already had given birth three times,[quote]so what? I know of people who have way more than 3 kids.

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two, she had to travel halfway around the world to go through in vitro fertilization because she couldn't do it naturally, not because she had anything wrong with her but because she is far beyond the normal age of fertility.

does that make her a bad mom?

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Why not go to africa and adopt one of the millions of orphaned children there if you can afford it?

I really resent that comment.
Adoption is a good thing but it is not for everyone.
If I had a dollar for each time someone suggested to me why don't I adopt due to my questionable fertility - I would surely be very rich.
I for one don't want to adopt - it isn't for me and where should anyone get off telling another woman to adopt a child instead of having one that is biologically hers.
Added to the fact that adoption is not easy.
You guys who take fertility for granted do not have to prove you are able to be a good parent before being considered for pregnancy.
Yet people who are infertile have to have allsorts of invasions of privacy.
I understand that they are there to protect the child - but think of the shoe on the other foot for just a moment.
Then there is the vast cost. Adoption is not cheap.

[quote]I don't see any reason why a 60 year old can't be a good parent[quote]exactly

[quote]but to me it doesn't make sense to go to all that trouble and risk to prove a point or remove stigma when there are so many children who are orphaned or unwanted.[quote]Just because there are orphaned and unwanted children - a woman shouldn't have her own biological child?

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Just because we can do something doesn't mean we should. Anyway, the babies are here and I'm sure she will take good care of them. I just don't think it's something that should be encouraged at that age.

I didn't say it should be encouraged but that none of those reasons are valid and justifiiable as to why this woman - who's body is apprently capable of sustaining a pregnancy (albeit not to acheive that state naturally - but then lots of women are unable to fall pregnant naturally) should not have her own biological child.

OK I know it seems I ripped apart your post - I didn't mean that at all.
You put forward some valid suggestions for reasons but they don't hold up is what I am saying.

I can see this from so many directions.
My mother is 16 years older than me.
I was raised by my grandmother.
I understand what it is like to be told your chances of natural fertility have gone.
I know how freely people who have kids/normal fertility think that adoption is just as good as having a child that is biologically your own.

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Posted: 05-24-07 14:09pm


sorry you felt the need to rip apart my post but i wasn't making broad sweeping statements about all women, i was referring to the story in the link. i didn't say women shouldn't do this or that, i just feel that it was selfish of her. of course she has the right to do it but i also have the right to disagree with it.

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Posted: 05-24-07 14:22pm

kaerbear wrote:

sorry you felt the need to rip apart my post

Like I said - that wasn't my intent.
You put forward some valid suggestions for reasons.

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but i wasn't making broad sweeping statements about all women, i was referring to the story in the link. i didn't say women shouldn't do this or that, i just feel that it was selfish of her.

nope, you didn't and I don't claim that you did

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of course she has the right to do it but i also have the right to disagree with it.

of course you do.
Like I said earlier, a big part of me screams out that "no this is so wrong" but I am unable to justify any reason I can think of so far.

I was giving you reasons as to why I was unable to justify your suggestions.

Please don't take it as an insult - it's actually a compliment that you are a worthy debater - with a view and no need to step into personal insults.

(that is not saying you were, that is saying that you haven't)

oh gesh my words are getting mixed up.

Ok to re-phrase
you are a worthy debater
you have a view
you don't step into personal insults when someone has a different view.

did that come out better. Embarassed

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Posted: 05-24-07 14:27pm


Debating is awesome

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Posted: 05-24-07 14:40pm


This is a support forum!! and i support you having an opinion! Oh god i just watched that clip from the view. that was crazy! But Joy is hilarious "what are we on pbs. don't we have commercials on this show??" too funny