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Posted: 06-02-07 10:22am
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| nightangel73
wrote: | | HcoBrunette06
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you can teach your daughter all you want,
but what it comes down to is what she
decides to do, it's her choice, not
yours. |
Correct in the end she will do what she
wants, just can only hope she doesn't do
like you did. |
Wow, that was rude
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confused_girl
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Posted: 06-02-07 10:32am
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If you want something to think about think
about some schools in the united states
that start teaching sex ed in the 5th
grade. I didnt have my period yet as i was
in 5th grade. I got it at the end of the
year and didnt know what the heck it was
but I knew alot about sex. so its really
something to think about.
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 06-02-07 13:17pm
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| nightangel73
wrote: | | HcoBrunette06
wrote: |
you can teach your daughter all you want,
but what it comes down to is what she
decides to do, it's her choice, not
yours. |
Correct in the end she will do what she
wants, just can only hope she doesn't do
like you did. |
Night, everything you posted in here
seemed condescending, and I kept hoping
that I was just reading it wrong. You
have to either stop judging people or keep
your opinions to yourself because you're
being very mean and offensive whether you
mean to or not.
It sounds like you grew up religious and
that is part of why you stayed a virgin
for so long? If that is true, why are you
being so mean and judgmental? I am not
aware of any religions that consider that
to be a virtue. Maybe you need to look at
yourself and realize that you are not
prefect either and leave it at that.
Again, I am not sure if you mean to come
across as harsh as you have been, but it
might be something to think about.
Would you like it if I said that I hope my
child does not turn out like you? Whether
it really hurts your feelings or not does
not take away from the fact that it just
is a mean thing to say to someone.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-02-07 15:22pm
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| Llewellyn
wrote: | | nightangel73
wrote: | | HcoBrunette06
wrote: |
you can teach your daughter all you want,
but what it comes down to is what she
decides to do, it's her choice, not
yours. |
Correct in the end she will do what she
wants, just can only hope she doesn't do
like you did. |
Night, everything you posted in here
seemed condescending, and I kept hoping
that I was just reading it wrong. You
have to either stop judging people or keep
your opinions to yourself because you're
being very mean and offensive whether you
mean to or not.
It sounds like you grew up religious and
that is part of why you stayed a virgin
for so long? If that is true, why are you
being so mean and judgmental? I am not
aware of any religions that consider that
to be a virtue. Maybe you need to look at
yourself and realize that you are not
prefect either and leave it at that.
Again, I am not sure if you mean to come
across as harsh as you have been, but it
might be something to think about.
Would you like it if I said that I hope my
child does not turn out like you? Whether
it really hurts your feelings or not does
not take away from the fact that it just
is a mean thing to say to
someone. |
I agree 100%
& it's funny that she'd say that,
because I'm the person out of my group of
friends who doesn't do drugs, smoke, drink
alcohol.. i've never touched any kind of
drug in my life, and i'm known to be the
"good kid" but now she doesn't want her
kid to turn out like i did? ha! you'd be
blessed if you had a kid like me. sex
isn't a bad thing.
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Doriz
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Posted: 06-02-07 17:53pm
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i have read everything you guys have
written.... personally i completely
dissagree with whoever said that having
sex at this age is because of lack of
education from parents... that is
completely untrue.... ever since i had my
first period my mother informed me of sex
and they never told me "hey sweety go
ahead and have sex whenever you want" if
that is what you are thinking. We have to
be realistic. My parents werent there when
i was with my boyfriend so there is no
possible way for them to prevent it. A
parents job is to teach their kids right
from wrong and hope they do their best. My
parents cant be with me every second of
the day so how can they prevent it from
happening. They taught me well and my
mother does know of me having sex but i
dont live with her, i live with my dad and
he is taking me to get birthcontrol...now
dont get it twisted he is not consenting
me on having sex, he just believes that if
im going to do it i must do it the right
way.And i am at the top of my class. I
cant say i go to a private school and that
i come from a high class family but that
has nothing to do with it. I may not be
the richest person in the world but i am
intelligent and i do know what im doing.
Everyone makes mistake and it was my one
mistake to have sex without a condom.
Now my boyfriend is not 18.... he is 17
and only 3 months older than me. We have
been together for a long time and before
that we were the best of friends. I cant
guarantee that we will be together forever
but if the relationship does not work out
i wont regret anything i did with him
because i reallly do LOVE him. I am 16 and
i might have a lot to learn but i have
been through a lot and i do know the
meaning of love before anyone gets into
that discussion.
