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rach16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004
Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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Does This Make Me a Bad Person?
Posted: 02-26-04 08:41am
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I no everyone has there different views on
things but I am really doubting whether I
should have my baby. I have only just
come out of hospital as my babies dad bet
me ysterday really bad n there is now n
high risk my baby is goin to have brain
damage or b deformed in some way. (not
def and remember girls time difference is
different over here incase u fink im liein
but trust I wudnt bout this)
but to add to it I have also found out
there is a high chance my baby will be
still born now do I go through all this
and still either end up wit a child I wont
be able to cope with or having to carry my
child for 9 months only o find out it has
died during labour? I no u ladies cant
tell me what to do but does it make me a
bad person just wonderin how easy it would
be not to have this baby and go through
all this?
Rachel xx
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Posts: 2957
Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 02-26-04 08:45am
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U r not(caps) a bad person! None of this
is your fault and ur stuck in a life or
death situation... I honestly dont know
what to tell you.... Thats a very hard
decision and I think its one u have to
make yourself. Just think about your
choices very wisely and see which one u
think would be better for u. I really
dont think theres a right or wrong answer
here... Its a very hard decision but
we'll all help u thru what u decide, but u
are not a bad person for this happening
and plz dont think that about yourself.
We're here for u!
Shauna
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rach16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004
Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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Thanks
Posted: 02-26-04 08:54am
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I just really needed to get it out. U
wait tho I have been good tryin not to
fight but he will get it bk I swear. I no
its not the right way to do things but men
should no u dont mess with a pregnant
violent hormal woman!! I will let you
know what I decide I dont think I could
cope with a baby that needs special
attention. I dnt believe in gettin rid of
babies it is not their fault an im still
in shock that he would do such a thing!!
Thanks for not judgin me he knows I wont
let him get away wit it im so angry but
really upset n all.
Thanks I do really mean it
love rachel xxx
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Posts: 2957
Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 02-26-04 09:18am
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That guy that did this to you shouldnt
even be allowed to walk the streets. Men
who could abuse pregnant women like that
should be locked away for life. I'm so
sorry u had to go thru that and whatever
decision u make i'll help u thru it, but
its also good u stopped yourself from
fighting others (i hope u did defend
urself against that guy even tho guys can
be much stronger than girls) but I hope ur
okay and u make the decision thats right
for u. I wish u all the best and i'll
always be here in case u need to talk 
shauna
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rach16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004
Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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Posted: 02-26-04 09:27am
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I did defend myself but its hard when he
gets his m8s to hold your arms and legs
dwn. He knows I can fight thats y he had
to get people to help.... Im sorri I cant
do this I cant talk bout this its making
me angry. Of course im upset but I dnt
like cryin I found out long time ago it
doesnt get you no where. If I dnt sort
this out an finish college den I will ave
nothin so I need to focus on that an
kickin that boys ass!!! I will speak to u
soon but I cant handle talkin bout what
when on
thanks for your concern
rachel
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JillMarie
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Location: Iowa
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Posted: 02-26-04 09:44am
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I dont think you are a bad person. I
think you should think of all the
possibilities and decide what would be
best for you and you baby.
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 02-26-04 12:14pm
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-08-04 13:35pm; edited 1 time in total
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Mesmerizeu15
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Posts: 2729
Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 02-26-04 12:18pm
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*teary eyes* I dont know what I would do*
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sparklypixie12
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Posted: 02-26-04 14:17pm
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Im coming down there to kick his ass
rach.That makes me so mad.Im sorry to hear
about that sweets-how could he do that
when ur expecting his child?
You need to decide what you want to do-you
have options.Look at jen's story-they
nearly gave up on her and look at her
know-she's a bit of a liar (lol! Had to
get that in jen!) but shes doing great
& has three kids.Its your choice
though isnt it-this is your baby &
your flesh & blood and whatever you
do,make sure its been your decision.Dont
that that evil health questions talk
u into anything.
Thinking of u 
liz x
p.S. You could do him for gbh (grievious
bodily harm)
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insurancegirl
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Posts: 5286
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Posted: 02-26-04 15:05pm
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-08-04 13:36pm; edited 1 time in total
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rach16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004
Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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Posted: 02-26-04 16:17pm
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I wont get him done for gbh but I am goin
to get him bk . Let you know what happens
k girles.
Love rachel xx
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BabyP
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2004
Posts: 360
Location: Maryland, Tennessee
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Sorry
Posted: 02-27-04 07:52am
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Im sorry to here about this......I dont
think your leing, how far along are you???
I dont think your a bad person, some may
disagree wth me, but I think it is
unselfish of you to thin this way,you may
be thinkin in the best intrest of the
child, well good luck, I hope you can
decide for your self the right decision.
Xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox pamala
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rach16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004
Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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Posted: 02-27-04 08:56am
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Thanks I personally dont care if people
disagree with me unless they have been in
exactly the same situation as me in the
first place but so far no1 has! Im in my
19th week or beginning of my 20th I forget
still new at all this
love rachel
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sparklypixie12
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Posted: 02-27-04 10:55am
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You have to get him back rach-this is so
wrong of him.I really wanna kick his ass
& it'll only take me about 2 and half
hours 2 get there!!
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Mesmerizeu15
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Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 02-27-04 10:58am
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*still at a loss for words*
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rach16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004
Posts: 78
Location: Scotland
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Posted: 02-27-04 12:05pm
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Dont worry liz I am proof anger management
dnt work an I have beat him up b4 wen I
wasnt pregnant but how could someone be so
heartless so hurt their own son? I woulnt
of cared as much if he hadnt broken my
nose or hit my face but my baby that has
taken it too far! If I decided o can
handle my child and my life then I will
110% make sure he nevr eva sees his son
and if my son undatsnds wen im older I
will explain exactly what is father is
like so he can h8 him as much as I do
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Mesmerizeu15
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Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 02-27-04 12:31pm
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I think that you can do it? Do you
believe in yourself?
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Jaydensmommy
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Posted: 02-27-04 14:48pm
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I am so sorry that you have to go through
this. I am against abortion, but I
almost wonder that if in this
situation..It may be best. I mean if
that child is born with problems, it could
suffer for the rest of his life. But
then again....Doctors arn't always right.
And look at jen..I mean shes grown to be
a wonderful woman. I really don't know
what I would do personally. You are so
strong! I wish you the best of luck and
if you need someone to talk to, please let
me know.
~sara~
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Posts: 2957
Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 02-27-04 14:51pm
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Jen?? What happened to jen? I think im
lost lol!
Shauna
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 02-27-04 15:07pm
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-08-04 13:36pm; edited 1 time in total
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