I Am 16 Years Old And a Concerned !!!! Help !!! Posted: 05-28-07 16:25pm
i have had an irregular period from the
beginning and now that i am sexually
active that adds on to my fear of
pregnancy. Me and my boyfriend always use
condoms except for one time that we didnt.
We had sex around April 15... i got my
period the 20th but it came really light
and for only 4 days which is not usual for
me. I normally get it for 6 to 8 dayz and
really heavy. After those 4 days passed i
got it again May 3 for another 4 days. Now
i am nervous because i have heard of women
having slight periods and still being
pregnant. The wait for my next period is
nerveracking. I feel bloated but i dont
have any other signs of either getting my
period or being pregnant.... I need HELP!!
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Posted: 05-28-07 16:58pm
You can take a pregnancy test at this
point and I think it will give you an
accurate result. If you are sexually
active, you need to get a pap smear
anyway, and if you go to a planned
parenthood you can get this done for free,
as well as get on some kind of birth
control that you as the female controls,
such as the pill or patch.
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Posted: 05-28-07 16:58pm
you're probably not pregnant, youre young
and your body changes, and your period
will change over the years, believe me.. i
had the same exact period/cycle for 4
years and then all of a sudden my cycles
changed, it can happen.
if you're worried then all you can do is
take a pregnancy test, go to the store and
buy one, it's not a big deal, i've done it
by myself twice now even though whenever i
have sex it's always protected, i just
worry a lot
next time, use protection. even one time
can make you pregnant, so use a condom
every single time, maybe even go get on
the pill so that you can be extra
protected.
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You probably arent pregnant...and you have
to remember that stress could be a factor
in why your period is late, light or wont
come at all...stressin about being
pregnant is not a good thing....let god do
his work...plus, if momma doesnt know you
are sexually active, ya might wanna tell
her...it wont be as bad as you think!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!
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Posted: 05-31-07 21:09pm
MrsClark2007
wrote:
plus, if momma doesnt know
you are sexually active, ya might wanna
tell her...it wont be as bad as you
think!!! GOOD
LUCK!!!!
If i told my moma i was having sex at 16
she would have killed me. And likewise I
will react if a daugther of mine tells me
she is having sex at that young age. 16?
At that age she better be studying and
having other hobbies that are not having
sex with boys.
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Posted: 06-01-07 00:23am
nightangel73
wrote:
MrsClark2007
wrote:
plus, if momma doesnt know
you are sexually active, ya might wanna
tell her...it wont be as bad as you
think!!! GOOD
LUCK!!!!
If i told my moma i was having sex at 16
she would have killed me. And likewise I
will react if a daugther of mine tells me
she is having sex at that young age. 16?
At that age she better be studying and
having other hobbies that are not having
sex with boys.
You'll react? In what way? Disowning her?
That's not going to help her.. if she's
poor then she won't be able to afford
birth control and she'll end up
unemployed, underaged, uneduacted, and
pregnant. Then my tax dollars pay for her,
instead of you caring for her when she was
still your responsibility Parenthood is
complicated.
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I agree with eiri in response to
nightangel. Not everyone is ready for sex
at the same time. I have been having sex
since I was 16 years old. Even at that
age, I was more informed about it than
most people. I was using birth control,
using it correctly, and never had a
pregnancy scare. I also believe that I
was emotionally ready for it. Not
everyone is at that age, and that's ok.
We can't really decide when the right time
for everyone else is.
In response to the original poster, every
time you have sex, you could get pregnant.
Using protection only decreases your
chances of getting pregnant; it does not
eliminate them. And, of course, if you do
not use it every time, you're more likely
to get pregnant. All you can do now is
take a pregnancy test. We can't tell you
for sure if you are pregnant or not. You
can't rely on symptoms to determine
whether or not you are pregnant. If you
are having pregnancy scares and not using
condoms consistently, you might want to
invest in another form of birth control to
use in addition to the condoms.
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Posted: 06-01-07 06:06am
Eiri
wrote:
nightangel73
wrote:
MrsClark2007
wrote:
plus, if momma doesnt know
you are sexually active, ya might wanna
tell her...it wont be as bad as you
think!!! GOOD
LUCK!!!!
If i told my moma i was having sex at 16
she would have killed me. And likewise I
will react if a daugther of mine tells me
she is having sex at that young age. 16?
At that age she better be studying and
having other hobbies that are not having
sex with boys.
You'll react? In what way? Disowning her?
