So me and my boyfriend have not been
together that long but sex is a big part
of our relationship, we both love it.
Well recently he brought up the fact that
he has really wanted to have anal sex, but
early on in our relationship I said I was
not to keen on it. Well he brought it up
and how much he would like to and I agreed
to it. I was wondering if I should have
or not. I like to try things new and I am
sort of a masochist so it should not
bother me. I thought its healthy to try
new things in a relationship but is this
too far?
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 06-06-07 16:08pm
It's up to you. Whether or not it is "too
far" is an opinion. Some women love it,
some hate it. Some women don't like it,
but are glad that they tried it, while
others aren't willing to try it at all.
Only you can decide if it is something
that you really want to try or not. If
not, don't be afraid to back out of it.
You should never feel forced or pressured
when it comes to anything sexual. If you
do decide you want to do it, make sure you
are relaxed and have a lot of lubrication.
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Fairy*Godmother
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Joined: 11 Oct 2003 Posts: 1387 Location: , Georgia USA
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Hi Posted: 06-06-07 16:12pm
Boy Howdy, are you gonna get an earfull on
this one! For me, I loved experimenting
with my husband. But, in the long
run....my ass says EXIT ONLY.......There
are lots of folks who enjoy this and my
husband would be in that category. But for
medical reasons and reasons of my own.....
I prefer vaginal sex. How can it be sexy
or romantic knowing you are sticking your
penis where excreta comes out? E-Coli
Heaven.......but heh- to each his
own.....not trying to be
judgemental....just stating my opinion!
Goin down the
Hershey Highway..............
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flipper
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Joined: 07 Mar 2006 Posts: 133 Location: Texas
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Posted: 06-06-07 23:54pm
I'm another that likes to experiment with
the hubby, and I've had anal sex a few
times over the last several years. I'm
sort of "meh" about it really, in that I
don't mind it, but I'm not over the moon
about it.
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fiona05
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Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 663 Location: , Norn Iron
Posted: 06-07-07 17:13pm
just because you said yes once, does not
mean you can't take it back if you think
you have changed your mind! it is your
body, your choice. if you are keen on
trying it, then maybe you can start off
slowly, get some lube and let him try
fingering you so you can get a feel for
what it's like, and whether or not you
think you'd be up for anal penetration.
if you really decide it is not for you,
then make sure he knows this is the bottom
line. don't let him pester you into doing
something you are not comfortable doing.
take everything at your own pace! good
luck.
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poppypot
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jun 2007 Posts: 36 Location: UK
Posted: 06-09-07 02:11am
You could try putting your own fingers
their first and ask your b/f to pay some
gentle attention too. I have found my anus
being touched can make me want anal sex.
Remind each other its your choice and then
have fun being convinsed If you find it
boring because your clit isnt stimulated
do it in the missonary position, you need
to bend your knees up. My ex could allways
tell if I dindnt like something, I think
it is very important your sex partner
wants you to feel comfortable (if thats
what you want) and better still enjoy sex.
Also you might get to know each others
insides a bit better if you explore this
way, Ive had to change the sheets after
anal sex before!
Does he fancy being penetrated? There is a
G spot up there he might like
Goin down the
Hershey Highway..............
If you find it
boring because your clit isnt stimulated
do it in the missonary position, you need
to bend your knees up. My ex could allways
tell if I dindnt like something, I think
it is very important your sex partner
wants you to feel comfortable (if thats
what you want) and better still enjoy sex.
