Joined: 09 May 2007 Posts: 106 Location: Dade City
Sonogram .. But No Baby ! Posted: 06-01-07 13:34pm
So yesterday was my first initial
pregnancy doctors appt. i was SOO excited
to see somthing. i went had a papsmear and
all that good stuff when it came down to
having the sonogram the doctor looked..
and looked. and there was nothing. just
a round black hole no baby, no heart beat.
He said somthing about there being 3
chromosons instead of two. or either the
egg or the sperm where infertile.
This really sucks but i just have to keep
thinking to myself that there was never a
baby there to begin with. I didn't see a
picture, didn't hear a heart beat.
But i guess my question is i wanted to get
an opinion.. should i wait it out and go
natural and wait for the miscarrage to
take place, or get the DNC. (I think thats
what he called it) I would like to do the
DNC just because i don't wanna bleed for a
long heavy period of time (which i heard
thats what happened) and on the other hand
i don't wanna go through the painful
operation. i guess either one would be
painful.
Can i get ya'lls input or suggestions? i
would really appriciate it
Im soo sorry you had to go through that.
Justa heads up this may get moved to the
misscarriage forum so ya know where to
look.
It really depends on how far along you
were supposed to be etc wether wich one
would be best, i think either way is a bit
painful with cramping etc. I beleive u get
put to sleep with the d & C though.
But natural misscarriage is also better
but you have to keep an eye out in case
you get an infection.
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-01-07 14:20pm
i'm so sorry.
duckypaty
wrote:
This really sucks but i just have to keep
thinking to myself that there was never a
baby there to begin with. I didn't see a
picture, didn't hear a heart beat.
if that's what you need to think to get
through this, then do it. but you don't
have to pretend it didn't happen. you
*were* pregnant, you didn't make it up.
you were excited about being pregnant and
you were excited about planning.
i found out at 13 weeks that my baby had
stopped growing at 8. i chose to go with
the d&c because i couldn't go about my
day to day life waiting for a miscarriage.
i just wanted to get it over with.
it's different for everyone, but i didn't
have any cramping after mine and i only
spotted for about a day. you're asleep
during the procedure (i *think* they put
everyone to sleep for it, i could be
wrong), and you won't feel or remember a
thing. they gave me something in my iv and
it made me feel silly, i remember laughing
because it was all so weird and feeling so
inappropriate. after that all i remember
is climbing up on the table and the doctor
saying something, then i woke up in a
recovery room. it was quick and painless
(physically).
think about your 2 options and what you
think would be best for you. either way,
it's going to be difficult.
feel free to pm me if you have any
questions or just want to talk. i'm sorry
for your loss.
So Sorry That You Are Going Through This Posted: 06-01-07 14:24pm
First of all I can't even imagine what you
are going through. You must still be in
shock. I wanted to tell you that I have
had a D&C and I didn't find that it
was a painful experience. I had a little
mild cramping after but it wasn't any
worse than a menstrual cycle. I have also
read that many women have really bad
cramping when they are having a
miscarriage. Ultimately it's your decision
and you have to do what you think is best
for you and what you think might make it a
a bit easier for you. I just wanted to let
you know that you don't have to be afraid
of having a D&C. If you have any
questions please don't hesitate to ask
me.
Take care of yourself and I hope that
everything works out for you.
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mc4ever02
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Joined: 08 Feb 2007 Posts: 3636 Location: Orlando, FL Usa
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Posted: 06-01-07 14:36pm
Aww hun, I'm sorry...
Why did they do an untrasound in the first
place?
~big hug~
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duckypaty
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2007 Posts: 106 Location: Dade City
Posted: 06-01-07 15:08pm
thank you alll *SOOOOO* much it means so
much to have you all as support. my fiance
ask once before "why i talk about this to
ppl i don't know" and i told them that
even though i don't know them i feel like
they are my friends!! but i know it
happened i have earlie symptoms and
everything i just hope for the best and i
think that i am going to do the D & C.
i just wish my fiance would be there. but
he can't work wount let him. I cry when i
see babys. and about fainted when i seen
the crib i had for the baby.
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duckypaty
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2007 Posts: 106 Location: Dade City
Posted: 06-01-07 15:10pm
mc4ever02
wrote:
Aww hun, I'm sorry...
Why did they do an untrasound in the first
place?
~big hug~
it was my 8 week doctors appt. and as well
my E.R. follow up.
Thank you for the hug. i need plenty right
now!
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christinamuir
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Feb 2006 Posts: 50 Location: san diego
Posted: 06-01-07 18:30pm
I miscarried last March (I ended up
getting pregnant 2 weeks later). I didn't
have the D & C (I was scheduled for
it, but I passed everything the day before
the appointment). My Dr. was really
adament about the D & C, saying that
my bleeding would stop, and that there
would be little to no pain. From my
experience, the cramping got pretty bad
(they felt like labor contractions, which
they were to some degree), I passed a lot
of clots and I saw the baby after he/she
was expelled. I really didn't want the D
& C, mainly because it would have been
my first surgery, but looking back, I
think I would have chosen that option
(assuming that my body wouldn't have
expelled everything on its own). I know I
wasn't much help, but I wanted to tell you
my experience since the other posters have
had the D & C performed.
I'm really sorry that you are going
through this. If you want to talk, please
feel free to PM me!
Christina
EDIT: I forgot to mention that I bled for
a week or so, where as with the D & C,
the bleeding is supposed to stop.
just
a round black hole no baby, no heart beat.
He said somthing about there being 3
chromosons instead of two. or either the
egg or the sperm where infertile.
