Ex Live In Pregenant And Now Had a Miscarriage Posted: 06-01-07 14:49pm
My ex of 10 years was living with a girl,
the girl got pregenant and he married her.
Just last week this girl had a
miscarriage. I now found out they ar
having a BBQ at thier house on Sunday. I
know he married her because she got
pregenant she has been divorced once
before. I am wondering if this is a
blessing for him to get out of this
marriage I don't think she is good for
him. And yes i would consider taking him
bac we had agood 10 years.
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Re: Ex Live In Pregenant And Now Had a Miscarriage Posted: 06-01-07 14:57pm
angie3225
wrote:
My ex of 10 years was living
with a girl, the girl got pregenant and he
married her. Just last week this girl had
a miscarriage. I now found out they ar
having a BBQ at thier house on Sunday. I
know he married her because she got
pregenant she has been divorced once
before. I am wondering if this is a
blessing for him to get out of this
marriage I don't think she is good for
him. And yes i would consider taking him
bac we had agood 10
years.
why did the two of you get a divorce?
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Ex Live In Pregenant And Now Had a Miscarriage Posted: 06-01-07 15:25pm
We were never married. I broke up with him
because he told me he was unhappy and he
knew I wanted to have a baby. At this time
I was dealing with a lot of family issues
my mom was gravely ill and she did pass
away.
He has lived with this girl right after
our breakup.
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Re: Ex Live In Pregenant And Now Had a Miscarriage Posted: 06-05-07 14:11pm
angie3225
wrote:
We were never married. I
broke up with him because he told me he
was unhappy and he knew I wanted to have a
baby. At this time I was dealing with a
lot of family issues my mom was gravely
ill and she did pass away.
He has lived with this girl right after
our breakup.
well just because she was
having his child doesn't mean he still
wants one.I think people break up for a
reason.you wanting a kid and him not
wanting one is a very good reason.You'll
resent him later if he wont let you and he
will resent you if you do have one.I bet
he wasn't too happy with her beingf
pregnantand all but he felt that he had to
marry her since she was carrying his
child.Do you want to end up with your
partner being unhappy and feeling pushed
into a situation he doesn't like ir vice
versa?Think about it hun!
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Ex Live In Pregenant And Now Had a Miscarriage Posted: 06-06-07 08:44am
Your right. I think he probably just
wanted to do the right thing. I actually
dont resent his actions he was living with
her and sometimes things happen. He
stepped up to marry her and by the way she
was divorced once before but i'm not sure
if she has kids from the first marriage.
The thing that bothers me the most is the
fact that we had a 10 year relationship
and we did love each other and it
basically ended because of the fact that
my mind was set on having a baby but I
must tell you I wanted to do thing in
order meaning first marry me and then we
can have a baby. I could have easily
gotten pregenant by him but I'm not that
type of person to get what I want. My
mother had a saying and it goes like this
"WHEN IT DOES NOT START OUT THE RIGHT WAY
IT ENDS UP THE WRONG WAY" I always thought
that was very true and I have seen this
happen with many other people. My only
problem has been that I feel he had no
concise about what happen with us 10 years
is a very long time it lasted more than
some marriages, and what a slap in the
face for me to find out that he has his
live in girlfriend preganant and married
her. I was sad to hear that she had a
miscarriage but I must admit I thought
well how does he feel now he married her
because of the baby and now there is no
baby but you married her! Hope it works
out for them but I feel this is just the
beginning of a lot of disappointments for
him. You reap what you sew.
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Re: Ex Live In Pregenant And Now Had a Miscarriage Posted: 06-06-07 09:44am
angie3225
wrote:
Your right. I think he
probably just wanted to do the right
thing. I actually dont resent his actions
he was living with her and sometimes
things happen. He stepped up to marry her
and by the way she was divorced once
before but i'm not sure if she has kids
from the first marriage. The thing that
bothers me the most is the fact that we
had a 10 year relationship and we did love
each other and it basically ended because
of the fact that my mind was set on having
a baby but I must tell you I wanted to do
thing in order meaning first marry me and
then we can have a baby. I could have
easily gotten pregenant by him but I'm not
that type of person to get what I want. My
mother had a saying and it goes like this
"WHEN IT DOES NOT START OUT THE RIGHT WAY
IT ENDS UP THE WRONG WAY" I always thought
that was very true and I have seen this
happen with many other people. My only
problem has been that I feel he had no
concise about what happen with us 10 years
is a very long time it lasted more than
some marriages, and what a slap in the
face for me to find out that he has his
live in girlfriend preganant and married
her. I was sad to hear that she had a
miscarriage but I must admit I thought
well how does he feel now he married her
because of the baby and now there is no
baby but you married her! Hope it works
out for them but I feel this is just the
beginning of a lot of disappointments for
him. You reap what you
sew.