That's not going to help her.. if she's
poor then she won't be able to afford
birth control and she'll end up
unemployed, underaged, uneduacted, and
pregnant. Then my tax dollars pay for her,
instead of you caring for her when she was
still your responsibility Parenthood is
complicated.
Don't worry if i have daugther my plan is
to teach her so she doesn't have sex at
that ages. I will begin my teaching when I
see she has first period. And I will watch
what she is doing, who she is hanging out
with and so on. Many parents are so
careless of what their kids are doing. But
that won't be my case. I will teach that
there is plenty of time for sex when she
gets older and she better enjoy her life
as teenager without dealing with adult
stuff like birth control, pregnancy scares
and std's. And hopefully she will be like
me and like the daugther of a friend of
mine who was nominated valedictorium of
her high school class, no interest in
sexual intercourse whatsoever at those
ages. When I was 16 for me sex was like
french kissing a guy. Intercourse never
crossed out in my mind. I was very
informed about sex at that age and I knew
of the girls that were having sex at that
age but I always saw that as a thing for
adults. My mom did excellent job with me
with that.
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Posted: 06-01-07 09:21am
Yes, but what if she has sex and/or
becomes pregnant anyway? You can only
control her so much. I don't want this
topic to go way off subject, so I won't
press the issue if you don't want to
discuss it.
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Posted: 06-01-07 13:19pm
nightangel73
wrote:
Don't worry if i have daugther my plan is
to teach her so she doesn't have sex at
that ages. I will begin my teaching when I
see she has first period. And I will watch
what she is doing, who she is hanging out
with and so on. Many parents are so
careless of what their kids are doing. But
that won't be my case. I will teach that
there is plenty of time for sex when she
gets older and she better enjoy her life
as teenager without dealing with adult
stuff like birth control, pregnancy scares
and std's. And hopefully she will be like
me and like the daugther of a friend of
mine who was nominated valedictorium of
her high school class, no interest in
sexual intercourse whatsoever at those
ages. When I was 16 for me sex was like
french kissing a guy. Intercourse never
crossed out in my mind. I was very
informed about sex at that age and I knew
of the girls that were having sex at that
age but I always saw that as a thing for
adults. My mom did excellent job with me
with that.
.
I have to agree with eiri again. No amount of
teaching can force someone to do something
or not do something. Like I said, I was
having sex at 16, and I knew a lot about
it. My parents were very involved with my
life; I lived with them until I was about
21 years old. I went to a great high
school, grew up in a nice town, graduated
from an expensive small private college
that my daddy paid cash for, and always
did well in school. I was in a four year
relationship with the guy I first slept
with. I had no pregnancy or STD scares.
I could not tell if you were implying that
people who have sex at young ages came
from bad homes, were not top of their
class, and had parents who did not teach
them or not, but I thought I would clear
that up just in case. Not everyone who
has sex at 16 is an uneducated pregnant
crack prostitute from a broken home with a
7th grade education, you know.
Like I said before, not everyone is ready
at that age, but some people actually are.
I think it is dangerous to try to control
people to that extent and tell them when
they are ready. I don't think that's
something we can decide for someone. It's
more of something that parents should
teach their children all about so that
they can make an informed decision about
it whenever they decide for themselves
that they are ready. Children can't learn
anything if parents live their entire life
for them, telling them when they are and
are not ready for everything. That
relationship of mine did end up failing
after four years. I do not mourn or
regret it any way. I feel that I learned
a great deal from it. In fact, if I did
not have that relationship, I probably
would have made some bad decisions in my
life due to a lack of understanding and
experience.
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Posted: 06-01-07 18:05pm
Llewellyn
wrote:
nightangel73
wrote:
Don't worry if i have daugther my plan is
to teach her so she doesn't have sex at
that ages. I will begin my teaching when I
see she has first period. And I will watch
what she is doing, who she is hanging out
with and so on. Many parents are so
careless of what their kids are doing. But
that won't be my case. I will teach that
there is plenty of time for sex when she
gets older and she better enjoy her life
as teenager without dealing with adult
stuff like birth control, pregnancy scares
and std's. And hopefully she will be like
me and like the daugther of a friend of
mine who was nominated valedictorium of
her high school class, no interest in
sexual intercourse whatsoever at those
ages. When I was 16 for me sex was like
french kissing a guy. Intercourse never
crossed out in my mind. I was very
informed about sex at that age and I knew
of the girls that were having sex at that
age but I always saw that as a thing for
adults. My mom did excellent job with me
with that.
.
