Me and my hubby only have 4 sets of pics
together. Does this mean we are doomed?
Why won't he take pics with me. Our
first one was taken when we were together
about a mo, when my cuz snuck a shot.
Our 2nd was taken when we were together
about 2 mo at the mall when he suggested
we get it taken in one of the booths.
The third was the set of wedding pics (we
had been together about a yr). And the
fourth is a family photo that was taken as
a christmas gift for his mother.
However, it is not just a fam pic of us,
it also includes pics of his brother, his
son's mom, and his son (at this time we
had been together for about 2 yrs and 5
mo). Why won't he get pictures taken
with me? Is there something wrong?
Am I not good enough for him?
Btw, we've been together for 5 1/2
yrs...Married for 4 1/2.
Jennifer
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TX_momy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2004 Posts: 120 Location: TX
You Worrie Tooo Much ... Posted: 03-22-04 03:37am
Did you ever ask you hubby to take some
pictures with you ? If he say no ask hem.
Why ?
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kat6963420
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Apr 2004 Posts: 38 Location: ohio
I Know How You Feel Posted: 04-01-04 13:15pm
My husband doesn't do pictures wither.
We have a couple together and those were
without him knowing it. Hes done maybe 2
or three willing. The reason why he
doesn't like pictures is becaues of his
childhood. He had a pretty bad
upbringing and all of it was caught in
pictures. So he destroyed all of his
childhood pictures that he found and
usually refuses to take any now, with the
exception of one here or there with our
kids. Does he tell you why he wont take
pictures with you?
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Heather2000
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Mar 2005 Posts: 5 Location: U.S.A.
Interesting Posted: 03-29-05 02:49am
My first question after reading this
was...."huh, why was the mother of his
child included in a family picture after
he'd been with you for 2 years?"
there are many reasons behind people not
wanting their picture taken..Poor self
image at present, unhappy childhood as was
previously mentioned but the fact that it
was his idea to have the pictures taken in
the photo booth tells me that none of
these apply. It doesn't have to be a
serious problem you know...It could just
simply be...One of those
things...However...Pictures...Together...R
epresent solidity and permanence. Like
with the other woman's husband. His
childhood was miserable and caught on
film. It's my suspicion that by tearing
up the pictures...He was somehow erasing
some of his childhood from existence. It
was an act of finality...The pictures were
destroyed=no unhappy childhood. The
memories captured in those pictures could
never be brought back or relived once they
were destroyed. Now, is your hunny
reluctant to have pictures taken with you
as in...The opportunity comes and ha makes
excuses? Or is it just something you guys
never quite get around to but you're
letting your imagination get the best of
you. Somewhere...I think the issue of the
other woman should be broached. That's
unusual...That he would include her in a
family portrait with you....This doesn't
sound quite right and the next question I
would ask is...How many pictures are there
of them in comparison to how many there
are of the two of you. The answer to that
question could really shed some light on
your dilemma.
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mellymel78
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Mar 2005 Posts: 44 Location: SLC UT
Posted: 03-29-05 03:22am
I was just thinking the same thing heather
just asked!!! How odd to have his ex in
your family photo...Maybe i'm old
fashioned or whatever...But there is no
way I would tolerate that.
My ex boyfriend was always doing crap like
that with his ex...Going to breakfast,
wanting to include her in "family" things,
because they had kids together...We broke
up and I discovered he still wants
her...He is so excited her new marriage is
failing
i'm not saying thats the case with you at
all, I just think its very very strange.
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 03-29-05 07:50am
Heather could very well have hit on the
reason perfectly.
Personally, I am totally in love with my
wife and we dont have many pics either. I
hate getting pictures done. I feel like I
look like a goon with a fake smile on all
the time.
Thankfully she doesnt take it persnally
because I just really dont get into
looking at pictures and I hate taking
them. This has no bearing on my feelings
for my spouse though!
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angel_eyes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Apr 2005 Posts: 13
Posted: 04-06-05 10:35am
I was with my bf for 5 yrs.. And we only
took pics 3 times.. He jus wasnt fond of
smilin infront of a camera n believed that
memories r in the mind n heart not
pictures...
Jennifer 
