Any Input Will Help...thanks Posted: 06-07-07 14:05pm
Hello, I didn't know where exactly to
place this question so I hope I get some
sort of advice. I am currently 10 weeks
pregnant with my 3rd child. I currently
live in Louisiana and the ather lives in
Michigan. We are friends and nothing more,
nothing less. The thing is with the
distance he thinks its better to get an
abortion because he cannot be there with
me for the child. I have been to the
abortion clinic twice and both times I
could not go through with the procedure. I
do agree with the situation and why he
chooses abortion though. I have considered
adoption but he has recently been
diagnosed with inflamed testicles(or
something of that nature) and the doctor
has stated that it has affected his sperm.
He explained the situation to the doctor
and was told that if he was to have a baby
that because of this previous condition
the baby in turn could be born unhealthy.
Now I am stuck yet again as to what to do.
I know a lot of people do not agree with
abortion but given our situation I do not
know what to do. After the second time at
the clinic I am really contimplating on
going through with this pregnancy but I
would not know how to even begin tell him.
All of this could have been easily
prevented but whats done is done and I
have all these decisions and I want to
make the right one. If I do decide to go
ahead with this pregnancy how would I tell
him? He is so sruck on having this
abortion and is in belief that I did go
through with it today. I havent really
spoken to him since I went to the clinic
this morning because I don't know how to
tell him that i did not go through with
the procedure yet again. i am really stuck
between a rock and a hard place. Any input
or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank You.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 7892 Location: *UPTOWN*NEW ORLEANS*, La
Posted: 06-07-07 14:28pm
Hey. This isn't as tough as a sitation as
you'd think. Keep this baby.
It sounds to me like he's lying to you
about what the Dr. said, in order to get
you to go through with the abortion.
This child deserves life. And while it
also deserves a father, you can get his
participation through the courts.
If you don't mind me asking, how old are
yall?
I live in .new .orleans with my husband
and daughter!
Sarah
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2boysOFmine
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Joined: 07 Jun 2007 Posts: 2
Posted: 06-07-07 14:36pm
I live in New Orleans also. Im 22 and he
is 26. I do want to keep this baby and I
am financially stable enough to handle it
with or without his help. The thing is how
do I tell him...I know its wong to keep it
from him but thats my only option right
now.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 06-07-07 15:18pm
You don't have to keep anything from him,
and you don't have to apologize for
keeping this baby. If he wasn't prepared
to be a father, he should have thought
about that before he got you pregnant.
It's his responsibility to step up and
take care of this child.
I'm not sure if you've been to a doctor
yet, but you should get prenatal care.
Your doctor might also request an
ultrasound for fetal anomalies, just to
play it safe.
It's not his decision to make you have an
abortion, or to make you have this baby.
It's entirely up to you. Don't apologize
to him for not aborting. You're not a bad
person and you did not make a mistake.
Just be up front and honest about
everything, and if he has a problem it's
his
problem. He'll have 30 weeks to get over
it.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 06-07-07 15:19pm
Honestly, He can't make you get an
abortion if you don't want to. If you want
to keep this child, tell him just that.
That you have decided to continue the
pregnancy. He is welcome to be involved in
his childs life if he would like to. If
not, you are fully cabable of raising this
child without him. There isn't much he can
say back to that. He may react badly, but
chances are he will come around
eventually.