I have to agree with eiri again. No amount of
teaching can force someone to do something
or not do something. Like I said, I was
having sex at 16, and I knew a lot about
it. My parents were very involved with my
life; I lived with them until I was about
21 years old. I went to a great high
school, grew up in a nice town, graduated
from an expensive small private college
that my daddy paid cash for, and always
did well in school. I was in a four year
relationship with the guy I first slept
with. I had no pregnancy or STD scares.
I could not tell if you were implying that
people who have sex at young ages came
from bad homes, were not top of their
class, and had parents who did not teach
them or not, but I thought I would clear
that up just in case. Not everyone who
has sex at 16 is an uneducated pregnant
crack prostitute from a broken home with a
7th grade education, you know.
Like I said before, not everyone is ready
at that age, but some people actually are.
I think it is dangerous to try to control
people to that extent and tell them when
they are ready. I don't think that's
something we can decide for someone. It's
more of something that parents should
teach their children all about so that
they can make an informed decision about
it whenever they decide for themselves
that they are ready. Children can't learn
anything if parents live their entire life
for them, telling them when they are and
are not ready for everything. That
relationship of mine did end up failing
after four years. I do not mourn or
regret it any way. I feel that I learned
a great deal from it. In fact, if I did
not have that relationship, I probably
would have made some bad decisions in my
life due to a lack of understanding and
experience.
lewellyn i studied in a private school
with rich kids so of course i do not mean
to say that those girls came from
uneducated homes. The girls who were
having sex at 16 in my class were
considered the 'whor es' of the class and
they had lot of bf's looking for them for
sex. None of them married the guys they
were having sex with at the time. Some of
them grown to be high professionals, one
became a doctor, other (the more
promiscuous person of all) became a
pschycologist hence why i don't trust
phsycologists and so on. But i can tell
you for sure that none of them had
religious backgrounds or had folks that go
to church and such.
why i don't understand is the pesimistic
thought that teaching doesn't work and if
i teach my kids of absitence and such that
is controling and they would just be
rebels. It is not like that. My mom
teached me when the best time for sex was
and I never took that as she is trying to
control me. I admired my mom and had high
respect for her so if she said me sex was
better at this age and that I understood
that she was correct and I had no desire
to disobey her. I guess I am of the few
people that wanted to make their parents
proud of me. I love my mom and i never
have wanted to cause pain to her. Teaching
is not controlling. Just want to make
clear that.
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Posted: 06-01-07 18:17pm
nightangel73
wrote:
why i don't understand is the pesimistic
thought that teaching doesn't work and if
i teach my kids of absitence and such that
is controling and they would just be
rebels. It is not like that. My mom
teached me when the best time for sex was
and I never took that as she is trying to
control me. I admired my mom and had high
respect for her so if she said me sex was
better at this age and that I understood
that she was correct and I had no desire
to disobey her. I guess I am of the few
people that wanted to make their parents
proud of me. I love my mom and i never
have wanted to cause pain to her. Teaching
is not controlling. Just want to make
clear that.
Oh, no, it isn't that I am pessimistic
about teaching children. I am all for
that. However, telling children that
abstinence is the only way to go is not
teaching them. It isn't true that
abstinence is the only way to go (not to
mention that schools that teach abstinence
only are actually worse than the ones who
teach actual sex ed since the children are
being denied a huge chunk of information),
so it would be lie to tell them that.
There are many options out there.
"Teaching" is different than "making
decisions for" or "pushing opinions on."
So I do believe in teaching children all
that they should know, but I try not to
push my opinions on them as much as
possible. Exactly when is the right time
to have sex is an opinion. That's why we
can't teach it to children as a fact.
Maybe I am wrong, but it just seems like
you are implying things about people who
had sex at younger ages than you did as if
your opinions about when it is "right" are
the only valid ones. Like I said, maybe I
am way off base with that. I just got the
feeling you were implying that anyone who
had sex before 30 must not respect or love
their parents, and wanted to cause them
pain or something.
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Posted: 06-01-07 18:40pm
Llewellyn
wrote:
nightangel73
wrote:
why i don't understand is the pesimistic
thought that teaching doesn't work and if
i teach my kids of absitence and such that
is controling and they would just be
rebels. It is not like that. My mom
teached me when the best time for sex was
and I never took that as she is trying to
control me. I admired my mom and had high
respect for her so if she said me sex was
better at this age and that I understood
that she was correct and I had no desire
to disobey her. I guess I am of the few
people that wanted to make their parents
proud of me. I love my mom and i never
have wanted to cause pain to her. Teaching
is not controlling. Just want to make
clear that.
