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I do not mean to offend you with this answer, only my opinion:
first of all let me state my opinion on bisexuals. I have no problem with straight people and I have not problem with homosexuals. I have not problem with a single person trying their own sex. I do however have a problem with people who will have sex with guys or girls on a regular basis. This to me is slutty. Kind of like, I just want to get off, so who can I sleep with. (sorry if this offends anyone, but this is my opinion.)
secondly, if you want to experiment because you think you may be gay, o.K. Then you should leave your partner. At least take a break for you to find yourself. Guy or girl, sleeping with someone else would be cheating. Now, if you want to actually have a threesome, then you are taking the risks that you mentioned. The way I see it, as I have clearly stated in other posts, is if you or he needs or wants to be with anyone else, either cheating or threesome, then you are not meant to be together. Sex is a sacred thing for two lovers to share, not three or four or just whomever decides to jump in. Plus it is like you are now giving him permission to invite other people into your personal lives, mainly sexual, in the future. Whether he asks your permission or not (which he probably will) you will feel pressured and when the day comes that you finally say no, he will be pissed and will not understand because you did it before. I believe that experimenting is only acceptable if you are single and do it on your own terms and for your own reasons.
O.K, now my beliefs aside: if you do not feel comfortable with him watching, then don't do it. Experimenting with the opposite sex is private just like your sex with him. You do not need anyone watching. Plus, you will probably get extremely jealous where the other girl is concerned. Even if he does not touch her at all, the fact is he is being turned on as much by her as he is by you. Also an emotion you should not have to share.
On a different note. You said that you were pregnant. I do not know if you are planning to do this while you are pregnant or not, but just in case remember these things: you can easily get bacterial vaginosis, or chlaydia or a lot of other stds from this other girl. So be very very picky. I may even go so far as to all get checked and then go into this knowing what you are getting yourself into. Plus, the above mentioned infections could cause serious complications with your pregnancy, so be careful whatever you do.
Once again, I am sorry if this offended you. I truly am. I just believe that everyone, male or female, deserves that one person who gives them so much love that no one else is ever needed, for any reason.

I think you're selfish. No offence! I mean, you cant invite the idea of a threesome but kick him out of it. Thats just regular sex. It might turn him on for awhile but he'll get annoyed, its like teasing him..Guys dont like that too much. I would have the threesome, everyone included. They're many great positions too (im a porn addict hehe) that you guys can try. Its a much better experience if everyone enjoys it. Make sure hes using a condom when you have this 3some. Btw, if he loved you then he wouldnt cheat on you with another girl..Make sure you're both clear on the 'this is a one time thing' or 'having sex with another girl can only be done with me!' rule..Hehe. You know, after this threesome he might just admire you more, be more interested in you because he knows you're willing experiment. He'll think you're fun and interesting in bed! Well I hth
good luck
shannon

Ok, I totally disagree, I do not think it is slutty if you want to experiment!!! Guys love it when their partner is interested in the same sex.. And I dont think you are selfish either, I think he would have more fun watching anyway, and maybe you two (girls) can go make him happy, but put handcuffs on him or something so that he can't touch, that way you are making yourself happy and him at the same time.. Good luck to you.

Who said it was slutty? If you were referring to me, maybe you should read my post right.

I was just wondering why you are so worried about him cheating when you are the one who wants to cheat? Do you not think of it as cheating b/c you would be with a girl? I'm just confussed!

Angie

It is every guys fantasy to be with two girls at once, and if they tell it's not, they are lying!!!! I completely understand where you are coming from. My boyfriend has told me thousands of times that it would be cool to have a threesome. And I was considering it, but I don't want to watch another girl be all over my man. I couldn't handle that. Plus, just like you said, I don't want him to think that it's ok. Here's my opinion. I have put alot of thought into this. I think that if I were to ever have a threesome it would be with 3 people that I don't really know, well I don't want to sound slutty, but, if you do it with people that you don't really know, and it all happens by chance, then what do you have to worry about? Really? I mean you want to make sure that these people are clean, and practice safe sex, but I wouldn't be able to go through with something like that, if I had to see them all the time. Especially if it's your boyfriend and another girl, everytime you look at him or that girl, you are going to be reminded of that. Plus, I you wanted to forget that whole thing, you can, you don't have any commitments to these people. By the way, I am not bisexual, just so everyone knows!!! It's normal to think about things like this, and if you don't and you deny it, then you really aren't aware of your sexuality. Let me know what you think?

