i've been with my boyfriend for over a
year now & we've recently decided to take
a little time to ourselves due to his
condition. he needs to get himself better
before we can continue on with our
relationship. the thing is, he is
unwilling to go talk to someone or be seen
by a professional to get help with this
problem he has been dealing with since age
12. his mother is bipolar & takes zoloft
everyday for her condition. i've seen his
mother go into extreme lows that really
scared me before & i don't know if i'll be
able to stand to see him get that bad. i'm
not even sure if he will, but i know it's
possible. he says the way he feels right
now is mixed feelings of remorse,
self-pity, hopelessness, & sometimes rage.
i know he hasn't been himself for the past
5 or 6 months. He got help when he was 13
or 14 but that didn't last very long. I
think he's just lost hope as far as any
meds helping him & all since they haven't
seemed to in the past, but as a person
who's dealt with my own personal mental
problems, I know that you must keep trying
with the meds until you find the one that
works for you. He says that he just needs
some time to "get better." But i'm afraid
there is no "getting better" for him until
he seeks some real help. I guess he thinks
he can handle this by himself, and many
people think that, maybe some can, but
it's become very clear to me that he
can't. My birthday is in a few weeks and i
don't want to spend it alone. I don't know
what to do or say really. I'm just trying
to be as understanding and supportive as I
can possibly be right now while he
straightens himself out. He reassures me
that our relationship will be so much
stronger after this, and we talk everyday,
we're just not seeing eachother & spending
time together right now because we both
agreed it was the best thing.
As the old saying goes, you can lead a
horse to water, but you can't make him
drink.
I truly wish my boyfriend would think
about getting real help. I've told him
this. But for some reason it's my belief
that many men out there struggling with
problems such as this would like to try to
handle it on their own.
Does anyone have any encouragement or
advice for me? This is really hard for me
because we're used to being with eachother
everyday. It's almost like i'm not sure
what exactly i'm waiting on because i
don't know if he has the power to get
through this time of trial by himself or
not.
