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Sexual Health - Women Forum - I Don't Orgasm, Boyfriend's Upset
I Don't Orgasm, Boyfriend's Upset Posted: 06-01-07 20:38pm
Ok so my boyfriend got upset with me
because I didn't cum I didnt know girls
could or do,and honestly if they do how do
you know b/c I feel like I do sometimes
but I just dotn know, also he got upset
b/c he wastrying to making me have an
oragasm and I was but I wasnt screaming
and thats what he wanted. So my main thing
is I dont get it not everybody screams do
they, and do all girls cum So
confused
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 06-01-07 21:00pm
Yes, all women have the ability to orgasm,
although most women do not orgasm for one
reason or another.
The female orgasm is usually all internal
though. We don't usually ejaculate
anything like men do.
People respond to orgasms differently.
Some people are loud, others are in the
middle, others don't make a noise.
If your partner is getting angry with you
about something you can't control to begin
with, it sounds like he has some serious
anger issues. I would be running away
from a man that got angry about something
like that!
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aszalajka
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Joined: 29 May 2007 Posts: 103 Location: ,
Posted: 06-02-07 08:44am
not every one is loud, i think ur you bf
is thinkin all women are like porn stars
screaming and all. I can get a bit loud
but i can also be quiet. Tell your bf to
get a clue and not all women are loud. i
have dated guys who where vocal and ones
who are not. like my current boyfriend
barley makes a peep. he moans more when i
nibble his neck then acutally when having
sex. explain to your boyfriend that this
is how you are. i mean maybe since ur not
a screamer maybe talk a lil dirty to him
if thats something he wants. I enjoy the
facial expressions my bf makes more than
the noises he does.
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fiona05
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Posted: 06-02-07 17:52pm
sounds like this guy is actually more
interested in his own bravado than in
giving you pleasure. as the others have
stated, everyone is different. only about
a third of women orgasm from penetrative
sex. some women are noisy, some completely
silent. it's a personal thing. if he
doesn't know or understand this then he is
very ignorant.
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Georgia59
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Re: Help Posted: 06-04-07 11:43am
hisbaby23
wrote:
Ok so my boyfriend got upset
with me because I didn't cum I didnt know
girls could or do,and honestly if they do
how do you know b/c I feel like I do
sometimes but I just dotn know, also he
got upset b/c he wastrying to making me
have an oragasm and I was but I wasnt
screaming and thats what he wanted. So my
main thing is I dont get it not everybody
screams do they, and do all girls cum So
confused
All girls have the ability to cum, but
most girls do not ejaculate. This guy
doesn't sound very worth having sex with,
if he gets upset if you're not having the
right response. You should know if you
orgasm- if feels like a big release of
some sort, and if feels really good. Many
girls don't scream when they orgasm. And
if you feel pressure to have an orgasm, it
probably won't happen.
He doesn't sound very sensitive , kind, or
informed about sex.
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TLynn81
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Missouri
Posted: 06-04-07 12:13pm
First of all, if he got upset with you
because you didn't cum as in ejaculate,
then he needs to read about female
ejaculation. From what I've read and
understand, not all women can achieve this
phenomenon. It takes some exploring,
work, and letting go to experience.
Second, he shouldn't be upset with YOU
that you didn't cum (assuming still that
you meant ejaculate). That's like you
being upset with him if he doesn't
ejaculate.
As for the screaming, some women are just
quiet. I had a boyfriend that the most he
knew about sex was from watching porn. He
expected everything to be exactly the
same. This is totally unrealistic. Not
all women moan and scream at the top of
their lungs, just as not all men go for
hours or ejaculate more than once in one
night. He too wanted the screaming.
Would he rather you actually achieve
orgasm or fake it because you're too
concentrated on pleasing him by making a
noise? I suggest that you tell him you
want for the both of you to read up on sex
and orgasm together. It could give you
ideas to try and help him understand that
not all women are screamers.
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poppypot
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jun 2007 Posts: 36 Location: UK
Posted: 06-09-07 02:58am
Lots of women have never orgasmed, Ive
been fiddling since I was little so I
think I have the hang of it but I still
have to feel realy comfortable with
someone to orgasm in their company and
even more comfortable to orgasm during sex
and touching. If I feel streesed or
pressured I cant come. I have squirted
once but I dont quite know why! It was fun
though. Different women respond to
different stimulation, I know girls that
dont like penetration but I much prefer
it. I think its OK for your partner to
feel frustrated if he wanted to do
something nice for your but he should be
carefull to show you it is frustratuion
not blame and anger directed at you.
I dont know Ive ever screamed, but I do
make noises some times and breath heavily
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-09-07 08:25am
I honestly get very very quiet and focused
the closer I get to orgasm. I'll pant, and
I actually have to focus to keep
breathing, otherwise I'll hold my breath;
but breathing in and out makes it feel
even better; even more tingles! If I can
manage to keep breathing, I might make a
little noise. Then, as I'm coming, I'll
start moaning and going "aaah! aaah!"
again, but only if I want to - usually.
Sometimes it's just too darn good and I
can't control myself! Hehe. So, no yelling
for me normally. I find it hard to say
words during sex, kinda embarrasses me to
do so even though I find it really hot
when my fiancee does it, so I try to do it
more often because I can tell he likes it
too.
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 06-09-07 13:18pm
TLynn81
wrote:
First of all, if he got
upset with you because you didn't
ejaculate as in ejaculate, then he needs
to read about female ejaculation. From
what I've read and understand, not all
women can achieve this phenomenon.
Exactly. Female ejaculation is not well
studied, and it is not even proven at this
point. Researchers are not sure if all
women have the ability to do it or not
right now. I orgasm all of the time, but
I never ejaculate anything.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-09-07 14:33pm
Speaking of gushing orgasms, I tried to
achieve that in the bath today, after
masturbating clitorally once. I do believe
I found my g-spot, but pressing on it and
stimulating my clitoris at the same time
was quite an ordeal! Still, I definitely
pushed down a lot more this time as I
came; so perhaps it's possible for me,
with more practice.
So
confused
