So Stressed, Over My Boyfriends Munipulative Behaviour Posted: 06-07-07 18:15pm
Im a 15 year old girl with an average ok
life.. But ever since I met my boyfriend
of 6 months ive been going through
constant worry, hate and sadness. He
spoils me and treats me like a princess,
but when he's feeling down or upset he
lashes out at me in verbal ways. Ive found
that he has very munipulative behaviour,
and power over me that I just cant fight.
I remember when he wanted more attention,
claimed he was high maitnence and he
wanted to go on a break to make me figure
out what I wanted, even though the whole
time I knew I wasnt going to let him go. I
told him i'd pay more attention, id give
him endless care and love and I did. But
as I started leaving my friends behind and
letting my grades slip without him
knowing, he slowly became busier. Two
friday's ago we went on a break, he went
to parties all weekend, telling me he
wouldnt do anything stupid and he didnt.
But, he left me at home, alone ..My
friends dont really talk to me anymore.. I
didnt bring any homework home, I cleaned
my room, watched movies and.. Ate. He'll
ignore me when he's busy, he'll tell me to
!@#^ off if he's in the middle of
something, but its clearly obvious to
everyone that im use to it. Should I be
use to this behaviour? I love him, and
everytime it gets bad, I know it'll get
better because it always did. So when I
sit at home, thinking about where he is,
and if he's thinking about me I think
it'll just get better. We'll have sex
again, and he'll relize how much he misses
me. What do I do? Everyone tells me I need
to forget about him and leave, but I cant
im hooked I love him and I cant bare to
think about not being with him. Ive tried
talking to him about it, but he says that
if I feel that way then I cant be with him
because he doesnt want to cause me pain or
greif, and he wants me to be happy. What
he doesnt understand is that I am happy,
its just im happy when he's happy.
Please help!!!!!!
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ab07
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jun 2007 Posts: 6
Posted: 06-08-07 16:10pm
Honey you are waaaaay too young to be so
involved! Is this your first serious
relationship? Be very careful about not
having a safety net if you do end up
deciding this guy isn't right for you
(meaning friends and family). And no one-
let me repeat that- NO ONE has the right
to talk to you like that. Especially if
they claim to love you. And sex is not the
only indication of love and commitment.
It's just sex if you feel lacking/unhappy
in most other areas of your relationship.
And if a guy REALLY misses you, he would
make EVERY attempt to be there, so there
wouldn't be very much room for you guys to
miss each other. Especially in the very
beginning of the relationship! Hope this
helps.
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dynamicdebz
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Apr 2007 Posts: 41 Location: Sheffield, UK
Posted: 06-08-07 16:29pm
You are too young to be so involved. Not
sure about Toronto but over here in UK he
would be in trouble with police for having
sex with a girl under 16, whether he is
under 16 or not.
You need to get back with your friends
& go out & have fun. He sounds
like a nasty oiece of work who will
probably progress to all sorts of abuse
the older the 2 of you get.
No-one can tell you to dump him but that
is the best option. If you can't do that
please go & have as much fun as
possible when you're not together.
You need to retrain your mind & think
positive because he is manipulating you
into needing only him & to have you at
his beckon call.
Have fun & let us know how you go on.
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Willa Weintraub
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2007 Posts: 3399 Location: The Beach!
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Posted: 06-09-07 15:25pm
hun,he's ot good for you.let him go.He
wants you when it's convenient for him but
makes you feel bad for it.Your so young
and have so much time to find someone to
love you the way *you* want and
deserve.don't let yourself slip away and
change to his liking.If your ot happy when
he's not happy,when will you be happy if
he's angry all the time or mistreats you?
If you get away and have time to think,you
will see that maybe he's not what you
want. . .
