Sex

Hi,
No it doesnt put guys off. But dont lose it coz your friends have. Find a good guy and if your ready then decide if its time. Dont stress about it.

Everyone is different. Some people will not want to date a virgin, some would love to, and some don't care either way.

It's not "normal" or "abnormal." There is no "normal" age to lose your virginity at. Some people are ready for sex when they are 16. Others aren't ready until they are 26. No big deal.

i doesnt put guys off, when i lost my virginity i was 16, i waited and that was my choice and i told my bf that it wasmy choice, and he respected me for it. we are still together and it has been a year and a half, there is nothing i have missed out on because we have experimented everything together. when we broke up for afew months i did have sex with another guy i was totally attracted to but it didnt feel the same because i didnt love him. it was afew months before i had sex with my bf when we started going out and we where best friends for a year before that also. we are and where so inlove and that made it worth it. when ilost it, it didnt hurt and i didnt bleed and i wasnt nervous, people dont believe me when i say that caz they think sure it hurts everyone buti believe it didnt because i was totaly comfortable around the guy. i say goog on you for waiting, are you waiting? or has the time just not some yet? owell i say good on you anyway and when you do have sex, it will feel good because you love the guy. i dontknow your exact situation but im just jiobbering on.
me and my bf where both 16 when we fell inlove (sounds odd but i dunno lol) so yeah dont give up keep kicking on! just because everyone is talking about it doesnt meen its the best ever thing in the world either. hold your head up and... wait i would say put your head down and bum up and dont pay attention to what anyone else says. i got alot of caca, well not caca but everyone was so amased i hadnt had sex yet, even my bf when we where becoming friends and even after we had sex he still didnt believe me. the only thing i screwed up with was being a rebelious teenager and not doing school work properly not looking towards my future and now i am abit of a screw up so before i would tell anyone to not worry about having sex and all that i would say, stay in school, do your work, get a job and go on to uni, thats where i screwed up, i wish i had someone hammer it into my head that it is ok to screw upaslong as you give it a shot, i never gave it a shot from fear screwing up because i am one of those people but yeah. i wish i had ov shortened this story and writen it better but i was only going to say about my virginity and it turnedinto my life story lol, sorry veryone. hope this helped.

love ness xoxo

i was also a virgin until i was 16 and everyone seemed so amazed with me because of it and my boyfriend was 18 when we lost our virginity to each other. i don't think it puts guys off, and if it does then they aren't the type that you want around anyway, you want someone who can accept you for who you are.

wait until you are in love to have sex, don't do it because you think it puts people off.

also, lol, sorry i forgot about this. alot of guys think virgins are a better "root" because they are "tight" i got alot of crap from guys about they love me a caca caz i was a virgin and they wanted in but thats what u have to look out for. same with peer presure. you will know he is the right guy. or the right guy to have sex with when he comes along. i will say before me and my bf where going out i was totally smittened by the hottest guy ever. i just wanted him, and we where mates, we did try having sex and it didnt work, lol dont ask, just one of those things that didnt come though but i believe he couldnt get it in because he wasnt the right guy, and i was sposed to wait, ia m glad it turned out like that even no it was totaly embaressing im still glad it happened that way but yeah i dunno what im sayin, just alot of guys will try just to tell there mates about it especially at this age so yeah... be caurfull and always wear a condom

Every man is different; but if he is a good man, then whether you are a virgin or not shouldn't matter to him.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at 18! I think that's splendid! I was a virgin until I was 21. I'd never been in love until then. Heck, I dated the man 9 months before we had sex for the first time! It did not hurt and I didn't bleed at all. We used a condom, that's for damn sure! No babies for me!

Personally as a guy I'd rather have a girlfriend that was a virgin. My girlfriend and I have been going out for more than a year and I lost my virginity to her..however, she lost her virginity to a previous relationship. I didn't really care at first, but then if you let your mind wander on the subject, you start to wonder if you're as good as he was, and stuff like that.

So all in all if I was going to fall in love all over again I'd much rather have a virgin and have her lose it to me.. but that didn't happen and there's nothing I can do about it and I'm happy

It's a turn off if you are making it clear that you intend to hold on to the sanctity of your hymen until you have a 2 carat diamond on your finger.

I think it's a big turn on for guys otherwise.

I know that it's a big turn on for me-if a guy is a virgin, it's like something to be conquered. I de-flowered a 22 year old. I trained him in the ways of the dark arts.

Hehehe XD yeah. I definately agree. I think birch put it nicely. Being a virgin can be a turn on... flaunting it and making it a big deal and playing hard to get... not so much.

i think it's kind of "stupid" (in my opinion) that youre saying if you could fall in love all over again you'd choose differently, even though you do love him. what's the difference? I'm sure it hurts, i know it'd hurt me if i found out that my boyfriend had slept with someone but why does that make you want to choose to love someone else or why does that make you think to yourself "hmm if i could do this over i'd choose differently"

there are so many positive aspects of love, i don't see why you'd want to be with someone else just because of something like that. you're in love, it shouldn't matter what's in the past. as someone told me today, the past is the past, what matters is that they're willing to make you a part of their future.

i'm not trying to start a fight, it just bothers me because i'm in the same type of situation and i know i'd be devistated if my boyfriend was talking that way about me. (i've only been with him, but i've done stuff with girls in the past, which is why im in the situation)