Really Worried And Cant Tell :-( Plz Help

I personally feel that even though you don't want to tell him you should cause if you passed something to him and he sleeps with someone else then he could screw someone else up.

It sounds like you really owe it to yourself and this guy to go. If you can have sex with him, you certainly should be able to talk to him and be honest with him. It might not be easy for you, but it has to be done. Part of being an adult is taking care of yourself and watching out for your partner too, when you have one.

I disagree with the other ladies to a point. I would find out first if you have the std before saying a word. You do not owe the man you past history if you do not wish to share that part with him. If you do have a std, then you must tell him. There is just no reason to tell him something that he will prejugde you on if you don't have to. That is you personal business and if you don't have to share it, than don't. So I say find out if you have a STD, if so let him know both of ya'll need treatment. You don't have to take blame because you don't really know that it was you since you said you were treated. I know everyone is going to disagree with me but the important thing is both get treated, he doesn't hurt her and she has some self respect left.

thanks for the advice, so do u think it is more likely that i still had it and passed it to him, or am i am i really unlucky that he had it aswell? one thing i really dont want is to tell him about before, but i will tell him if i found out i do have one

I really don't think you should be scared about telling him that you had it before, especially since you had the treatment and thought it was gone! Nobody could fault you in that. In fact, if you don't tell him about having it in the past, he could think that you cheated on him and caught it that way (assuming he didn't already have it also).

I seriously doubt that the clinic would look down on you for having it again, because maybe it just didn't go away the first time? You shouldn't worry about that. If he goes in with you, then he would learn that you had it before, because if the clinic doesn't already know, you should tell them about the first time you had it. So if he's going to find out at the clinic (assuming he's going with you), then you should tell him so that he's not surprised.

Seven months is a long time to be with someone, and by that time you should be at the stage where you at least have a good foundation of trust between the two of you. And part of trust is being able to talk to each other, even about the hard things. It'll be okay.

It will be okay.

I got an sti (hpv) from an ex that was latent until I had already been with my new boyfriend (who is now my husband) for some months.

I had been tested for everything before we got together and they said I was clear, but hpv doesn't show up on tests unless you have a) irregular cells on a pap or b) genital warts.

I had passed it on to him before I even knew I had it. I felt terrible, and so ashamed. He was a virgin when we met. I told him right away, and he was so understanding and didn't blame me at all. I cried and he hugged me and reassured me that it was okay.

It was okay. We got married a year later.

thank you! well i went to the clinc yesterday im just awaiting the test results i have told my bf and hes fine, we seem to be closer then ever now! i feel so releaved