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dmarit
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Belly Touchers !!! Grrrr !
Posted: 06-04-07 13:20pm
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Ok, so I am only 10 weeks & not really
showing yet. I'm still just as insecure
w/my belly flab as I was before I got
pregnant. I hate, absolutely HATE when
people touch my belly. And b/c strangers
can't even tell that I'm pregnant, it's
people I know. Which is worse to me, b/c I
feel as if I can't be rude & slap them in
the face. My mom-in-law & both
sisters-in-laws are the worse. I can't
stand it! Any suggestions how I can nicely
get the point accross that I don't want to
be touched?? I may change my mind once my
belly is firm & bigger, but for now it
just embarrases me & then angers me off!!!
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 06-04-07 13:55pm
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Hmm just say you're not too comfotable
with it becuae you're feeling sick or
something maybe? I think i give off some
kinda vibe which says 'don't touch me'
because if someone reaches out to i just
look at them and they stop, i think i have
an evil look 
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jaemierin
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Posted: 06-04-07 14:03pm
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I agree with D - just politely let them
know that you don't want your belly rubbed
or touched right now, and that maybe
you'll be ok with it once the baby is
bigger and there's something to actually
feel!
I was (and still am) the same as you. I
don't like anyone touching my belly except
my Mom and my Husband! When people do it,
I just ask them not to, or let them know
that I don't like it!!!!!
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dmarit
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Posted: 06-04-07 14:15pm
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Thanks ladies!! I think I'm going to try
the evil look!! My inlaws keep catching me
off guard so it's happening before I can
even say anything. I also thought about
reaching out & just touching theirs
right back... What can they really say
after they just touched mine, right?
heehee
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kaerbear
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Posted: 06-04-07 14:21pm
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Try turning away from them or just putting
your hands in front of your belly to show
that you aren't comfortable being touched.
I know what you're saying though. People
just do it as a reflex or something and by
the time you react it's already done. I
find it annoying too even though it's
totally obvious that I'm really pregnant
now. I think I must give off those vibes
though because I don't get it as much as I
thought I would.
You know what the worst thing is though??
Having people ask you how far along you
are and rubbing your tummy when you aren't
even pregnant. That is the worst ever!
It's
happened to me more than once and I could
have killed them. Turns out I had a big
cyst that made me look a little preggo
before I got pregnant and it's gone now,
so maybe I won't have that problem anymore
once I have my baby. Oy. 
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kaerbear
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Posted: 06-04-07 14:22pm
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| dmarit
wrote: | | Thanks ladies!! I think I'm
going to try the evil look!! My inlaws
keep catching me off guard so it's
happening before I can even say anything.
I also thought about reaching out &
just touching theirs right back... What
can they really say after they just
touched mine, right?
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That's too funny. I've done that a couple
times, once to a guy and the look on his
face was priceless 'cause he has a beer
belly.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-04-07 14:56pm
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ahhh i remember that. When you just feel
fat and bloated and people rub your belly
but it feels like they are just rubbing
your chub lol. Id just play up the i feel
like im going to puke thing.. lol
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 06-04-07 15:10pm
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i got off good, no one touched my belly
when i was pregnant with my son, well one
person did the day before i was due, we
wer ein mcdonalds but she asked and i was
just like um ok , it was weird, here at
church when iwas pregnant with jordynne
they would touch my belly before they
shook my hand, i guess it didnt bother me
quite as much or im just to shy to say not
to touch me
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dmarit
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Posted: 06-04-07 17:06pm
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Yeah, I'm shy too... I've never liked
confrontation, so I have a hard time even
asking nicely for ppl to not touch me. My
hubby just suggested I should get one of
those maternity shirts that say "DO NOT
TOUCH ME"... but I don't guess I could get
away with wearing it everyday. I'm just
looking fwd to the firmer belly, then I
won't mind as much... hopefully!
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-04-07 18:12pm
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it got easier for me once i actually had a
preggo belly. In my opinion the first
trimester was the worst! I just felt fat
and uncomfortable. At least when its firm
you dont feel like people are poking your
fat.
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Proudmommy13601
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Posted: 06-05-07 08:06am
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When i was pregnant with my daughter i was
visiting someone in the hospital and the
nurse reached over and put her hand on my
belly, so i reached over and put my hand
on hers, then asked her how she liked, it
she was in shock and it was funny, i bet
she wont touch another belly with out
asking she was really embarrassed and
apologized and everything.
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Assena
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Posted: 06-06-07 16:31pm
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i am still realy early only 6 weeks and I
am not sure how I would feel about anyone
poking my pudge right now. I just feel fat
and bloated. I will have to keep the
rubbing others bellies in return in mind.
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leslie_m
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Posted: 06-06-07 20:28pm
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yeah  im not too
comfortable about the belly touchers
ither. but my bf(the daddy) is worst then
i am!! he gets very defensive. he dont
like it when strangers touch my belly. or
my family. and hes not even here! he will
be back in september...but its sad cuz im
due in dec. and i want to share everything
with him not my family. i dont even what
to THINK about belly touchers in shool!!
yeah ill be a junior in highschool next
yr. ill have the baby at the end of my
fist samester.o yeah only 16. very worried
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
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Posted: 06-06-07 22:31pm
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hey leslie why is he gonna be gone that
long???how old is he???
for the original post try asking do you
see me putting my hand on your azz? no! so
dont touch my belly!
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leslie_m
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Posted: 06-07-07 07:52am
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hes 17. he'll be 18 in september. so when
he comes down we can get our own place.
hes staying up there to save up anough
money to get aplace down here.
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