BTW.. i took the pregnancy test twice and
they both came out negative..so im not
pregnant... I learned my lesson and it
wont happen again. I guess thats a nother
thing i want to touch up on. A parent can
teach their kids but they must let them
make mistakes because it is only then when
they will trully learn their lesson.
Something i have experienced personally
that can be used as an example is that
when my parents used to tell me "dont do
drugs its bad for u" i used to ask why....
they woould tell me all thee side effects
of what could happen and what it can do to
you but i still couldnt fully comprehend
why if it is so bad everyone is doing it.
Until my older brother got into it and i
saw with my own eyes what it truly can do
to you. A parent can tell you what is
right and what is wrong but it is only
when you experience it first hand that you
will know why...
i thank everyone for their support... any
more suggestion or comment feel free to do
so.... 
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Doriz
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Posted: 06-02-07 18:09pm
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[quote="nightangel73"][quote="Llewellyn"]<
/span>| nightangel73
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Have in mind lewelyn you did had sex at
those ages so our views are different. And
I understand you would teach your kids
that sex okay at that age and so on but i
sure won't. It is individual the way you
want to raise your kids up and in your own
home you make the
rules. |
its not about teaching our kids that sex
at that age is ok..its about teaching them
that if they do decide on doing it they
need to be well prepared. Good parenting
isnt closing their eyes to something they
need to learn (like birthcontrol and
condoms and SEX!!!) its about teaching
them the correct way to do things. You
have your way of teaching them... but what
if you daughter comes home one day and
tells you " mom i had sex with my
boyfriend and im not sure what to do if i
am pregnant" Are you going to yell at her
and insult her for doing wrong? Or are you
going to look for a way to make things
right??
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Posted: 06-02-07 20:13pm
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| Doriz
wrote: | i have read everything you
guys have written.... personally i
completely dissagree with whoever said
that having sex at this age is because of
lack of education from parents... that is
completely untrue.... ever since i had my
first period my mother informed me of sex
and they never told me "hey sweety go
ahead and have sex whenever you want" if
that is what you are thinking. We have to
be realistic. My parents werent there when
i was with my boyfriend so there is no
possible way for them to prevent it. A
parents job is to teach their kids right
from wrong and hope they do their best. My
parents cant be with me every second of
the day so how can they prevent it from
happening. They taught me well and my
mother does know of me having sex but i
dont live with her, i live with my dad and
he is taking me to get birthcontrol...now
dont get it twisted he is not consenting
me on having sex, he just believes that if
im going to do it i must do it the right
way.And i am at the top of my class. I
cant say i go to a private school and that
i come from a high class family but that
has nothing to do with it. I may not be
the richest person in the world but i am
intelligent and i do know what im doing.
Everyone makes mistake and it was my one
mistake to have sex without a condom.
Now my boyfriend is not 18.... he is 17
and only 3 months older than me. We have
been together for a long time and before
that we were the best of friends. I cant
guarantee that we will be together forever
but if the relationship does not work out
i wont regret anything i did with him
because i reallly do LOVE him. I am 16 and
i might have a lot to learn but i have
been through a lot and i do know the
meaning of love before anyone gets into
that discussion.
BTW.. i took the pregnancy test twice and
they both came out negative..so im not
pregnant... I learned my lesson and it
wont happen again. I guess thats a nother
thing i want to touch up on. A parent can
teach their kids but they must let them
make mistakes because it is only then when
they will trully learn their lesson.
Something i have experienced personally
that can be used as an example is that
when my parents used to tell me "dont do
drugs its bad for u" i used to ask why....
they woould tell me all thee side effects
of what could happen and what it can do to
you but i still couldnt fully comprehend
why if it is so bad everyone is doing it.
Until my older brother got into it and i
saw with my own eyes what it truly can do
to you. A parent can tell you what is
right and what is wrong but it is only
when you experience it first hand that you
will know why...
i thank everyone for their support... any
more suggestion or comment feel free to do
so.... |
you're great  im 16 and have been
with my boyfriend for a few years now too.
don't you love people who judge?
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Doriz
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Posted: 06-02-07 20:46pm
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i love that they think they know
everything when they really dont...
me n my boyfriend have been thru a lot and
i really thank him for being so supportive
of this whole pregnancy thing. im just
really happy im not pregnant... but now
there are other things on my mind like why
the heck my period hasnt come yet and the
other thing that i posted up that im
confused over (  )
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-02-07 20:55pm
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lol i didn't see your other post but i'll
look for it.
are you guys using protection?
