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icesk8erchik

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First Time Sex Posted: 06-03-07 14:11pm


I am 22 years old and just had sex for the first time on Thursday. It didn't hurt that badly and I didn't even bleed. We used a condom. On Saturday, I started spotting and have been for 2 days now. My period has always been irregular and it should have started any time now. Having sex was really emotional for me and I have a lot of other change going on in my life. (Graduating school and started a new job last week.) Is this spotting something I should be concerned about??

Llewellyn

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Posted: 06-03-07 14:22pm


Probably not. It's possible that it's your period coming. I usually spot for about two days before my period really starts. Stress can also make your period do weird things! It's also possible that you had a small tear in your vagina. Most people don't realize how easily that skin can tear. The inside of your vagina can tear during sex if you are too dry. Sometimes it won't even hurt much, but it can bleed quite a bit. However, now that you're sexually active, you have to see an ob-gyn if you aren't already anyway. So you can have her make sure nothing more serious is going on.

ab07

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More First Timer Issues... Posted: 06-07-07 11:18am


So I've also just had sex for the first time. And I don't know if it's the condom or what, but I've been having some yellowish weird discharge- a lot. Also, how long is it supposed to hurt? My boyfriend and I couldn't even do it as easily as the first time because it hurt even worse the second! I mean, he is PRETTY long but I don't recall it hurting as bad when he would go all in the first time (I mean, after the initial "wanna rip his hair out and cry" pain). Does this sound familiar to anyone?

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Posted: 06-07-07 12:47pm


NO!!! It shouldn't hurt! Maybe a little bit of pain or soreness is ok, but not serious pain. If you're having weird discharge as well as pain during sex, you need to go to the doc, You could have an infection of some sort. Sex should never cause "wanna rip his hair out and cry" pain. That is an indication of something wrong.

Llewellyn

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Re: More First Timer Issues...
Posted: 06-07-07 13:13pm

ab07 wrote:

So I've also just had sex for the first time. And I don't know if it's the condom or what, but I've been having some yellowish weird discharge- a lot. Also, how long is it supposed to hurt? My boyfriend and I couldn't even do it as easily as the first time because it hurt even worse the second! I mean, he is PRETTY long but I don't recall it hurting as bad when he would go all in the first time (I mean, after the initial "wanna rip his hair out and cry" pain). Does this sound familiar to anyone? Shocked

Sex is not supposed to hurt. If it does, something is wrong. You were either not lubricated enough (the most common cause of pain), way too tense, or have a medical condition (infections and whatnot). Considering the yellow discharge, it sounds like you have an infection of some kind. You should see an ob-gyn sometime pretty darn soon.

Anne123

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Posted: 06-07-07 13:14pm


Agreed! It shouldn't hurt!!!! .The "wanna rip his hair out and cry" pain that you called "initial" - does that mean it only hurts at first? If it hurts at first, but not later then that is possibly a sign you are not properly warmed up/lubed up before you start vaginal intercourse. .If that is the case, more foreplay/warm up and a bottle of lube will help you have sex that is painless and never makes you want to "wanna rip his hair out and cry" in pain. "You need to preheat the oven before you put the meat in"

ab07

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Posted: 06-07-07 13:37pm


Well, as for the pain, when he went partly in it was ok. But in some positions when he went all the way in, like pushed almost as far as he could, I felt really intense pain like he was going in too far. Like he was trying to push through something that shouldn't get pushed through. I felt it closer to my abdomen as opposed to closer to the vaginal opening. After a while, I felt it less and he was able to thrust a little more with hardly any pain. But the second time we tried, maybe it was too dry or I was too sore or tense or something, because it was more uncomfortable and difficult to get in, and I felt the gut pain again and he couldn't move at all without hurting me and we had to stop... lack of stimulation for him made it difficult for him to stay aroused.

Llewellyn

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Posted: 06-07-07 13:59pm


If you are feeling deep pain like he is going too far, he might be hitting your cervix. That can hurt some women. For most women, the penis does not usually hit the cervix. For some, it hits it only in some positions and just causes mild discomfort when it does. Really, the only thing you can do about that is avoid those positions. Then there are people who have intense pain when the cervix is hit, and the cervix is hit in pretty much every position. This is due to the position of the cervix. You could talk to your ob-gyn and see if you cervix is, in fact, tipped funny. If it is, and it proves to be a problem, you can talk to your ob-gyn about your options. in extreme cases, sometimes surgery is an option. I would suggest relaxing, making sure you are well lubricated, and trying again. Don't forget to see the ob-gyn either way though. You're supposed to see her even if you don't have any pain or other problems.

ab07

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Posted: 06-07-07 14:58pm


Can that also have to do with a tipped uterus? And is it serious?

Llewellyn

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Posted: 06-07-07 15:34pm

ab07 wrote:

Can that also have to do with a tipped uterus? And is it serious?

Yes. Sometimes you hear will people say tipped uterus, tilted uterus, tipped cervix, or tilted cervix.

It's not usually serious. People used to think it could cause infertility, but more recent studies seem to suggest that that is not the case. Many women with a tipper uterus have no problems at all, but some have the pain during sex.

Doriz

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Posted: 06-07-07 16:45pm


My first time hurted me but only because i was really tight. At first it was almost impossible for him to get it in so he just fingeres me a bit to "warm me up" and to open me up a little bit. After we got going it didn't hurt anymore. I understand what they mean by hurting because it has happened to me. I found that after getting real heated and into the moment the pain goes away. He might really just be pushing your cervix..yea it does feel uncomfortable but mabey it is just that your not getting enough foreplay... As for the spotting, it could be that your getting your period as well as it being that he might of had ripped a lil skin which is completely normal. Make an appoint with a gyn... they can help you out with your irregular period.

Charmed20

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Posted: 10-12-07 09:35am


I am a 20 year old and I atempted to have sex this pass saturday morning for the first time. It started hurting hurting when he began ti pushing in, it really hurt. I only felt him for only like two pushes inside then he came out. I was still hurtung so we stopped. I went to the bath room and was bleeding a little bit. Howevere A few days later I still light red when I wipe. What does that me? Does anyone have advice to give me?

Georgia59

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Posted: 10-12-07 14:38pm


Well it could be a lot of things, most of which have already been mentioned. Did you, or do you, still have an intact hymen? You should be able to tell with your fingers. Are you able to get your fingers or a tampon into the vagina? If you aren't, it's possible that you have an intact hymen. You can break it yourself, it usually doesn't hurt but if you still have it by age 20 it might be abnormally thick or something. A trip to the gyno can help you with that. If not, then it could be that you were tight (because you were nervous, not relaxed, or something) or that you were not well lubricated. Because there was bleeding, I'd guess it was a combination of the above. Next time, try using store bought lubricant and getting very relaxed before you attempt penetration, try masturbating or having him orally or manually stimulate you before you try sex. You will relax more and your vaginal walls will loosen. It's really easy, especially if you're dry, for the pressure to tear your sensitive vaginal walls or opening. That's probably what the bleeding is from. So next time, if it hurts, stop and try some of these things. I almost always use lubricant because mine just isn't enough for me to be comfortable during sex, no matter how turned on I am. And if none of this seems to be the cause, go to the doctor- painful sex can be a sign of more serious problems.

Charmed20

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Posted: 10-14-07 10:29am


I use tampons. Once when I was getting fingered afterwards I started to bleed. He did stimulated me orally, at first. After he stopped I really wasn't stimulated anymore.

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