Oh, no, it isn't that I am pessimistic
about teaching children. I am all for
that. However, telling children that
abstinence is the only way to go is not
teaching them. It isn't true that
abstinence is the only way to go (not to
mention that schools that teach abstinence
only are actually worse than the ones who
teach actual sex ed since the children are
being denied a huge chunk of information),
so it would be lie to tell them that.
There are many options out there.
"Teaching" is different than "making
decisions for" or "pushing opinions on."
So I do believe in teaching children all
that they should know, but I try not to
push my opinions on them as much as
possible. Exactly when is the right time
to have sex is an opinion. That's why we
can't teach it to children as a fact.
Maybe I am wrong, but it just seems like
you are implying things about people who
had sex at younger ages than you did as if
your opinions about when it is "right" are
the only valid ones. Like I said, maybe I
am way off base with that. I just got the
feeling you were implying that anyone who
had sex before 30 must not respect or love
their parents, and wanted to cause them
pain or something.
When you teach you hope the person learn,
if they don't then there is nothing you
can do. It is not making decision for. My
mom teach me about when to have sex and I
made decision to do as she says. She would
have been very dissapointed and caused her
pain if I didn't do as she teached me.
Does this clear things for you? Pushing
opinion? Let me see, let's see the case
with drugs. My mom teached me not to use
drugs because drugs are bad. Is that
pushing opinion?? If it is then well she
did pushed her opinions and I'm glad i
followed her pushing opinions. So I guess
I will push my opinions for sure
particulary about when to have sex.
Have in mind lewelyn you did had sex at
those ages so our views are different. And
I understand you would teach your kids
that sex okay at that age and so on but i
sure won't. It is individual the way you
want to raise your kids up and in your own
home you make the rules.
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I agree that it is an individual decision
and that people decide differently for
themselves and in terms of what to teach
their children. I just was not really
sure if you looked down on people who had
sex at a younger age than you chose to and
was hoping that was not the case.
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Posted: 06-01-07 19:02pm
Llewellyn
wrote:
I agree that it is an
individual decision and that people decide
differently for themselves and in terms of
what to teach their children. I just was
not really sure if you looked down on
people who had sex at a younger age than
you chose to and was hoping that was not
the case.
Oh don't worry i don't
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Illegal Posted: 06-01-07 19:47pm
in our country,havin sex with a girl under
18 is against law.
anyone over 18 having sex with girl of
this age would be
sent to jail
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Re: Illegal Posted: 06-01-07 20:19pm
winterman
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in our country,havin sex
with a girl under 18 is against law.
anyone over 18 having sex with girl of
this age would be
sent to jail
Is the original poster's boyfriend over
18? If so, I must have missed that part.
I am not sure what country you are from.
I am in the US. Here statutory rape laws
vary from state to state, so there are
lots of variations of it just within this
one country!
Also, it isn't as cut and dry as "One
person is over 18, the other is under, so
it's a felony." In my state, for example,
there has to be an age difference of more
than four years. Otherwise two people
could be having sex, they could only be a
month apart in age, one could be over age,
the other under, and that would be a
felony! That wouldn't make much sense.
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Posted: 06-01-07 20:53pm
nightangel73
wrote:
Llewellyn
wrote:
I agree that it is an
individual decision and that people decide
differently for themselves and in terms of
what to teach their children. I just was
not really sure if you looked down on
people who had sex at a younger age than
you chose to and was hoping that was not
the case.
Oh don't worry i don't
you know what, i've gone to church my
whole life, my mom has taught me a lot
about sex and i was on this forum for a
few years before i had sex for the first
time and was very well educated, just
because i had sex for the first time a few
months ago (me being 16) doesn't mean that
im not religious, doesn't mean that my mom
wasn't there for me or that i was
uneducated, you shouldn't be so quick to
judge.
you can teach your daughter all you want,
but what it comes down to is what she
decides to do, it's her choice, not yours.
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Posted: 06-02-07 08:52am
HcoBrunette06
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you can teach your daughter all you want,
but what it comes down to is what she
decides to do, it's her choice, not
yours.
Correct in the end she will do what she
wants, just can only hope she doesn't do
like you did.
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lol well im not ashamed of what i did.
dont judge me, you don't know
annnnnnnything about me.
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Parenthood is
complicated.
No amount of
teaching can force someone to do something
or not do something. Like I said, I was
having sex at 16, and I knew a lot about
it. My parents were very involved with my
life; I lived with them until I was about
21 years old. I went to a great high
school, grew up in a nice town, graduated
from an expensive small private college
that my daddy paid cash for, and always
did well in school. I was in a four year
relationship with the guy I first slept
with. I had no pregnancy or STD scares.