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kaerbear
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About Baby Showers ...
Posted: 05-28-07 10:47am
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What's the deal with baby showers? I
don't know how it works and people keep
asking me about it. Yesterday, we were
talking to my brother and sister in law
about furniture for the nursery, which we
haven't bought yet. My sil says why don't
you have a baby shower. I said, well I'm
not supposed to have one for myself. She
said well, get your best friend to have
it. My friend had offered over a month
ago and said, "when do you want it, before
or after the baby?". I said I don't know.
So yesterday, I called my mom and asked
her when is the best time to have it?
Well, she gave me heck for asking and said
"it's not up to you to ask for one, it's
up to others if they want to give you
one". She also said I had to have one for
.Rich's side of the family and one for
mine. Meanwhile I'm being told by others
that my best friend is supposed to host
it. 
I got a little upset after I talked to her
because I wasn't asking for one. I was
only asking when do people usually have
one?? I don't know how these things work.
I'm running around frantically trying to
buy all the stuff for my baby and people
are telling me don't worry about it
someone will buy that for you when you
have a baby shower. But so far, no one
has said if or when they are having one.
I'm not going to talk to anyone about it
any more and if they ask me I'll just say
I don't know. I guess I'll just keep
buying the stuff I need and not think
about baby showers for now. 
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jessesgirl
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Posted: 05-28-07 11:00am
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How far along are you? Some are suprises,
some are not. I knew about mine. My mom
threw mine. Anyone can throw you one.
Does your family and his family live far
away? If not, having one together would
be fine. My mother and I planned my
shower b/c she screwed up my wedding
shower. lol I wanted to make sure
everyone was invited this time. I had
friends and both sides of the family
there. You get a crap load of stuff. I'd
register somewhere and hope that they're
suprising you. I never went to a shower
were the baby was there. It's 9 out of 10
times before it's born.
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kaerbear
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Posted: 05-28-07 11:18am
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| jessesgirl
wrote: | | How far along are you? Some
are suprises, some are not. I knew about
mine. My mom threw mine. Anyone can
throw you one. Does your family and his
family live far away? If not, having one
together would be fine. My mother and I
planned my shower b/c she screwed up my
wedding shower. lol I wanted to make
sure everyone was invited this time. I
had friends and both sides of the family
there. You get a crap load of stuff. I'd
register somewhere and hope that they're
suprising you. I never went to a shower
were the baby was there. It's 9 out of 10
times before it's
born. |
Thanks for the info. I'm 32 weeks today!
 His
family all live here in town but some of
my family live out of town. But they come
to town quite often.
I guess I'll just leave it up to others.
My mom just made me feel so bad for asking
about it, like I was being really rude or
something. Now I'm all feeling sorry for
myself.
.Well not really, but it's my first baby
and I guess I just want to do things right
without offending anyone.
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 05-28-07 13:59pm
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i had 3 baby showers.. one from my best
friend, one by my mom and a surprise one
from shawns mom.. my mom had her sisters
and mom there and shawns mom had his
sisters his grandmas and step grandma and
my grandma was going to come but she had a
headacke... i only had one before reese
was born which was my best friends one...
my mom and mil said after is better so
people get to see the baby
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pumpkine0011
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I Know
Posted: 05-28-07 14:08pm
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I know how you feel. I have been trying to
have my mom help me set one up, but it
hasnt worked out because she keeps putting
everything in front of it. Then she tells
me not to buy anything until I have one
now today she says not to have one until
after the baby is born. SO my husband is
thinking of throwing it for me at the end
of june. I will only be like 29 weeks
preggers but we cant have it in july
because of his family. And August I dont
want one then because I am gonna be due
any day I think in August and I dont wanna
be doing everythjing last minute. So I am
irritated by the whole thing because my
mother is the one who offered in the first
place and now that I am trying to get
ready for it she is always too busy or
something else is more important. And if I
am gonna have mine at the end of june I
only have a few weeks to get invitations,
addresses and supplies.
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 05-28-07 14:16pm
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you can always buy the things u absolutly
NEED and save money to buy things u dont
get
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kaerbear
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Posted: 05-28-07 15:56pm
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I'm definitely just going to buy what we
need and not worry about whether we have a
baby shower or not. I'm not one to ask
people for things, it's just that people
keep telling me not to buy anything! I
don't want to be worrying about not having
what I need or the baby needs once the
baby is here and I'm worrying about
nursing and recovering from the delivery.
There are things that need to be set up
and furniture needs to be moved around. I
just would feel so much better if it was
mostly done when baby gets here. I think
if people want to see the baby after he or
she is born we will have a get together,
not neccessarily a shower, when the baby
is a month old but no sooner than that.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 05-28-07 17:51pm
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Yeah, generally your friends and family
take care of it and the only thing you
have to do, other than show up is possibly
give names and addresses of people you
would like there. Possibly they have one
planned and it's a surprise????
I think if you know what you are having
you should do it before so you are ready
for baby, or so you know what you need to
buy before the baby arrives, but if you
don't know you could wait so you know
whether to buy blue or pink.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 05-28-07 18:24pm
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u could get whatever you need and then if
there is a baby shower and you didn't know
about it you'd probably get lots of good
stuff, and if you already have the stuff
you could take it back and get store
credit or something and then have lots of
money to spend on other things maybe?
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jessesgirl
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Posted: 05-28-07 21:49pm
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I wouldn't worry, they probably have one
planned. I don't like the idea of having
one after the baby's born. I didn't like
everyone's hands on my baby at first.
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Posted: 05-28-07 22:00pm
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Im in the process of planning one for my
best friend she is having twins in
.August....i offered too have one for her
but she knows all about it ...i figured
before the babies so that she will have
everything as we already know she is
having a boy and a girl...her mom is going
too help me out with this ....i was
planning on having on for her anyway but
before i could say anything she mentioned
something bout maybe her sister would have
one and thats when i said that i would do
it ...if i was you i wouldnt feel bad for
mentioning too your best friend bout
having one for you... sometimes people
assume someone else is going too do it and
who knows she might be thrilled too have
one for you like i am bout having one for
mine . 
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Mommy35
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Posted: 05-29-07 07:15am
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| jessesgirl
wrote: | | I wouldn't worry, they
probably have one planned. I don't like
the idea of having one after the baby's
born. I didn't like everyone's hands on
my baby at
first. |
Oh I agree 100% with this. I was (ok
still am) neurotic about it.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 05-29-07 08:11am
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I have had quite a few friend that have
had multiple showers.
One for the family, alittle more reserved
(in most cases)
One for co-workers, still a little
reserved but they feel more comfortable in
a work type setting.
And then one for your friends (normally
these involve cocktails and
more...adventurous...games)
But it also depends on how comfortable you
are with people. I, personally, have
people issues. Especially with people
touching me or looking at me. (my wedding
only had 25 people) So I have spoken with
family and they all cam up with the same
idea. For me to set up a baby registery
and then (by word of mouth) have them
forwarded to my house. My friends (my dhs
friends) will probably still have a small
get together.
It is a very personal thing. Everyone
looks at it differently. I have another
friend (I just found out shes pregnant) is
already planning hers.
Moral of the story...be vocal. It's for
you. If you want it a certain way, don't
be afraid to speak up (politely) and tell
people. I'm sure if you tell one of your
friends that you want one with enough time
to buy what you dont get. Shell get the
hint.
*tip- register for gift cards  (then people won't
feel guilty about getting them for you and
you can buy what you didn't already get)
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