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Doriz
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Posted: 06-02-07 20:59pm
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yes we are.. after that scare we dont do
anythng without it.... that way i wont
have to worry anymore....
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-02-07 21:03pm
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lol o, well thats good.
i've had a scare, too (which doesn't make
me a bad person ) so yeah, it
can happen to anyone.
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Posted: 06-03-07 02:00am
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| Llewellyn
wrote: | | nightangel73
wrote: | | Correct in the end she will
do what she wants, just can only hope she
doesn't do like you
did. |
Night, everything you posted in here
seemed condescending, and I kept hoping
that I was just reading it wrong.
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No, I don't think you read it wrong. I
went *squick* several times while reading
this thread. It actually bothered me
quite a bit, and I'm not a person who gets
easily offended by anything.
I was drilled that sex=bad when I was
young. Not just by my parents but by my
extended family. When I made the decision
to have sex with my boyfriend at 16, my
mother didn't factor into it at all. I
didn't talk to her about it afterwards,
because I knew she would be mad. It's a
shame that she closed herself off to me in
that way, because I could have learned
from her experience (like I do now), and
could have certainly used the support.
You don't have to agree with someones
choices to support and be there for them.
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Posted: 06-03-07 12:15pm
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I'm not going to make any more comments
about what I think as I have already said
but I actually have a couple questions I
would like the 16 year old and younger who
have had sex answer me..
Knowing that at 16 you don't have your own
place and are living with parents, where
do you exactly have the sex at? Is it in
your parents place after the get sleep? At
a friends house? In the car in a secluded
place? At school? In a motel? I would like
to know that. I know how it is in college
but don't know in high school.
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 06-03-07 12:24pm
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| nightangel73
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Knowing that at 16 you don't have your own
place and are living with parents, where
do you exactly have the sex at? Is it in
your parents place after the get sleep? At
a friends house? In the car in a secluded
place? At school? In a motel? I would like
to know that. I know how it is in college
but don't know in high
school. |
I was having sex in my bedroom at home.
My parents knew that I was having sex. My
mother was taking me to the ob-gyn to get
hormonal birth control and yearly paps. I
lived with my parents when I was in
college as well.
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Posted: 06-03-07 16:40pm
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im pretty sure that's none of your
business and it's not relevent to the post
you aren't my mom, don't worry about it.
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Posted: 06-03-07 19:05pm
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| HcoBrunette06
wrote: | im pretty sure that's none
of your business and it's not relevent to
the post
you aren't my mom, don't worry about
it. |
ahh come on tell. This is anonimous. If
I'm gonna educate my children one day i
need to know what is going on out there.
This is really good information and I'm
sure there is many parents reading this
board that would like to know this too.
Shall i open a new thread then?
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Doriz
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Posted: 06-03-07 19:12pm
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Im curious to know why you are so curious?
If you are so opposed to teen sex then why
do you want to know?
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Doriz
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Posted: 06-03-07 19:20pm
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if you truly want to know... there is a
time and a place for everything... i go to
his house or he comes to mine. His parents
never walk into the room when me and him
are alone and my dad lets us go out all
the time. He has two houses and one of
them is almost always empty. If not the
other one is. Ive never been to hotel...
no money... but we dont need one. I ant
say ive havent done it in a car but it
isnt the best place to do so. So id rather
be inside of our houses. If we cant then
we dont do anything. Just because we are
16 doesnt mean we are wild girls having
sex anywhere and everywhere. I have
respect for myself and i dont want to be
considered a hoer. My boyfriend is the
only ive been with and i intend to keep it
that way.
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Posted: 06-03-07 19:21pm
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| Doriz
wrote: | | Im curious to know why you
are so curious? If you are so opposed to
teen sex then why do you want to
know? |
One because if i have children and I know
this I can better prepare a plan, things
that I need to check. Second because i'm
curious, the way I was raised no way i
could fool my mom. She wouldn't sleep
until i got home no matter how late. So I
wonder if some of this can let happen if
the parents aren't paying attention for
example. Like for example a high school
classmate of mine who said that his
parents never watched at what hour he came
back home from parties and so on. So I
just want to know.
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Posted: 06-03-07 19:23pm
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why do you care where we have sex? that's
not even a part of the conversation lol if
you would have gone about the subject in a
different way i would have been glad to
tell you some of my dirty little secrets (
 )
but the fact that you're just judging me
is the reason i'm not saying anything to
you.
i don't know why im even surprised that
youre judging, i've read past posts of
yours, i should have known better.
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