how do you know if you're gay...what if
you REALLY don't want to be...
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 05-30-07 15:46pm
You are gay if you are attracted to the
same sex, but not the opposite sex. It's
something people are whether they like it
or not. It is not a choice.
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HMMMMMinteresting
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Apr 2007 Posts: 15
Posted: 05-30-07 15:54pm
i just broke up with my girlfriend. maybe
this is just something that is an after
effect...to not have any sexual desire one
way or the other?
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HMMMMMinteresting
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Apr 2007 Posts: 15
Posted: 05-30-07 16:01pm
is it normal for teens to feel confused
about this sort of thing? like, i do not
want to be gay at all. do you think that
this is just an after effect of the
break-up?
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 05-30-07 16:12pm
HMMMMMinteresting
wrote:
is it normal for teens to
feel confused about this sort of thing?
like, i do not want to be gay at all. do
you think that this is just an after
effect of the
break-up?
Don't listen to roger. He seems to be our
newest spammer. You can't be "trained" to
be gay. Current psychological research
suggests that sexual preference is
something we are born with.
If you are not attracted to the same sex,
then you are not gay. It is fine if you
are not attracted to anyone right now.
You don't have to be.
Why don't you want to be gay?
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HMMMMMinteresting
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Apr 2007 Posts: 15
Posted: 05-30-07 19:42pm
thanks, So, you think that it's normal to
be totally turned off by anything sexual
right now? I don't really think that i'm
gay i jsut got worried because I just
wasn't feeling any desire for anyone or
anything...like, right now i wouldn't care
if i didn't have sex for the next 5 years.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 05-30-07 20:20pm
Absolutely. I don't think that sounds
abnormal at all. After getting out of a
four year relationship when I was in
college, my sex drive practically shut
down for a year and a half. I did not
date, have sex, get in the mood,
masturbate or anything else in that time.
Then, when I met my next partner, my sex
life just picked up where it left off.
There's not really a "normal" amount to
get in the mood as long as your sex drive
does not interfere with the rest of your
life. If you're not ready and just not
feeling it right now, no rush.
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jenjen640
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 May 2007 Posts: 8 Location: GA
That Does Not Mean You Are Gay Posted: 05-30-07 20:47pm
Okay, sorry. I have to step in this. If
you are not into women or men, you are not
gay! And if you find a male sexy that
doesn't mean you are gay either! I am so
sorry. I think people are so quick to call
you gay. I am a female, I find other
females sexy and I have no question in my
mind that I am not gay. Reason, I can
never look at a women in the same way as I
do a man. I couldn't marry a women, share
my life with a women or have a relionship
with one. I am just saying, just because
you have thoughts, that doesn't mean you
are gay. You might be but don't be so
quick say you are.
