tinkinpink84
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Posted: 05-31-07 07:02am
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So i dont know really if i wanna stay here
or leave when jason leaves. I have no one
here but at the same time we will have an
extra $2,600 if i stay . plus jasons prob
getting a truck. And i think what if he
gets hurt and has to come back and no ones
here to help him. I wanna go to the states
too though but i dont wanna fly alone with
2 kids under 2. We would be saving money
there too with no phone bill and both cars
would be nondriver insured. And saving on
groceries but also we can save money being
here too with the extra he gets for being
gone. My parents want me to go back and
part of me wants to but i just dunno. Plus
if the base finds out your gone more then
3 mths u can possibly lose your house etc.
So now im sorta stuck and i dunno what to
do.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 05-31-07 07:54am
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i personally think you'd be much happier
if you went back home, but i understand
why you're ocnfused on what to do. i wish
i could help 
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 05-31-07 07:58am
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yeah i know, like our neighbors will mow
our lawn if i stay here or leave, but i
dont wanna like end up losing our house,
but we cuold have aneighbor watch it too.
Before i was all like ok im going to the
states now im not so sure. Its supposed to
only be 6-8mths but its hard when ur alone
with 2 kids. I look forward to him coming
home everyday cuz if i needed to i can get
a break or have a shower and hes there to
watch em , when hes gone im here and the
only break i get is when theyre in bed but
when he was in the field for 3 weeks i
felt overwhelmed with the kids, mostly
joseph he tends to act worse when jasons
gone for long periods of time. I just
kinda like to have someone there so i can
say i need to take a break or something.
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 05-31-07 08:02am
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maybe u could stay in germany for 2-3
months . then the rest with your family.
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 05-31-07 08:10am
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hmm could be a possibility but i dont know
anyone that could pick me up from the
airport, cuz personally if i did that id
leave when he left to go to the states,
come back here for the last half so im
here when he gets back and go to the
welcome home ceremony. Cuz he really wants
me there for that. but ah man i dont know
what to do, i wish i had a rich jobless
friend that could come stay here with me
lol
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Posted: 05-31-07 08:15am
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why not give up your house and collect the
bah and then get it back right before he
comes home. thats what im planning on
doing when brian leaves.. its an extra
1800 dollars a month to save if i move
back in with my parents..
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 05-31-07 08:19am
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then what happens with all our household
goods etc? it seems like more work then
its worth. Jason brought it up about that
but then he said about me staying with my
parents until he leaves germany in april
2009 and i dont wanna do that.
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Posted: 05-31-07 08:26am
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i put our stuff in storage but yea.. I
know lots of people who just dont feel
comfortable giving up their homes.. I
wouldnt want to be away that long either..
hahah plus im lucky enough to be staioned
40 minutes away from my parents house
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 05-31-07 08:30am
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yeah, that seems like alota work to put it
in storage. I wouldnt wanna do that then
try and get it back before hes back, i
could see if he was gone for 12-18mths
possibly doing that and getting the BAH.
BAH in fla is like 1500 or something.
Technically we dont need the money
although it would be nice, i think they
get like an extra 500 in hazerdous duty
then family seperation plus he just made
e-4 so thats alil extra then the debt is
almost paid off so thats an almost extra
$200, and the owe us backpay in cola for
jordynne since we havent yet got her ssn.
So either way were doing ok. but if i went
back to the states i cold amend our taxes
to add jordynne, here i gotta wait until
next yr tax season unless her ssn gets
here before june 30th. So i think staying
here or going there either way we got
plenty of money. just be a tad more in
fla.
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Posted: 05-31-07 08:43am
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You need to sit down and make a list of
pros and cons. It will help you make a
decision. Don't pile everything up at
once either. Do one thing at a time and
it will become clear what the right thing
to do is/ NOne of us can tell you what to
do because you seem to have rebuttals
(sp?) when we do try to say something
(which we all do). But make the list,
it'll help.
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 05-31-07 08:49am
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ive done that before a couple months back,
and it usually comes out pretty even with
the pros and cons for both lol but we got
new stuff on our plate now like the
possible truck etc.
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Posted: 05-31-07 09:19am
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Diane no offense but why do you come on
here asking advice and when people give it
to you , you just always seem to have a
counter response. Always.
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 05-31-07 12:52pm
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| lil_blaze2004
wrote: | | Diane no offense but why do
you come on here asking advice and when
people give it to you , you just always
seem to have a counter response.
Always. |
i was just stating i wrote a pro and con
list before and they end up equaling
eachother, theres good and bad to staying
here but theres just as much good and bad
going to the states. the difference in
leaving is a 11 hr plane right with an hr
and a half in between if im lucky and the
plane leaves on time to switch planes,
thats if jason doesnt get a space A flight
wich is ona c-130 cargo plane and they
have net seats on the sides so an uncomfy
ride but thats $25 if he finds that.
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Posted: 06-01-07 01:33am
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deployment sucks
we put our stuff in a pod, its quit cheap,
they have military discount and they leave
it in your driveway so u can pack at your
own pace
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 06-01-07 03:11am
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yea i dunno if they do POD's here that ive
seen or where any storage place is for tha
tmatter. jason asked me last night what i
wanted to do but at the same time said
most likely ill be staying here, because
he doesnt want the base to find out i am
gone and then lose our house because that
would really suck. But now my brother and
his gf are going with my sister back to nc
cuz they cant stand my dad so everythng is
all up in the air at the moment, for some
reason i think in the end ill be stuck
here.
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 06-01-07 05:38am
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im pretty sure im staying here now, he
called me on his lunch break to ask what i
was doing, because i think he got approved
for the loan for the truck and if istay
here he can put the 2,600 on the loan and
bring the payments down to like $226 or
something instead of $340 but then also we
would have to keep both vehicles insured
because im sure id use the truck while he
is gone as well. scary thought but i hope
the time flies while hes away, it seemed
like it did for the other people whose
husbands left january theyre abotu to come
back like next month. makes me nervous.
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