Maybe you should read your own post !!!! Here ya go.. Im gonna copy and paste it for you !!! I do not mean to offend you with this answer, only my opinion:
first of all let me state my opinion on bisexuals. I have no problem with straight people and I have not problem with homosexuals. I have not problem with a single person trying their own sex. I do however have a problem with people who will have sex with guys or girls on a regular basis. This to me is slutty. Kind of like, I just want to get off, so who can I sleep with. (sorry if this offends anyone, but this is my opinion.)
secondly, if you want to experiment because you think you may be gay, o.K.

Yeah, dah, did you even read it, or just cut and paste the proof that I didn't say experimenting was slutty? I said that I can see experimenting. What I said was slutty was just having sex with a guy or a girl on a regular basis.
And it may be normal for some people to think about having sex with their same sex, but if another does not it does not mean they are not aware of their sexuality! It means that they are very aware of their sexuality and it just does not include the same sex!
Some girls in todays society want to do whatever they can to "please" their man even if it involves bringing someone else into their sex life. Instead of going out and finding a man who wants her and only her. It is most guys fantasy to be with two girls, but some guys really do find it repulsive. No one can answer for every single person in a single group. That is like saying that all girls are stupid or all boys are smart. It is stereotypical and completely untrue.
A lot of people have threesomes for and if that is what you want to do then great for you. I was not trying to down talk anyone. Everyone has different tastes, desires and opinions. But the question in the post was, "what do you guys think?" and I answered that question honestly from my point of view.
There is no point in arguing over a topic such as this because no one is right.
The one thing that I do want to stress though is to be safe. Yes, the guy can wear a condom, but the girl could have chlamydia or bv or something and it would be very easy for you to get it. And since you are pregnant you just need to be very careful, because it can lead to pid or premature birth.
I am sorry if I offended anyone, but I will not sit back while someone hints that I am not aware of my sexuality because I am and always will be monogamous. I know that I deserve someone who loves me and desires me, and all of you deserve the same. But if it is you who wants to experiment and so does he, then hey, maybe you two are good together. That is just not for me. That's all.

Ok, im sorry for not understanding your post. I am still soooooo completely confused. But I think I understand. Are you saying that you think her man wants her to experiment so that it gives him the ok to "cheat" without hiding it ? Because if she doesn't want to experiment, and it is totally the guy in the relationship asking this of her, then I totally agree with you ( that is if I understand ) anyway,, again I apologize. I didn't mean to sound snotty, but I thought you were being snotty against me.

You don't have to apologize. It is o.K, I did not mean to be snotty. No, I don't think that her man wants her to experiment just so that it gives him the "o.K" to cheat. I think that in some instances it may cause problems like that, but it might not. It could make their relationship even better, who knows. I am sorry to confuse you. I shoved a lot into that paragraph and all of my opinions are confusing!!!Sorry!

My opinon on 4-somes:

the first step is for you and your 'other' to be the voyers. You should be fully clothed, sit next to your 'other', and just watch the other couple through their entire routine from forplay to climax. This will give you an idea of your comfort level without being involved. It will also allow you to witness another couple's love making. That alone may be enough to spark the creativity that you are seeking without going too far. If you still want to join, you will at least be comfortable with alredy seeing the other couple and make sure that you are both into it. Make a red flag word or phrase for you and your husband. Use it if you get even the slightest hint or nervousness.


For just you and another woman, he needs to understand the ground rules! If he can't and you really want to do it, either don't tell him, or find another man.