Hi,
I just want some adice/opinions. I am
married and I am hurt by my husband right
now and don't know if I am overreacting.
Let me give you a little bit of the story.
My husband and I will be traveling to
South Beath, Florida. We arrive in Florida
this coming Thursday and return back home
on Sunday. My husband's company is flying
us out there on a trip to reward my
husband for being an awesome sales
executive. Which is great and I am very
proud of my husband for doing so well at
work. The company is flying 30 other
exceptional employees and their spouses as
well.
On Thurday nights, Friday nights, and
Saturday nights starting at 7:30 they will
be having some dinner events going on for
us. The reason I am hurt with my husband
is because my husband has told me that
he's going to play golf 2 days, that is,
Thursday and Friday so that leaves me by
myself on those 2 days until about 3:00
p.m. then at 6:00p.m. we would start
getting ready to head to the dinner
events. The thing is we will be in Florida
3 full days and part of 1 day which is the
day we leave. My feelings are hurt because
in essence I am going to be by myself most
of the day for those 2 days. He says we
can do something when he gets back from
playing golf at 3:00 but that only gives
us 3 hours until the dinner event. He also
said we will be spending Saturday
together.
I told him I would be okay with him
playing golf 1 day and then he and I can
do something for the other to like getting
to see some florida sights but he'd rather
golf. I am hurt because I will be at the
beach alone, shoping alone and whatever
else alone. I would like to spend more
time with him but he'd rather golf cuz he
said it's a treat for him to golf in
florida but I told him it would be a treat
for us to spend some time together in
florida.
I mean what is the point of winning a trip
with your spouse if you're not going to
spend most of the trip with her? He said I
am being "greedy" by wanting to spend most
of my trip with him then letting him golf.
But I think he's being selfish by just
thinking of golfing for 2 days and
spending 1 with me...oh, plus we'll be at
the evening events with his company
together too.
I hope you understand what I am trying to
say. Am I overreacting or do I have a
reason to be hurt? I don't even feel like
going on this trip anymore. I mean what am
i going to do all day until 3p.m. when he
gets back? Please let me know what you
think!!
(Hope this is better.) Thanks for your
time.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 388 Location: Canada
Posted: 06-04-07 07:35am
I think your right...................1 day
of golf is fair...............other days
with you................no reason to file
divorce papers......................just
remember this for future
reference................and nip it in the
bud............before the golfing fantasy
is set in concrete
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5557 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 06-05-07 11:18am
I do agree, however, perhaps he is playing
golf or doing whatever because that's what
all of his co-workers are doing and he
feels the need to do it with them... maybe
ask him why? It is a work trip, and maybe
he feelsl ike he owes it to his co-workers
to be involved with them.
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Willa Weintraub
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Joined: 05 Mar 2007 Posts: 3399 Location: The Beach!
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Posted: 06-05-07 12:27pm
well I wuld be upset also.I mean your
going together,you don't know anyone(from
what I can tell),you have no one to hang
out with while he's playing golf with his
work buddies,what is the point of you
going if your only going to get 1 day of
together time.Id throw a fit too!