exactly! you have such a
great outlook on this it's great.I'm glad
you are a good person and not selfish
enough to trap him.some women are like
that na dit's very wrong.why have a baby
with someone on purpose and then have them
be miserable for the rest of his life with
you?neither of you would be happy.You will
find someone who fits you and your hopes
and dreams hun.As much of a history you
both have together,thigns will still be
the same.I'm proud of you!
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Ex Live In Pregenant And Now Had a Miscarriage Posted: 06-06-07 10:16am
Believe me its taken a while to get to
this point and it wasn't easy. Because of
our long history together I do still love
him very much. After we broke up he met
this girl immediately no time to even let
him self think about things jumped right
in moved right in etc.... If he truely
loved her why not marry her before she
became pregenant. I'm not trying to be
mean nor I'm I bitter but I just want
express my honest feelings - I'm hoping
things dont work out for him and he thinks
of me in that moment and knows and
understands how he hurt me. Some way some
how I hope to see one day he get it all
back. I hope when it does happen I'm the
most happiest I've ever been in my life.
Right now I feel happy just enjoying going
out meeting people having fun but I hope
to meet that very special one who is going
to appreciate the unconditional love of a
good woman. Hope he comes to soon I'm
ready for It.
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Re: Ex Live In Pregenant And Now Had a Miscarriage Posted: 06-06-07 10:29am
angie3225
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Believe me its taken a while
to get to this point and it wasn't easy.
Because of our long history together I do
still love him very much. After we broke
up he met this girl immediately no time to
even let him self think about things
jumped right in moved right in etc.... If
he truely loved her why not marry her
before she became pregenant. I'm not
trying to be mean nor I'm I bitter but I
just want express my honest feelings - I'm
hoping things dont work out for him and he
thinks of me in that moment and knows and
understands how he hurt me. Some way some
how I hope to see one day he get it all
back. I hope when it does happen I'm the
most happiest I've ever been in my life.
Right now I feel happy just enjoying going
out meeting people having fun but I hope
to meet that very special one who is going
to appreciate the unconditional love of a
good woman. Hope he comes to soon I'm
ready for It.
I know how you feel
trust me.I wasn't in a ten yr relationship
but I do know. Your a very srong person,I
can tell and thats awesome!
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Ex Live In Pregenant And Now Had a Miscarriage Posted: 06-06-07 10:49am
Oh I'm really not that strong the fact is
I don't have a choice but to be stong or
it cand screw up you life. There are times
I felt I was having a nervous B/D. I kept
thinking why did he not do all this me
live together, marry me etc... We knew
each other well, he hardly knows this girl
and just because you live with someone
doesn't mean that you know all about them,
heck I thought I knew him after 10 years
and all of his actions now have shocked
the caca of me....
Please tell me what happened in more
detail with your 10 year relationship??
Its goood to talk about this stuff and I
getting a lot off my chest now its your
turn, what went wrong?
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Re: Ex Live In Pregenant And Now Had a Miscarriage Posted: 06-06-07 12:06pm
angie3225
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Oh I'm really not that
strong the fact is I don't have a choice
but to be stong or it cand screw up you
life. There are times I felt I was having
a nervous B/D. I kept thinking why did he
not do all this me live together, marry me
etc... We knew each other well, he hardly
knows this girl and just because you live
with someone doesn't mean that you know
all about them, heck I thought I knew him
after 10 years and all of his actions now
have shocked the health question of
me....
Please tell me what happened in more
detail with your 10 year relationship??
Its goood to talk about this stuff and I
getting a lot off my chest now its your
turn, what went
wrong?
