19 And Never Had a Girlfriend Posted: 06-03-07 15:48pm
hi I am not sure if I am asking in the
right place, but anyway I am 19 and have
never really had a girlfriend. It is wierd
I always thought I would get one. I am not
ugly or fat I have a good fashion sense. I
am so self conscious I felt ugly until I
got rhinoplasty but it really did not
change my nervousness around girls I once
went to a movie with a girl and I was so
nervouse I thought I was going to pass
out. I am also so sensitive to rejection,
I got the courage to ask out a girl when I
was 18 and she rejected me, I was so upset
I lost my apitite and didn't eat for 5
days I came close to blacking out on day 5
I forced myself to eat. I don't know what
is wrong with me, now I feel hopeless I
just feel like giving up alltogether. What
should I do?
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nightangel73
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Re: 19 And Never Had a Girlfriend Posted: 06-03-07 19:54pm
divergance_eye
wrote:
hi I am not sure if I am
asking in the right place, but anyway I am
19 and have never really had a girlfriend.
It is wierd I always thought I would get
one. I am not ugly or fat I have a good
fashion sense. I am so self conscious I
felt ugly until I got rhinoplasty but it
really did not change my nervousness
around girls I once went to a movie with a
girl and I was so nervouse I thought I was
going to pass out. I am also so sensitive
to rejection, I got the courage to ask out
a girl when I was 18 and she rejected me,
I was so upset I lost my apitite and
didn't eat for 5 days I came close to
blacking out on day 5 I forced myself to
eat. I don't know what is wrong with me,
now I feel hopeless I just feel like
giving up alltogether. What should I
do?
Look that anxiety is to worry about. You
are going to be rejected a gazillion
times. I rejected as much guys as guys
rejected me. It's all part of the dating
scheme. So you need to get over that. And
let me tell you I was self concious like
and I too had a rhinoplasty but I felt
like a goddess afterwards. It totally
improved my confidence at dating. Still
guys rejected me no matter how pretty i
looked. Rejection is good because that
way you know that person was not for you.
The person to be with you forever will not
reject you. I don't know what I can say to
you but to say that if you plan on not
having relationships because afraid of
being rejected, poor you, you are really
gonna miss fun in life. You definetly seem
to have a problem of low self-steem that i
were you I would do something about it.
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paul995
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 140 Location: ,
Posted: 06-04-07 17:44pm
first of all stop whining and keep your
head high. you said it yourself, you're
not ugly and that you are attractive and
has a good fashion sense. do not let
having a relationship ruin your social
life. you see, rejection is pretty normal,
everybody goes through that phase, not
just when asking out but also, say . . .
looking for a job.
my advice is look for a girl and measure
her up. i don't go asking a girl for a
date if my chances a really low. I have to
make sure that she can and might say yes.
and always feel that the girl you're
asking might not go out with you so as to
lessen the pain when she does. She might
have some reasons why she doesn't want to
go out with you, not because you're
unattractive and all...
just don't feel depressed, you're still
young. 30+ men, i hear, still don't have
relationships. . . it'll come . .
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pronetoillness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2007 Posts: 49 Location: san francisco!, california
Posted: 07-17-07 15:50pm
relax. stay confident.
and it' amazing that you have your heart
wide open.
it's a great quality. don't try to rid of
it or be ashamed..
just minimize the possibilities of getting
hurt by setting some gates to the girls
you meet.
if they past a gate, let her in. but there
are many more. care, but don't care too
much at first.
you'll do fine if what you say is true.
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womaninpain
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jul 2007 Posts: 179
Posted: 07-19-07 13:01pm
Girls love a man that is confident...your
confidence level is low and that is
obvious, people can read it. You have to
convince yourself that you are a good
looking guy and any girl would be lucky to
have you. When you are hanging out with a
girl act like she's your friend or one of
the guys just be respectful. I bet if you
can bring that confidence level up you
will have girls chasing after you! Also,
rejection is a part of life, men go
through it more than women it just is what
it is, don't get upset or down on the
situation just realize that you must learn
from it and that girl that rejected you
was totally not worth your time or your
feelings. I hope that you will take some
of this into consideration. Maybe even
contact mtv or something and have them
help you with something like this, I know
someone who did it and it worked out
really well for them. Good Luck!
