babyAndy
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Annoucing Pregnancy
Posted: 06-04-07 20:01pm
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Hi there,
Just wondering when it is appropriate to
let people know of the pregnancy??? I have
heard 3 mths is ok to announce but I am
finding it so hard to tell friends when we
go for coffee and stuff. Is that bad? And
we have definately told family. What has
everyone else done?
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 06-04-07 20:12pm
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My immediate family know right now because
I want them praying for me due to my loss
in March. I haven't decided when I am
going to break the news to everyone else.
I don't know that I can hold out two more
months to tell everyone. I will at least
wait until my first ultrasound.
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babyAndy
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Posted: 06-04-07 22:03pm
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Is it bad to tell people before 3 months,
I feel guilty like I shouldnt have told
the few friends I did...but I am so
excited.
I am sorry to hear of your loss, I cant
imagine what that must be like. Congrats
on being preggers again, how far along are
you?
I am just under 5 weeks.
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 06-04-07 22:05pm
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I will be four weeks Wednesday, so I found
out early early. I don't think it's bad to
tell people before 13 weeks. A lot of
people just don't because they are afraid
of a miscarriage and then having to go
back and tell everyone that they
miscarried. I really don't think I can
hold it in that long though.
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mamaTT
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Posted: 06-05-07 10:30am
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We found out when I was 4.5 weeks along.
We were both so excited, that we couldn't
keep it to ourselves. So, within a few
hours, I think everybody we knew got a
phone call from us!!!  We
found out about a week before .Christmas,
so it was a wonderful gift; especially for
my father in law, who had been our case to
give him another grandchild ever since my
husband and I first started dating!
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number game
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Posted: 06-05-07 10:44am
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we found out we were pregnant when I was 4
weeks and 3 days! I was so excited!! I
don't think anyone who knows me dosen't
know!!! who cares when the right time is.
I think that if they are true friends then
you should want them to share this
experience with you from day one!!!!!
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babyAndy
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Posted: 06-05-07 11:10am
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aww my gosh thanks so much rachel...I feel
so bad for telling the few friends I did.
Nice to hear that somone else is so
excited they cant keep it a secret too. Oh
my
Congratulations by the way!!!
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number game
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Posted: 06-05-07 11:14am
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congrat's to you to!!! I don't know how
anyone could hold it in for three months.
That to me is like money burning a hole in
your pocket!!!!!!!! hehehehe
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-05-07 11:19am
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| ~~rachel~~
wrote: | | I don't know how anyone
could hold it in for three months.
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I waited.
I miscarried my first at 13 weeks and it
was extremely difficult having to tell
everyone we'd lost the baby. then imagine
that the news didn't reach everyone and
weeks later someone asks about the
pregnancy and just reopens old wounds.
I was very cautious the second time
around.
I'm not trying to be a downer, that was
just my experience.
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babyAndy
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Posted: 06-05-07 11:23am
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iM sorry to hear about your bad
experience. and of course that is the
reason why they say not to tell before 3
months.
What do you do when someone asks are you
pregnant, you just lie, coz om not a good
liar.
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-05-07 11:27am
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well if someone had asked, i would've told
them the truth but asked them to keep it
to themselves because i wasn't ready to
share the news.
but why would someone ask if you're
pregnant? lol, if someone asked if i was
pregnant out of nowhere i think my real
response would be, "are you calling me
fat?"
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babyAndy
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Posted: 06-05-07 12:30pm
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haha true huh...lots of our friends know
how badly we want to have kids so they
always ask if im pregnant yet. Ijust say
maybe or if its a close friend I will tell
them and ask them not to share anything.
But its getting harder and harder.
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Abbysmom
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Posted: 06-05-07 14:41pm
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We told everyone right away with my first
pregnancy and it ended in miscarriage at
12 weeks. News spread fast enough that
once we told a few people everyone that we
had told about the pregnancy knew about
the miscarriage so we didn't have to worry
about telling everyone. I was thankful
that I had such great support from those
who knew what happened. I don't think I
could have gotten through it on my own. I
swore with the second pregnancy that we
were not going to tell anyone until 13
weeks. Well, I think I made it an hour
before I started telling everyone. With
this pregnancy, my DH made me wait two
days until it was confirmed by the doctor
and then we started telling everyone.
Those two days were incredibly difficult
for me. I have a very big mouth!
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 06-05-07 14:57pm
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With my 1st pregnancy, I told people as
soon as the positive came up on the test!
lol.
I did the same with this one.
Of course, I thought about it. But I pray,
daily, that things turn out ok with this
baby.
The thought of having to inform people of
a miscarriage is heart wrenching! Those of
you whom have gone through that, I
sympathize. YOu are incredibly strong
women.
Sarah
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-05-07 15:03pm
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| babymajic0506
wrote: | With my 1st pregnancy, I
told people as soon as the positive came
up on the test! lol.
I did the same with this one.
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with my next one i'm going to tell you
guys about it the second i know. i'll
probably wait with everyone else though.
it won't be so hard keeping it a secret
with the people i know in person if i can
talk about it all i want here.
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babyAndy
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Posted: 06-05-07 17:18pm
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Abbysmom I am so withyou, i have a very
big mouth. SO I dunno I have been on a bit
of a sick leave at work, but when I return
I am sure everyone will be askign why i
was off and if I am pregnant yet. I do
work in the healthcare field so the staff
is understanding.
And I DO pray daily that everything will
be ok!!! And my thoughts are with all of
you guys too!
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Posted: 06-05-07 22:38pm
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I asked a co-worker if she was pregnant. I
had just transfered into the division a
few weeks prior. I'm ttc so I know all the
tell-tail signs of a fellow ttc and early
pregnancy signs/changes in habit. It was
priceless. I waited until no one was
around of coarse. Then I asked her how far
along she was. She gave me a total deer in
the headlights look. Then she asked how I
knew. I told her A.) were taking the same
prenatals, so I knew you either were or
were ttc. B.) You stopped drinking coffee.
C.) You cried at (I can't remember maybe
american idol?) D.) You had a dr appt
earlier this week and you already have one
scheduled for this time next month. She
was shocked. (there were alot of other
signs, but they were all circumstancial.)
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babyAndy
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Posted: 06-05-07 23:41pm
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oh wow...did she tell you??? or did she
try to do the 'no im not pregnant until 12
weeks routine'. I really dont know what to
do when I get drilled at work. hehe
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Posted: 06-06-07 09:02am
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She couldn't really deny it to me. She was
only 8 weeks at the time. She didn't tell
me not to say anything, but, it goes
without saying. It wasn't my place to say
anything. She didn't tell our boss until
13 weeks though. No need in worrying
everyone and getting passed up for a
promotion (we were both up for it) until
she needed to.
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